Loneliness getting me down

[Rabbit]

I know that out of all the issues out there, this one seems so trivial and superficial...

But I'm getting more and more depressed by the fact that I've never had a boyfriend, or been in any kind of relationship.

Being transexual makes it especially hard to find anyone who would actually accept me for the way I am.

How many gay men would settle for someone with a female body? I feel hopeless. Doesn't help that I'm not all that attractive or charismatic to begin with.

Everyone keeps telling me to WAIT, and that someday, I'll magically find someone who is PERFECT for me and accepts me for who I am, but I don't believe it for a minute.

I don't know what to do anymore, it's making me feel awful.

[Xujhan]

Nothing that makes you feel bad is insignificant. You deserve to be happy as much as the rest of us, so don't feel bad about asking for help, even if it is just about a "little thing".

The best I can suggest is to make friends. People you can trust and who'll comfort you when you're down. They won't replace having a partner, but having friends around makes that loneliness easier to bear.

It's true that you may never find someone, it that it's possible, but it's unlikely. If you put yourself out there, look to meet people, you're very likely to find someone to be with. They won't be perfect, and you won't find them just by waiting, but they are out there. For you, it may take awhile. Most teenagers aren't really sensitive to sexuality issues and how to relate to them, so your chances of finding someone who loves you for who you are will only increase as you get older and your peers get more mature. And believe you me, it is absolutely worth the wait.

[LovelyMissOlive]

I agree. You really should try making friends. It can help with the lonliness and make the wait for a partner less painful.

And I also agree that you should go out and look! And yes teenagers can be very immature but many grow out of it.

Is there a GLBT organization near you? We have one at my school and it seems great! It creates a friendly enviornment for people of every sexual orientation and background. It might be easier to make friends there if there is one near you.

And never hesitate to ask for help or advice no matter how small it may seem

Oli

[Rabbit]

Thanks guys.

The thing is, I live in a small village whose population is less than 1500 people. And none of them are particularly progressive in their thinking.

There is pretty much no way for me to make friends irl here. In the 7 or so years that I've lived here, I have managed to make 1 good friend.

There is nothing even remotely resembling a GLBT group anywhere near here.

[ThrashAttack]

Im in the same boat as you, im single and have been for ages. I hate it as well but we will always get through this. Pm if you need some advice