He Wants To Hang Out With Her ..

[sblack]

Okay. I am an extremely jealous person to begin with ; I think it stems from having such cruddy self esteem, but anyways.

My boyfriend has decided he wants to hang out with "and old friend." .. a friend who he hasn't talked to in over a year. He told me before that he used to like her but .. "It would have been weird to date, and we didn't want to ruin the relationship.." ..

YEAH, because that's really going to reassure me. And also, I've never met this girl in my life, which makes me more uncomfortable. Ultimately, there is nothing I can do because he will end up doing whatever he wishes, while I sit at home feeling miserable and upset.

It's not that I don't trust him - I don't think he would ever cheat on me. But when he wants to hang out with a girl that he had feelings for at one point, it makes me feel weird. It just seems weird. He wouldn't appreciate if I went and hung out with someone I liked at some point. He even has a problems with me hanging out with my openly gay male friend - which is a completely different scenario anyways.

Ugh. I hate being a jealous girlfriend, but it just seems weird. I don't see why he would want to hang out with her .. They're going to be at his house and everything

I'm afraid that he'll start having those feelings for her again ..

[losing touch.]

seems like a bit of double standards here - he can't tell you that he doesn't like you hanging out with your guy friends or guys that you used to like then go and hang out with this girl. although to be honest, he has no right to tell you who he does and doesn't want you seeing anyway.. he sounds a little possessive. anyways, speak to him and explain that it makes you feel insecure when he's hanging out with a girl he used to have feelings for. i'm not saying tell him not to go and see her, because really he isn't doing anything wrong by just hanging out with her.. but just let him know how you feel. then perhaps he'll be a little bit more sensitive in the future and no tell you that it's a girl he 'used to like.' jealous girlfriend or not, no one likes to hear about their boyfriends ex's or ex crushes or whatever.. it's just not cool. as for the jealousy, well everyone is jealous to some extent - and it is hard to deal with, especially if you have some self esteem issues, but just talk to him and if he's a decent guy he'll reassure you that they're just hanging out and catching up - nothing more. also, maybe next time you could suggest that you go along too?.. make it a group of you meeting up, that way you won't feel like you're left out of it. :]

[Sweet-Cheeks]

I have the exact same jealousy issues but i think im a little worse..you should talk with him and tell him how you dont like when he does that and how it makes you feel uncomportable and if he says no hes still gunn ahang with her then ask if you can join..or do what i would do and scare the girl till she runs away well not runs away but gets so tired of you crap that she leaes him alone..you should try to atleast get him to listen to you and if he does stuff that he knows bothers you then hes not worth it. dont beat yourself up over a guy who dosent what you to be absolutly happy even if it means sacrafising some chick he hasent even talkedto in like a year.