Biggest relationship/breakup peeves

[EmilyNicole]

Okay...So I was wondering what annoys everyone the most in a relationship, or when someone breaks up with you.

One thing that I find uber annoying is when guys try to act like you're the ONLY attractive woman on the face of the planet. I mean, telling a girl she's beautiful is great. But when guys act like other beautiful women are repulsive...Are you kidding me? Just admit to it. Not all girls are crazy enough to flip out on you for saying the girl at the grocery store checkout is hot. And I can understand getting mad if the guy is being a huge perv, drooling over the poor girl in public...But looking at a girls butt doesn't give another girl the right to go crazy and start throwing his stuff out the window (though not in the literal sense...we don't all have apartments). Though I'm sure many girls disagree with me....I guess I'm just not much of the jealous type.
So anywho, What is it the REALLY bothers you?

[Gaia]

I agree and disagree with you there Emily, when I'm in a relationship, I'm just not attracted to other people, and I know my partner is the same, though we can say if someone looks pretty/handsome, there is a difference between attraction, and pointing out beauty.

I can't even think of something that really bugs me, sure there are little things, like I like to be in control in certain situations, and hate it when I'm not. I hate the way he teases me! It's all in good fun, but he told me my tattoo had been done wrong... I was almost full blown hysterical tears

[EmilyNicole]

I don't mean attraction. I mean looking at someone and thinking, Wow...She's cute. I wouldn't be upset about that...and I can't understand why a guy would try and overdo things...It just that I've been with guys who cheat, Who try to make themselves seem better by saying these great things to me. It gets on my nerves really bad. Compliments are one thing, But when it feels like you're trying make up for something...ugh
lol maybe I'm just not like most girls.

[Algernon]

Originally Posted by EmilyNicole

Okay...So I was wondering what annoys everyone the most in a relationship, or when someone breaks up with you.

One thing that I find uber annoying is when guys try to act like you're the ONLY attractive woman on the face of the planet. I mean, telling a girl she's beautiful is great. But when guys act like other beautiful women are repulsive...Are you kidding me? Just admit to it. Not all girls are crazy enough to flip out on you for saying the girl at the grocery store checkout is hot. And I can understand getting mad if the guy is being a huge perv, drooling over the poor girl in public...But looking at a girls butt doesn't give another girl the right to go crazy and start throwing his stuff out the window (though not in the literal sense...we don't all have apartments). Though I'm sure many girls disagree with me....I guess I'm just not much of the jealous type.
So anywho, What is it the REALLY bothers you?

Same here. Because most of the time, you know that you're not the most beautiful. My boyfriend works at a pizzeria, and he gets hit on all the time. He'll tell me and I'll ask him if she was good looking. "Oh bebe, I'm not going to lie, she was hot, but I love you baby." I love it. He's so honest, but he's all for me. It's an attractive quality that I find in him.

I was extremely jealous, but I learned that It was one of the worst downfalls I possess. I still get jealous, but not as much as I used to... I hope. It's a hard thing to train, and It takes time. You just have to not care as much.

[lvpeyton]

Originally Posted by ghostlyheartbeat

I agree and disagree with you there Emily, when I'm in a relationship, I'm just not attracted to other people, and I know my partner is the same, though we can say if someone looks pretty/handsome, there is a difference between attraction, and pointing out beauty.

i agree! even though people may think it is a load of crap, i am simply not attracted to other people while in a relationship and neither was my ex. it was just like a complete obsession with each other. i could definately say when a guy was good looking and he could say if a girl was pretty- but it was never about "she was hot!" we just felt like that about each other and that is how it is.

but what bugs me about relationships? when people don't make time for anything else BUT that person! i mean, sure, if you want to hang out everyday- that's cool. but you can't grab lunch or have a girls night once in a while? i have lost so many friends because as soon as they get a boyfriend it is just like i am not even in the picture anymore- well, until he does something wrong and they call crying.

and another thing that pisses me off is when the guy or girl your with doesn't try to watch or do anything you like to watch or do. when you always have to give up what you love to do what they love. that is sooo annoying!

[Elf]

The last guy I dated would text me asking me about something, and then send another text that was something along the lines of, "Is it okay that I asked you that over text?" or "Am I texting you too much?"

It made me want to punch him in the face. alas, we are no longer together (I didn't break up with him just because of that, but the whole issue exemplified all of my problems with him).

[Phin]

Relationship: When solid plans get broken for any reason. Especially if it's for the other hanging out with friends or something. Hate that.

Break-ups: When you still try to be friends but the latter makes it so hard and awkward and acts mad at you for it.

[Grizabella]

Relationships, when they start saying "I love you" way too early on. Really, when they think they're in love after dating you two weeks, it seems rather clingy/obsessive/scary.

For breaking up, when they can't handle it in a mature manner. I ended a casual relationship with a guy a few days ago, and the next day he emailed me back repeatedly asking and then begging me to keep sleeping with him. After about an hour, when it became clear that I wasn't going to, he got all pissy and started ranting about how I wasn't that good in bed anyways (this after he was begging me to sleep with him ) and he was just doing it out of pity for me. Some of the things he said probably should have been offensive, but honestly, it was the biggest laugh I've had in weeks. Sour grapes are not good. The best part? This 'man' is in his mid 30s.

[Algernon]

Originally Posted by Grizabella

Relationships, when they start saying "I love you" way too early on. Really, when they think they're in love after dating you two weeks, it seems rather clingy/obsessive/scary.

