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picking up girls. my observation. - May 28th 2009, 02:36 PM

i just noticed this i dont know how well this works. but it has worked for me in the past.
just act sad or down or be sad or down around girls.
for some odd reason the girls around me just loved me. and some of my girl co-workers just started to start hugging me and asking me out. at random times.

this is just what has happpened to me.
ladies you can tell me if i am wrong or not.
guys try it out if you havent. and if you have did it work for you?


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Re: picking up girls. my observation. - May 28th 2009, 05:15 PM

Hey...

It makes sense about what you are saying. Girls seems to like it when a guy is vulnerable because they can kind of let their motherly, feminine instincts out.

It's also a great way to get hugs without needing to find an alternative reason!

But I wouldn't suggest doing it in order to try and pick a girl up - I know if you did it to me I wouldn't be particularly happy - but if your nice enough I may forgive you....just consider how it may look to the girl if she feels she has been lied too

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Re: picking up girls. my observation. - May 28th 2009, 05:28 PM

I don't know, that seems like its boarding on the line of being manipulative, you know? I mean, if you're actually sad or down and can show that in front of girls than more power to you because that's damn hard for me to show any vulnerability, especially in front of girls.


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Re: picking up girls. my observation. - May 28th 2009, 05:36 PM

em thats not bordering manipulation..that is manipulation.

If they knew thats why you were acting sad do you think they wouldnt mind??

oh my god like, this is why girls have trouble trusting guys.


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Re: picking up girls. my observation. - May 28th 2009, 08:26 PM

Hey,

If you really are genuinely sad then by all means actually show it because girls do like a guy who shows their feelings instead of being all 'I am man I show no emotion'. Sensitivity is a good quality to have as a guy because girls like someone they can mother and take care of for most girls it comes as a second nature.

I personally think it's wrong to pretend to be upset in front of girls just for attention. That is lying to them and when they find out they won't appreciate it.
If you want to wow a girl then be yourself!
Being yourself is just the best thing you can do.
At least you know when someone does like you they like you for you and not the person you're pretending to be.
Trust me when a girl sees your true colours you'll be out the door quicker than you can say I'm sorry and you would have blown what could have potentially been a good relationships.
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Re: picking up girls. my observation. - May 28th 2009, 09:14 PM

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If you really are genuinely sad then by all means actually show it because girls do like a guy who shows their feelings instead of being all 'I am man I show no emotion'. Sensitivity is a good quality to have as a guy because girls like someone they can mother and take care of for most girls it comes as a second nature.

I personally think it's wrong to pretend to be upset in front of girls just for attention. That is lying to them and when they find out they won't appreciate it.
If you want to wow a girl then be yourself!
Being yourself is just the best thing you can do.
At least you know when someone does like you they like you for you and not the person you're pretending to be.
Trust me when a girl sees your true colours you'll be out the door quicker than you can say I'm sorry and you would have blown what could have potentially been a good relationships.
Guys... be honest.
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Re: picking up girls. my observation. - May 28th 2009, 09:33 PM

I won't go near a guy if they look sad or upset, because when I'm out having fun, I want to be around people who are happy and having fun too. What you are doing is manipulating girls, and that's not cool. As wanderlust said, that's why girls have trouble trusting guys.


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Re: picking up girls. my observation. - May 28th 2009, 09:52 PM

It does make sense, cos it could make girls wanna see if you're OK etc. but it could make some girls not want to approach you. Being happy shows confidence, which a LOT of girls like.
I have a friend who picks up girls simply by walking up to girls he finds attractive and saying "I just wanted to tell you I think you're beautiful, I hope you know that." It gets him SOO many numbers ...


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Re: picking up girls. my observation. - May 28th 2009, 10:25 PM

That's manipulative. It's not love at all and you won't get out of it a great relationship.
   
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Re: picking up girls. my observation. - May 28th 2009, 10:36 PM

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That's manipulative. It's not love at all and you won't get out of it a great relationship.
very true, but judging by his methods i dont think its a relationship he's looking for.


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Re: picking up girls. my observation. - May 28th 2009, 10:58 PM

I have not tried it out with the intention of getting a girl. I do notice that females will help out if they see someone down more than males. It's happened to me, but not to the point where I've been asked out though I have gotten a few hugs, wihhc showed that people do care.

I would say that this is very manipulative to act this way. You don't need to act to get people to like you. You're potentially setting yourself for a big downfall because you have to constantly watch how you act instead of being yourself.

