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He's not entirely over his ex? - December 14th 2016, 12:36 AM

I don't mean that he's crying 24/7 or always bringing her up. I've been talking to this guy for a while now and we sorta have a thing. However, recently for the first time he opened up to me about his ex. He said that sometimes he thinks he still misses her and hopes or hoped that she would reach out to him again. He wouldn't tell me the details behind their breakup but said that she had asked him to give her 6 months or something like that (which was how long ago they broke up). We're not serious obviously, and I'm actually glad he opened up. But the truth kinda stung. However I still like him, what should I do? should I just stay as his friend, make a run for it, or go with the flow?
   
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Re: He's not entirely over his ex? - December 14th 2016, 02:41 AM

It can be hard to hear that someone you like still has feelings for a previous partner. Sometimes it makes people feel like they aren't good enough, that they can't measure up, that that person is likely to leave them or cheat, etc. The truth, though, is that relationships don't always have clean breaks. Sometimes a person can be left with feelings for an ex for months or even years after they part ways. This is in no way a reflection on you or your worth or value as a person, nor does it determine the extent of their affection for you. People can form new connections while still feel nostalgic about old ones.

I would suggest you go with the flow. It's a really good sign that he opened up to you about his ex; it means he trusts you, and trust is the foundation for any good relationship, not matter what that relationship looks like. If it's more comfortable for you you can try and take things slow for a while until you feel more sure that his feelings for his ex aren't going to be a problem, but I see no reason to run for the hills because of this.

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