For breaking up, when they can't handle it in a mature manner. I ended a casual relationship with a guy a few days ago, and the next day he emailed me back repeatedly asking and then begging me to keep sleeping with him. After about an hour, when it became clear that I wasn't going to, he got all pissy and started ranting about how I wasn't that good in bed anyways (this after he was begging me to sleep with him ) and he was just doing it out of pity for me. Some of the things he said probably should have been offensive, but honestly, it was the biggest laugh I've had in weeks. Sour grapes are not good. The best part? This 'man' is in his mid 30s.

One thing I do like about you is that you don't take your age lightly, and you're pretty demanding. One thing that It think isn't good is that you're pretty ruthless and emotionless at times But we need more females like this around.

[erika-snowden]

relationship : when they act different (show off) in front of their mates -.-

break up: when they say they still like you in that way... wth why say that!!??

[Grizabella]

Originally Posted by xHolyValorx

One thing I do like about you is that you don't take your age lightly, and you're pretty demanding. One thing that It think isn't good is that you're pretty ruthless and emotionless at times But we need more females like this around.

Er, thanks, I think. lol. At first when we were discussing it I felt bad, because I felt like I was kicking a puppy. He just seemed so sad - although I always made it quite clear we were just having sex, and he always agreed and never asked for more. I was very respectful to him when I broke it off, just tried explaining that I was looking to cut back on the number of casual relationships I'm in. I stayed respectful until he just snapped and started spewing random insults out of nowhere, and at that point, it got kind of hard to pity him.

[Fucking Done]

When you and your girlfriend break up and people just hit on her like crazy like a day later, especially 'friends'.

[EmilyNicole]

One thing I hate about breakups is when the guy does the whole, "You're worth so much more than me! You deserve better!" When you know he's just trying to get out guilt free. It's like he tries to make you break up with HIM, So he doesn't feel bad. That may not be the case for everyone (some people may really mean it) but it was for me. I was just like....Really? Is that necessary? You can't just say you don't like me as much as you thought, and we can get on with this?


Wow...I'm a smartass. :P

[Missy07]

In relationships-- I hate it when the other person is clingy to the point of where it comes off as (borderline) controling.

Breakups- I hate it when the other person tries to carry on with you as if nothing's happened. Especially if they've hurt you. I mean, yea, there's no point in holding onto a grudge towards someone, but I could never just pretend them hurting me didn't happen.

[Spontaneous Smile]

Relationship peeves:
1.) When they guy says that he'll call you back, but he never does.
2.) Only wanting to cuddle and not hang out. (I like cuddling and kissing and stuff, but let's go out and do other thing too!)
3.) Wanting to know what you wrote in the note that you passed to the girl next to you.
4.) Wanting to always know what is being said about them.

Grr, there's like a million more, but I can't think of them all.

Break-up peeves:
1.) Breaking up with you just because you didn't give him sex.
2.) Breaking up with you not only because you wouldn't give him sex but also because he thought you were too 'fragile' for a sexual relationship when you were sexually abused as a kid.
3.) Breaking up with you and then having another girlfriend the next day.
4.) Breaking up over text or through note (unless it can't be helped)
5.) Breaking up with you because he's worried about what other people think about you or him.
6.) Breaking up with you because of your mother.

This was the sh*t I put up with from just one ex boyfriend.

[EmilyNicole]

5.) Breaking up with you because he's worried about what other people think about you or him.

That would truely tick me off.

[TheWhiteTornado]

Relationship: When they're really forward 'in love' when they haven't known you that long; not having an opinion or their own free will (forcing you to make all the decisions); want to hang out with your friends but never join in

Breakup: Immature about it; when they call JUST to let you know that they're hanging out with your friend; overreact and believe that life sucks just because of a breakup.

[Smitten]

Originally Posted by lvpeyton

and another thing that pisses me off is when the guy or girl your with doesn't try to watch or do anything you like to watch or do. when you always have to give up what you love to do what they love. that is sooo annoying!

Agreed!!!!!!!

[MinusHuman]

I don't really know about anything that annoys me in realtionships but with break-ups how people think your just being an idiot using clichés like it's not you it's me.

[Magic.]

Originally Posted by EmilyNicole

One thing that I find uber annoying is when guys try to act like you're the ONLY attractive woman on the face of the planet. I mean, telling a girl she's beautiful is great. But when guys act like other beautiful women are repulsive...Are you kidding me? Just admit to it. Not all girls are crazy enough to flip out on you for saying the girl at the grocery store checkout is hot. And I can understand getting mad if the guy is being a huge perv, drooling over the poor girl in public...But looking at a girls butt doesn't give another girl the right to go crazy and start throwing his stuff out the window (though not in the literal sense...we don't all have apartments). Though I'm sure many girls disagree with me....I guess I'm just not much of the jealous type.
So anywho, What is it the REALLY bothers you?

I AGREE! I'd much rather a guy admit he finds other girls attractive, because then I know that I'm the one he's chosen over all those hot girls

I'm gonna have to say the worst thing is being late. I don't mean like 10 minutes late, I mean like hours late. I had a bf who went to his friend's house on my birthday to see a movie and was then two hours late to my party because 'he thought he had enough time to get back'. That REALLY bugged me.
Break-up wise, my first bf spread loads of rumours about me when we split, even though it was meant to be a mutual split. He did it cos "it made him feel better" NICE.

[xxpaigiexx]

Relationship wise the thing that I cannot stand is when my boyfriend gets all weird about holding hands and being seen by people he knows. At first I felt really enfuriated about it because it just showed me he was ashamed of him being with me. It was just the point of I was with him and because some 'crew' he knew was about he didn't want to hold my hand.

Worst break up excuse or let down excuse is I'm not really looking for a relationship right now... well why the hell did you get involved with me in the first place? If they wanted to just be friends they just have to say instead to texting me 1842348x a day and telling me they want to be with me. Enfuriating stuff.