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Does this mean anything?? - January 22nd 2010, 07:33 PM

Right been going out with my boyfriend for just over a month and he had an exam today. So he gave me his phone to look after. I was tkaing the mick saying was there something he didn't want me to see as he did sonething to it first to which he said no but to look through it as we have no secrets and he was tryng to prove it.
i am ashamed to say i did and his sent box has texts from like last october when he was going out with this other girl and i couldn't help but notice that some of the things he said to her he has said to me with differences. I mean they arn't word for word the same.
does every guy does this and i'm worrying for nothing or should i be worrying??

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Re: Does this mean anything?? - January 22nd 2010, 11:53 PM

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i couldn't help but notice that some of the things he said to her he has said to me with differences. I mean they arn't word for word the same.
does every guy does this and i'm worrying for nothing or should i be worrying??
So, you expect him to say the same things to every girl he dates?
It was a while ago, and text messages sent without little thinking behind them, so things are bound to be different. There are so many different ways he could feel around the time, and after he's read a text it's not worth worrying about.

Different things are said to everyone, people change and every situation is unique, try not to worry about it, it's to be expected.

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Re: Does this mean anything?? - January 24th 2010, 10:06 PM

I got the impression you were worrying that they're too much alike and maybe he's using certain lines to impress girls?
I found my thoughts hard to word properly for some reason. That never happens to me! lol. if something doesn't make sense to you let me know.

I think it would depend what he's saying. If he was complimenting a joke she made, then complimented you about a joke, maybe he just like someone with a sense of humor, and him saying it in a similar way probably doesn't mean anything, we all have our own way we word things and signature phrases we use. Does that make sense?
If the things he says are like, actual pick up lines, then maybe there's cause to worry.
Like I said, it depends what he's saying, are you comfortable giving an example? If not that's fine.
I wouldn't worry too much. Give it a couple weeks and if you're still worried maybe talk to him about it. Don't say you went through his outbox, just say you're concerned he's using lines or something.

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