My perfect boyfriend.

[Natasha.]

I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 3 months now. Our relationship is pretty much perfect. He treats me so good it's unbelievable, but I love it. The issue I'm having is I don't feel like he should be with me because I MYSELF do not feel good enough for him. It's nothing like loyalty, honesty, respect, or trust. It's my self esteem, and my feelings about myself. We are both honest, trustworthy, loyal, and genuine with each other. We care a lot about each other, and we get along almost always. We've had one fight, but we worked through it. The thing is, is I feel like I'm holding him back from something better. Like he could be with a girl who isn't crazy, I shouldn't call myself that, but I feel crazy because I have emotional issues that take over sometimes. I feel like he should be with a prettier girl, a girl who has better emotions, a girl who can be what he needs, but he is always complimenting me, telling me I'm so amazing, I'm the best girl he's ever been with so it makes me feel bad because I wish I could see what he sees in me! I don't wanna hurt him anymore by my destructive behavior. I need help because we are both seriously committed, and I don't wanna screw anything up, even though he says he'll be with me through the hard times, the good, and the terrible. Like he was with me at the hospital when a certain circumstance happened, and he was worried, but he was there. He's just so good to me, and I need to figure out my emotions because I don't wanna be like this anymore! Somebody please help!

[PSY]

What you have to realize is that ALL girls are crazy (emotionally, that is), and that there will ALWAYS be prettier girls out there. What it ultimately comes down to is the emotional connection. You have something to offer him, something that NO ONE ELSE can offer him... so why wouldn't be want to be with you? =) You may not see it, but believe me, it's there. Otherwise, he wouldn't still be dating you. He's not stupid, and he's well aware of his other "options"... but frankly, they're not worth thinking about, because he already has YOU. =D

If you want to get help, then by all means, get help! Talk to your school counselor or psychologist, talk to a trusted adult (a family member, teacher, coach, neighbor, etc.), and most importantly, talk to your boyfriend. If you can effectively communicate with those around you, then it will become much easier to receive the help that you're looking for, whether it be physical, emotional, or mental.

[Natasha.]

PSY. Thanks for your advice. It's definitely true, and helps a lot. I made some new decisions that will hopefully help out my situation! I'll have to see, but in the mean time, therapy, this website, and talking openly with others will hopefully start to help! I have hope, and having everyone on here to talk to me that makes it so much easier too! Thanks again.

[PSY]

No problem, I'm glad that I could help. =) Feel free to keep us posted via this thread (it's an active forum, so you're bound to receive a reply soon). You're also welcomed to PM me anytime, about anything.

[Natasha.]

Alright. I will definitely keep you guys posted!