Helpp--someone,anyone??

[BrittanyBoo]

I'm totally new to this website, so I have no idea how this is going to go-being my first thing I've put up on this. So I'm hoping it goes well, and I get what I'm looking for.

Anyways, See, I have a boyfriend-Levi. His ex girlfriend HATES me, and she keeps on saying that she wants to fight, and I'll be honest, I would LOVE LOVE LOVE to fight her. But, Levi doesn't want me fighting with her, or anyone. At first is was becuase I had a strong feeling that he still liked her, but he don't. But, she wrote one of my friends Holly a note, basically saying that she wants to fight, and even if I do, she was going to press charges on me. I don't understand it..I havent done anything to this girl, we were friends in middle school-7th & 8th grade, then when she started to date Levi, I got mad, cuz she knew that I REALLYliked him, and now that I'm with him, I'm sure nothings going to tear us apart

But, the thing is, im scared that if I do go off and just hit her one day, that its going to end the relationship that Levi and I have, and I dont want that to happen.

Should I tell her to leave him and I alone? Or dont do anything?
please, will someone help me out?
or at least talk to me about this..
cuz im just hurting my self more with this drama, with me and Levi fighting,
about me wanting to hit her & or do something to someone.

any advice will help, thanks(:

[CompassionateSoul]

By getting upset and fighting with your boyfriend you're doing what she is trying to cause by winding you up. It's not your boyfriend's fault, there is nothing he's done wrong, it's her. It's best not to try and fight her if she is will try and press charges by getting the police involved. It's best to ignore her and show her you aren't at all bothered by what she is trying to do. I realise it does bother you, but if she see's her winding you up isn't working she will eventually leave you alone. As long as with everything else she tries, threats, etc you don't rise to. It's like dealing with a bully, if you don't react to what they're doing, they get bored, it's the same with her.

Don't tell her anything, just ignore her. Make it so that she can't contact you and only let her contact you IF and when she apologises. You will want to try and concentrate on your relationship, your boyfriend will think highly of you if you can stop the fighting by ignoring her, he will be grateful.

Fighting wouldn't solve anything either, it's a rather childish way to do things it will only result in your relationship in tatters and her getting what she wanted. There is another option as well, If she is threatening you personally, tell a parent, she will soon stop. Cyber-bulling is taken quite seriously and IF she IS threatening you, etc you should talk to a parent and tell them what happens after, if it persists your parents will help put a stop to it.

For now, ignore her, and try not to let anything you hear upset you - if you're upset she is getting what she wants, you can be stronger than that pettiness. Work on your relationship, and forget about anyone else, all that matters is that the two of you are together, show him how much you appreciate him by giving him your attention, and not her.

I hope this helps.

[emma*]

Hi Brittany
First of all, congratulations of finding someone you can love! If you really love him, and he's worth hanging on to, do things for him.
For example, not retaliating to this girl! She clearly thinks she has some power of your feelings for him, or/and his feelings for you, but your connection will be able to overpower her anyday.
So, for him, be the bigger person and don't fight her.
If she insists on a fight, then talk to her, but don't go alone. Make sure some of your friends go with you, for backup. Or possibly tell the teacher that she's being mean/threatening you.

I wish you all the best with your relationship
PM me anytime you need - i'll be here.

[PSY]

Ignore her, avoid her, pretend she doesn't exist. Not only will it make Levi happier, but by NOT punching her in the face, you'll be giving yourself the chance to get into college, get a decent job, etc. Believe it or not, assault DOES go on your permanent record. =/

[Nicolette]

I'd simply ignore her, if she gets in your space about it just tell her you want nothing to do with her and leave it at that, obviously this chick is a drama case and only wants to cause problems. Focus on your relationship and not on his ex.

[Jacksonian]

Originally Posted by Nicolette

I'd simply ignore her, if she gets in your space about it just tell her you want nothing to do with her and leave it at that, obviously this chick is a drama case and only wants to cause problems. Focus on your relationship and not on his ex.

Nicolette said it well. Leave her alone and don't fight her. It will only cause more problems. And going to fight her is to look for troubles you do not need.

[Jamie from Sydney]

Leave her alone. Get Levi to deal with her. It'll be worse for her if he confronts than if you do