Typical teen situation

[Michelle]

To begin my boyfriend and I have been together for 10 months now.This is my first time being in a relationship for this long.When we started going out there was a girl named Nikki-he met at his camp-he mentioned stuff about her such as how they were suppose to go out but she lived somewhere else than us so it wouldn't work out.So from the beginning I've been suspicious of her from the get go.
The other night we went to a concert and got there early with one of his best friends who is now my friend as well.As we were waiting in line for the concert doors to open,the girls in front of us began talking to us as well as the girl in front of them.One of the girls name was Sky,I noticed my boyfriend started flirting with her so I told him about it and he stopped but yet all his attention was directed to her so I asked if I could use his iphone so I could check my Facebook as I was checking my inbox,a message from Nikki showed up since I have no clue how to work an iphone I tried taking it away and it took me to their conversation and earlier that day he sent her a message saying that he was at a concert and there was a girl that looked just like her but her name was Sky.In his chat with her he also asked her to go to college with him and i couldn't read anymore because I didn't want to be nosy and it started to make me think he still wanted to be with her.
He says he loves me,-to me-it seems like he puts all his attention to me, and I'm the only one but that can mean nothing now a days.Now I don't know if I'm over reacting but i need to know what to do.

Thank you very much,
Michelle

[PSY]

There will always be uncertainties in relationships. He could tell you a million times that he loves you, doesn't want to be with Nikki, etc... but even then, you may not believe him. He could stop speaking to her in person, over the phone, on Facebook, etc... but you may still suspect that he's secretly communicating with her behind your back. What it ultimately comes down to is whether or not you're willing to trust him, and take what he says at face-value. Some people can do this... others cannot. You have to decide for yourself whether your worries are justified, or if you're just afraid to commit to a long-term relationship.

[Catherine]

I think Robin is completely right; uncertainties are normal, and it's a matter of how you feel about him and what you think he's doing, not necessarily what he's actually doing. First, try to gauge whether or not you're overreacting. It's not very easy for people at Teenhelp to help you gauge that, because we don't know all the nuances of your relationship. But try to reanalyze how your worry is being affected by anything besides what is actually happening.

I still think that you should consult with him, though. I know you already said to stop flirting with the girl at the concert. If you don't want him to know that you saw his Facebook messages with her, then just ask him if his flirting with the girl had anything to do with Nikki, or just bring up the topic of Nikki and ask him about her and his relationship with her, and tell him you were a little bit worried. I suppose his response will let you know, either through nuances of body language or him telling you straight out, how you'll trust him on this topic in the future.

Good luck (: