She broke up with me

[Robin]

She said i deserve better, ive been throwing up and wondering what to do with my life.....i dont want to be here

[Tynan]

hey robin
i know that you dont know what to do without her. but trust me. there are a lot of other awesome ladies out in this world. one better than her. breakups suck. but trust me you will get over it and meet an awesome lady. and she will be better then your ex.

[ThrashAttack]

Im sorry to hear that, it always sucks when someone dumps you. Time only heals these things. yourl be fine

[St.Vincent]

Oh, Robin.. I'm sorry. I can see how this would hit you really, really hard. .

You'll meet someone new, I promise. Someone who makes you smile, and is there for you, and loves you. Maybe someone closer to home, who can come over and crash your couch. It'll get better, but it might have to get a little worse first.

Take care, hang in there, you'll be ok.

[WillO'Wisp]

I'm sorry to hear that she broke up with you.
But you know something, there are plenty of great girls out there who would love to take you as their own in a second. There's plenty of lovely, charming ladies out there you will meet who will make you forget all about her. Usually the best way to deal with a break-up is to by all means, have your time alone to let your mind and your heart settle and heal from the last one, then go out, meet some people, find a new girlfriend or crush that'll make you forget all about the previous one. It usually always works.

[Robin]

i never did anything, i solved my problems, i did things i couldnt imagine doing, I cant compare anyone to her

[Brandon]

Cry it out dude. Time heals all wounds. Only thing you can do is pick yourself back up and try again. Good luck.

[Robin]

she says she still loves me alot, But she wants me to find another girl who can give me what i want. but all i want is her

[St.Vincent]

Robin, I wouldn't dwell too much on what she says. Often girls say the strangest things when they break up with guys. if it's over, it's over and I think you would feel better if you cut contact with her for a while, because listening to her talk will probably just make you feel shittier.

I know this is a really personal decision, but I would block her on everything and filter her out on email. Just pretend she isn't there, and focus on moving on.

[Robin]

She said to stay out of touch for 1 week and see how we both feel, because she needs time to think and she said i do to...

[queenofthedamned]

Personally, I'm the kind that when situations like these arise (I'm broken up with, but the person is swaying, saying that they love me and that "we'll see what things are like in said amount of time" or "let's just take a break") I cut all contact and NEVER look back.

Not that the person wasn't great or anything, but in the long run, it's more painful to hang on in hope that she'll return to you. In all likelihood, she won't want you back in a week, or she'll still be swaying. If it really took her that long, she isn't worth it. Plenty of girls are out there, and they want you without any such conditions. They're ready to have you RIGHT NOW. Just start opening your mind and heart to them by letting go of the ex. I know it seems like she's the only one you'll ever want, but trust me, time will change your mind. Just let go, slowly. Take a deep breath. Cry. Feel bad. Feel good. Feel bad again. Take baby steps. Realize nobody died. Forgive. You're just fine. It's going to be OK.

[St.Vincent]

Originally Posted by el90

Personally, I'm the kind that when situations like these arise (I'm broken up with, but the person is swaying, saying that they love me and that "we'll see what things are like in said amount of time" or "let's just take a break") I cut all contact and NEVER look back.

Not that the person wasn't great or anything, but in the long run, it's more painful to hang on in hope that she'll return to you. In all likelihood, she won't want you back in a week, or she'll still be swaying. If it really took her that long, she isn't worth it. Plenty of girls are out there, and they want you without any such conditions. They're ready to have you RIGHT NOW. Just start opening your mind and heart to them by letting go of the ex. I know it seems like she's the only one you'll ever want, but trust me, time will change your mind. Just let go, slowly. Take a deep breath. Cry. Feel bad. Feel good. Feel bad again. Take baby steps. Realize nobody died. Forgive. You're just fine. It's going to be OK.

This! This, this, this. I wish I was smart enough to do this.

[Nicolette]

Give this time, two things will happen, she'll either realize she wants to be with you or you'll cry and hurt and time will heal your wounds and you'll eventually move on. Until then bide your time, relax,cry, do what you need to do to distract yourself and get through this.

[losing touch.]

it's probably better for you not to contact her, at least until you're at least partially over her. and the whole 'you deserve better than me.. find someone better' is a load of bollocks if you ask me. it's just one of those throw away lines that people use to break up with people. don't let this mess with your head, because if you let it, it will grate and grate and you'll only feel worse. don't focus on trying to find someone else. just go and enjoy yourself, have some time being single.

[PSY]

*gives you lots and lots of e-hugs*

Robin... I know you don't want to hear this right now, but she wasn't a good match. I know you loved her dearly, and she loved you as well, but the distance was taking a toll on your emotional health. You could see it, and we could all see it as well.

Love isn't always enough... some people need the physical aspect as well. Like Edna said, there's something wonderful about being able to invite your girlfriend over to your place for the night, even if it's just to watch a movie together. Over webcam... it's just not the same, and for many people, it's more trouble than it's worth.

You WILL find someone who is a "better fit", someone who can spend more time with you (and not just via the internet, but in person as well). This new girl, whenever she may come into your life, won't make you feel jealous when she talks to other men. You won't have to worry about whether or not she's going to cheat on you. You won't have as much trouble communicating with her, because you'll be able to physically sit her down in front of you, look her in the eye, and show her how much you love her, and how much you want to work out your problems, whatever they may be at the time.

Like other members said, it's your decision... but personally, I would cease all contact with her. Block her, automatically filter all her e-mails to a separate folder, remove her from your friends list on social networking sites, etc. If you continue to stay in contact with her, it'll be like rubbing salt in your wound... it won't allow you to cope, to gain closure, and to ultimately learn from this experience and move on. I know that what she said suggests that you can still be friends, but in all honesty, girls say that sort of thing all the time when they break up. They don't want to be *too* mean, so they try to end the break-up on a "happy" note. It's a load of bull, and I wouldn't give it any weight. Concentrate on moving on first... then, if you're meant to be friends, you'll be able to do that in the future.

[smokinbabe]

Dont worry i have been through the same thing and i know what you are feeling. I had my heart shattered and it took awhile and yes i threw up and i wanted to die.. But thats not what im trying to point out. What i am trying to say is that you need to take a day for yourself and think things through. If shes the one for you then she will come back. Life gives you people because you need to learn from them. But honestly you will have to tell yourself that you need to move on and its for the best.. Trust me everything will work out. (for the best)

[Robin]

She says she loves me loves me (which means IN LOVE) just 10 seconds ago, yet she wont tell me if she wants to be with me..

Im starting to replace love & Happiness with anger....I cant believe she isnt chasing after the one she loves...im making the fucking effort.. I give up with everything, if she wants to go she can go wish she would stop jerking me around, i have feelings

[PSY]

Robin, actions speak louder than words. If she wanted to be with you, then she wouldn't be doing this to you. You have every right to be angry with her, and frankly, you don't deserve to be put through this any longer. She's probably saying all of this because she thinks it'll be "gentler" or "kinder" than just telling you outright.

[Robin]

She just told me everything she wanted, And she said she just want s to be with me, she said she was sorry she did it, She said she wants me.

Im taking her back no matter what....Because i love her so much and i believe she loves me just as much, im not throwing that away, i would go throuhg 10x the pain for her.

I will stop at nothing for her

[ThrashAttack]

go get her!

good luck

[BrittanyBoo]

Go and fight for her back, tell her how you feel, and also, girls love to be told how much a guy loves them..so tell her how much she means to you & how much you love her.
Good luck(:

[Robin]

Good (sarcasm) update:

Her mum said i can go over there to stay for a month in march, If my girlfriend actually decides its serious and actually has a future and her mum said she will have a curfe (is that how its spelt) to get in at 12 midnight every night as she is in a serious relationship, problem is i dont think my girlfriend will go with it, I think she would rather go out enjoy herself and not be tied down with me..

This is just stupid, Im seriously loosing physical strength, i went to college full of rage and it lasted 9 hours, It seriously took the life out

[ThrashAttack]

Things will be ok , where does your gf live?

[Robin]

she lives in America

[ThrashAttack]

ah ok. As i said things will always work out in the end

[Ryan1]

Hey Robin look you need to relax and take some alone time to settle down, I’ve seen you here before talking about your relationship so I’ve got a good idea of what’s going on. Personally I know you liked her a lot but you can't obsess over someone because that’s just not healthy.

You need to leave her be. Seeing from your previous threads, your kind of controlling and have a tendency to “freak out” a little to easy. I understand your feelings towards her and that’s natural however if you ever want her back you’ll have to leave her be.

The worst thing for you to do is call her back crying – don’t misunderstand me here. There’s nothing wrong with crying just don’t let her know about it. If she comes back to you that’s excellent if not then that’s something you’ll have to live with, because pressuring her into a relationship will only have a negative impact on things.

I know this seems like the end of the world but I assure you that you’ll find someone else. I know that’s not what you want to hear but in the end maybe you’ll say I’m happy this all happened because now I’m with someone I truly love and that someone truly loves me.

Robin - keep pressing forward and don’t go crawling back to her asking for a second chance – Remember starting up again doesn’t mean you get a clean sleight – It means your back where you left off, and if I can remember correctly you weren’t exactly happy then either.

Try to think of this an opportunity to see what else is out there, don’t shut yourself away from the world because then you’ll live with misery for a lot longer. And this whole “I’ll stop at nothing for her” Is not going to work.

Believe it or not sometimes to do nothing is the best thing. Let the dust settle then if you wish give her a call.

[mikixD]

waa man that really sucks but no worries man there are a lot of fish in the sea to choose from "

[Robin]

Holy crap this is a popular thread.

Well it keep y'all updated, we got back together, I havent stopped her doing anything and i havent called her or anything, i mean im here if she wants to call me but i havent wasted anytime worrying anymore, its a feeling of giving up, i just cant fit any longer and i have just let it be, And whatever happens...happens.

Latley shes been getting very drunk and going out alot because shes having problems at home, but ive told her im here if she wants to talk and im always willing to listen and give advice if she needs it, I give up fighting for her own health or well being, Im just letting it happen.