If girls knew these intentions, they wouldn't appreciate the actions. I don't see it good at all to put on an act.
   
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Re: picking up girls. my observation. - May 28th 2009, 11:10 PM

If that's what you do to pick up girls, you really need to rethink your ways.


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Re: picking up girls. my observation. - May 29th 2009, 01:35 AM

If your only goal is to pick up girls and have your fun without caring much about them as a person, then yep, that is the way to do it. But if you want something lasting, you might try being a bit more honest.

Personally, I never know what to say to guys who are sad or what to do with them. So this method of picking up women probably wouldn't work with me, as I'd be more likely to steer clear of a guy who looked down.


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Re: picking up girls. my observation. - May 29th 2009, 02:17 AM

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Re: picking up girls. my observation. - May 29th 2009, 03:54 AM

I've tried it a lot and that doesn't work. They may be more sympathetic and try asking what's wrong and stuff, but not many girls wants a guy who mopes around. Now on the otherhand, if you approached it as a 'mysterious somewhat unopen' feel to it, it may make the girl curious.


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Re: picking up girls. my observation. - May 29th 2009, 03:57 AM

I look miserable pretty much all the time and I just get blanked, so this is by no means a universal winner. Maybe you're just naturally attractive or something? I mean, a cute guy will get offers whether he looks sad or not.
   
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Re: picking up girls. my observation. - May 29th 2009, 04:00 AM

it is somewhat wrong to do that. but do what you want to do. just dont hurt the person
   
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Re: picking up girls. my observation. - May 29th 2009, 04:04 AM

i am going to say this. i have only acted sad once to see if it does work. but i am always sad so maybe that is why it works for me. and they know i am down and not acting.


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Re: picking up girls. my observation. - May 29th 2009, 04:07 AM

It may be manipulative, but it's no different than walking up to a girl and saying "I think your beautiful." They're both ways to pick up chicks. Both are manipulative.

His technique may be different, but don't criticize him for it because he doesn't manipulate women the same way most other guys do.

There needs to be SOME manipulation when it comes to flirting and hitting on people. You can't go overboard though.

If you are genuinely sad, then maybe it works for you. Good job.
   
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Re: picking up girls. my observation. - May 29th 2009, 04:59 AM

ick haha wouldn't work on me. I wouldn't have thought it really would at all..i mean, don't people like hanging out with people who make them laugh and have fun? I'd kinda think the guy was boring and a bit weird.
Guess it depends..if I already knew him and he was a friend and one day he was down, i'd ask him what was up..but i'd only ask him out if i'd liked him previously before that day, and him opening up to me made me assume he liked me back..
   
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Re: picking up girls. my observation. - May 29th 2009, 06:38 AM

Well I would approach anyone who looks sad, male or female, just to try and cheer them up. To get an actual date you'd have to offer more than that though.


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Re: picking up girls. my observation. - May 29th 2009, 08:45 AM

It works...But its a cheap trick, and people will start to wonder why you are so depressed all the time but strangely perk up when girls talk to you.
Ask a girl yourself.
   
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Re: picking up girls. my observation. - May 29th 2009, 03:42 PM

Why not try a little thing called "sweet-talking"?
   
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Re: picking up girls. my observation. - May 29th 2009, 04:17 PM

I've seen it work a lot with emo guys acting sad/depressed and they get all kinds of girls going up to them and wanting to date them and I'm like "What the f*ck?". Me on the other hand I'm always happy and that seems to be not working as much for me haha... Well it does attract older women, so I got that going for me.

It's making me think about dying my hair black(which it already is), growing it emo style, wear black clothes all the time(I sometimes wear black shirts but never black pants) and wear black sneakers(but I prefer to wear black boots ). I know for a fact that should I decide to do this, that I would get a lot more dates, but it would be SO fake..

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Re: picking up girls. my observation. - May 29th 2009, 04:43 PM

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i just noticed this i dont know how well this works. but it has worked for me in the past.
just act sad or down or be sad or down around girls.
for some odd reason the girls around me just loved me. and some of my girl co-workers just started to start hugging me and asking me out. at random times.

this is just what has happpened to me.
ladies you can tell me if i am wrong or not.
guys try it out if you havent. and if you have did it work for you?
Sure this would make you easier to approach if the attraction was there in the first place but you would also risk being pitied or in other cases avoided because you come across like a depressive person... who knows.


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