He just doesn't do anything.

[Twisted]

I don't know if its because i'm having a bit of pms. But my boyfriend has really pissed me off. I'll give a little background otherwise it will be difficult to understand the rest. Basically my boyfriend (he's 22) is living with me at my parents house because his parents moved quite away away for his dad's work, and he didn't want to move with them and leave everyone behind, plus he had a job. It's only Mcdonalds, but its a job. I was the one who made him get that job after being unemployed for 8months because he was getting into more and more financial trouble and he needed a steady income. He already had an evening cleaning job but that didn't really give him enough money, he was going to try and get his own place but he didn't manage to save up in time.

Anyway, my boyfriend is supposed to be full-time at McDonalds. But most of the time they only give him 2-3 days a week, sometimes he doesn't work at all during the week. I have a full time job, 8.30-5 mon-fri. Compared to me he gets a hell of a lot more free time than i do. I do get jealous sometimes, because i hate my job and am incredibley unhappy working there. But the thing is, when he is off work. He doesn't do ANYTHING all day. Like he'll make some food but not take the plate down to the kitchen, he never makes the bed and he's left wrappers all over the place as well. My mom's always moaning about the mess and its pissing me off because he's home all day and doesn't do anything.

Don't get me wrong, he has tidyed my room a few times now vacumn and everything, but the thing is taking a couple of plates downstairs or putting his rubbish in the bin really doesn't take much effort, it's an everyday task that anyone can do, no excuses. Even making the bed ffs. I'm sick of coming home to find that he's left a crap load of stuff all over the place for me to take down. I had a go at him yesterday about it because he said i would take the plates down but he forgot... I thought it would have sunk in because i was really upset and he felt really bad about it. Words cannot describe how pissed off i am at him right now.

I'm not saying i'm perfect because i'm really not, but i'm usually the one to empty the trash bin, make the bed and take plates and stuff down. For once i would like to just come home from work and just relax instead of having to do stuff. I feel like crying i'm so wound up and i can't say anything to him because he's at his cleaning job. Hence why i posted on here. Thanks to anyone who read this.

[PSY]

He sounds like one of my roommates. She'll make scrambled eggs, put them on a paper plate, eat them while sitting on the couch... then 1) leave the dirty frying pan on the stove, and 2) leave the used paper plate on the coffee table in front of the couch.

I don't know if your boyfriend is lazy, or forgetful, or simply not used to picking up after himself. Whatever it is, I would try two things, if you already haven't:

1. Write a list of things he needs to do, before such-and-such times. Ex. "Have the bed made before I get home" and "Rinse off all your dishes before my parents get home". Some people need more structure, so giving him a concrete list of things that he needs to get done by a certain time may help remind him of his responsibilities, while he's a guest in your parents' home.

2. If that doesn't work (it didn't for my roommate), then I would suggest giving him specific "household" chores. Since my roommate won't pick up her trash, for example, it's her job to TAKE OUT the trash, whenever it gets full. So when you get home, you can pick up his trash, but then tell him he needs to take out EVERYONE'S trash at the end of EVERY day. Eventually, he may get sick of this, so he may make more of an effort to take care of his individual chores from that point on (my roommate is still hit-or-miss with the trash, but she's definitely gotten better about rinsing things off by the end of the day).

[fullofsecrets]

This sounds like a relationship that is waiting for disaster. Obviously he is incapable of taking care of himself. He is not mature enough to live on his own. Think about yourself. He is working part-time at McDonalds. Don't you think that you could date a guy that could do better? You have to look out for what's best for you, not him. Right now, he sees you as someone who can look after him and give him the things he needs and clean up after him. He is looking for a parent, and you are providing that role for him. You have to seriously think about your relationship with him and decide if he is worth it.