Mixed Messages?

[ChrisB]

So as some of you may (or may not) know my fiance Tara broke up with on the 22 of December. Well it has never really made sense to me as why she broke up with me. She says its because she was unhappy but just the day before she was telling me how much she loved me and how happy she was with me and how everything was perfect. She was telling me about how she couldnt wait till we were officially married and she couldnt wait till we started our family like we have been talking about for the past 5 years. Well on the 22 she came over and we exchanged christmas presents and everything was dandy we. Right after she broke up with me she said there was no chance she was going to get back togehter with me at all, and that the best thing she could give me was best friends like we use to be, which I said of course to because I could not cut her out of my life as she is the biggest and most important person in my life and she has been, I mean there has been times where she has physically saved my life, shes my best friend and the love of my life. We still talk, she has a new "girlfriend" that she talks about a lot but she says they arnt togehter officially but at the same time they are still together. This girl has a newborn baby, which i know brought Tara extremly close to her because Tara and I were saposed to have a child in October,...but well...there were some unexpected complications and well...yeah so I feel like tara is only with this person because of the baby but she tells me that she really likes her, but then tara turns around and tells me she loves me...and today, she kissed me, i just am not sure whats going on because one second she is telling me that she really likes this other girl and that we are not going to get back togehter and then the next minute she is telling me she loves me and is kissing me. I am just so confused. I pretend to be ok but im really not...

im not sure if this made any sense i just dont know whats going on and i dont know what to do. i cant just walk away thats not an option for me and idk i just sorry if this is silly and doesnt make sense

but any feed back would be amazing

[PSY]

If you REALLY don't want to see "moving on" as an option, then you need to at least set up physical and emotional boundaries. She can't be all lovey-dovey with you, if she's not willing to make the commitment of being your girlfriend/fiance/wife. You also need to find some way to "distance" yourself from her emotionally, while still being there for her as a friend. Right now, her indecisiveness is screwing you up, and that's simply unacceptable. Until she can give you a definite answer (and STICK with it), you need to protect yourself.