My Best Friend Changed For A Guy

[GoodByeTonight]

So i'm a freshman and i don't have too many friends but my best friend, i've known her since 5th grade and we've been absoutley inseperable since. We are honestly like sisters, except we never fight. So she started this guy last year and they're complete opposites but she's really happy with him. My parents don't like her and I wasn't allowed to hang out with her over the summer so we ended up becoming completely disconnected. But now me and her have a class together and we sit together at lunch and at the beginning of the year we didn't really talk much and I started hearing rumors about her and her boyfriend[they've been together for almost 8 months] the rumors were talking about how many times they've had sex. I was freaking out because I mean i knew being a freshman i would definitley hear some crazy rumors but i wasn't sure what to believe. My friend was so about not having sex until she got married or until she knew she really loved someone, but she's not a stupid girl and I refused to believe it. Then when we got into a class together I kept hearing the rumors and everyone kept saying they've been counting how many times they've had sex over 216 times. I cried every night for a week because it just didn't make sense. So finally I confronted her about it[over text messages :|] I asked her if her and her boyfriend have had sex and she told yes. She said she felt like she had to do and that she regrets it but at the same time she doesn't. I didn't talk much with her about it but I told her that's it's not okay that she's doing this and she's so in love with this guy and she's suicidal and I'm just afriad that he is going to break up with her and she'll try and kill herself. She's tried before but obviously wasn't successful but I'm super afraid that I'm going to lose her and she's changed so much and I feel like he's in a way making her feel guitly and does what he wants. I feel like she's completely forgotten about me and how close we were, but at the same time it's like I can't walk about because we were so close and I know deep down she doesn't want me to disappear cause she needs me just as much as i need her. But the thing is I can't conutin to be 'okay' with everything that is going on, she's telling people that they're up to having sex like 42 times just in a month. They've only been together for 8 months and I think she's attached to him like really attached. This is the first guy she's ever had real feelings for and she's in love with him and I'm just afraid because he is a 15 year old boy that he's just going to break up with her eventually because he wants to go back to dating tons of girls like he did last year. I'm not sure what to do anymore and I'm confused and hurt and torn. I just need advice, i want to talk with her but i just feel like it's going to end up in a fight like 'oh you're just jealous cause i have a boyfriend and you don't' and i can't lose her but i feel like i already have but i can't walk away cause i feel like he's going to break up with her not soon but that he is going to and I need to be there for her when that happens because other people won't...

[morethanuseless]

Hi
So I don't personally know your friend, but it seems to me that she is using her relationship with her boyfriend to boost her self esteem or she's using sex to make something else that is going on in her life feel not as bad. But people who do this often make their self esteem worse and it becomes a very unhealthy situation. Im not sure if this is the case, but maybe you should try and talk to her about any other problems going on in her life and just be her shoulder to cry on, and let her know ou are concerned for her and that you care. ( btw if she does have low self image and you think thats why shes having sex with this guy, don't tell her that you think that because she may just get offended/defensive)
Just simply let her know that you are there for her. Tell her that you miss her and want to hang out with her, then you can talk about her boyfriend with her and help her with issues. Just give your advice and say it in a non-judgmental and caring way.

I hope this all works out