Regretting My Past

[zombie888]

Ok, this was a while ago, but I never told the whole story to any one person and I think the anonymous story will help me a lot! So, here we go!!!

Back in October in 2008, I started dating someone who I thought was quite nice and pretty attractive. We didn't get to see each other at school too often, so we passed notes every few periods. Now, as soon as we started, I thought it was a bit strange that she dumped her ex and immediately went out with me.

Red Flag #1

No problem, I let it slide. So after 2 weeks, we started saying "I love you." A bit soon, but it wasn't a big deal. We always texted and talked on the phone each night so we could could actually hear other. At the end of our first month of dating, She said I was "the one."

Ummm......

Not much to say other than I felt pressured, so I said I felt the same. Big mistake. We'll come back to this. A couple weeks later, her ex moved to Florida. She broke down crying.

Red Flag #2

Now, I can understand that they were good friends, but I can read people very well, and I could see the flirting. What can I say, they were a better match, but we kept it up. Coming to the 2 month mark, we fooled around and got closer. A week or so later, we had sex. Not the most pleasant experience, but it's over. For a bit over a week, she thought she was pregnant because my penis came out before the condom did. It slid out because I was finished, so she freaked. I knew there was nothing to worry about, but I helped her through it.

Now comes the FUN!

Over the next couple of weeks, we didn't talk as much. Things seemed bitter and awkward. Then she started talking to her ex a lot. A LOT! And when she was around me, she couldn't figure out that it makes your bf feel awkward when you do nothing but talk about your ex.

Red Flag #3

So, it has been 3, and I knew it was nearly over. I expected this for a while, just not the way it happened. She basically said that she talked to her ex a lot, (duh), and they were going to run away with each other and get married. This happens a week before my birthday no less.

3 weeks later, we started becoming friends. She was immediately over the guy she wanted to run away with and had another. Shes built a great reputation for herself. One day, she broke down crying on the phone saying that she regrets breaking up with me. So, she dumps her guy and gets with me. After a week, I realize that it was pointless and I break up with her. Another 3 weeks later, she tries to talk to me. I told her I didn't want to talk to her, so she said bye forever.

Finally.

Oops, guess not. She texts me in the morning and says she cut herself because of her mom. Being the nice guy I am, I ignore my feelings and try to comfort her. Of course, some old feelings came back a bit, and I hugged her a little close. Lack of emotion caused this, and yes, I felt bad.

We part ways and go back to our classes. I get a text that was obviously meant for someone else essentially saying that I wanted her back...yada yada. No. I actually told her I didn't like her and that its because I miss the feeling that I hugged her and tried helping. So I called her on it and she got pissed and we stopped talking.

Good...oh wait...

She says that shes gonna make my life a living hell. She said I can't ruin her life so she'll ruin mine. OK, so, the next day, same text. One more day later, same kind of text. Man she ruined my life...Worst thing she did was call me a "female dog." Ouch.

So I solved the problem. New cell number. Done and over with.

But, now I always have people comment on what a mistake it was and that she is a total slut. Aside from the sex, (couldn't be a slut), she was a social slut. She flirted with everyone and jumped from boyfriend to boyfriend.

If you've read tis far, thank you so much, just needed to get this out. I mentioned in someone's post that you shouldn't test someone that you're dating. Well, before the sex, I did test her. I knew she flirted a lot, but she didn't think so. She would always so no she didn't, but in the way you could tell she had a guilty conscience. I wanted to get the lies out and I could only see her guilt. So, in some cases where you see this guilt, call it out before you get too deep.

Now to clarify anything, I went into this expecting a normal relationship which would end up with sex. That happened, but she was clingy at first. My emotion essentially only got to the stage where I thought it was love, but I know it was that "first time" connection. So I endured a lot of empty words and a total loss of time.

Overall, I hate her, I'm glad she's gone and she can have fun lying and crying. I can't help someone that twisted.

Wow, so for anyone who read ALL of this, I have some cookies in the oven. They'll be out shortly Thanks for letting me rant your eyes out!

[SabrPrin2]

um................................................ ......................... wow .................................................. ........................................... glad your out of that relationship now I'm gonna get a drink! haha jk jk

[dear diary]

oh wow! crazyness! i'm glad your outta that relationship! i'd stay farrrr away from that girl. i'm so glad you could get yourself out of such a negative relationship before it got any worst! kudos to you!

...i'll take my cookies now thanks!

[Phin]

Sounds like you had a whirlwind romance there. At least it was an experience, eh? And everyone's intact now, so that's good. Just pick and choose, perhaps, a little better. I mean, I would not listen to rumours, but do take warnings about people into consideration... if she was a known slut then that sort of behavior should have been expected!

[OhaiThere]

Well that sucked.