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8th February 2010, 08:55 PM
Well I'm seeing a lot of threads asking for advice about boyfriends and porn.
I'm wondering how many of you are okay with your partner watching porn? I'm fine with it if my boyfriend wants to watch porn providing that he doesn't put it before me as in he'd rather watch it than do stuff with me.  How doth the little crocodile Improve his shining tail And pour the waters of the Nile On every golden scale How cheerfully he seems to grin How neatly spreads his claws And welcomes little fishes in With gently smiling jaws. Lewis Carroll |
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8th February 2010, 08:56 PM
Yup, as long as it's because I am not in the mood...
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8th February 2010, 09:08 PM
I'm not currently seeing anyone but it never really bothered me before, probably won't bother me in future.
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8th February 2010, 09:14 PM
Wouldn't bother me at all, to be honest.
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8th February 2010, 10:07 PM
Not an Issue.... I actually think I watch more porn than my partner.... I'll have to ask.
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8th February 2010, 10:26 PM
im not okay with my boyfriend getting pleasure from a tv full of girls.
never will be. 1. they've got better bodies and it makes me insecure to know he likes that, and i don't want him thinking of them while doing things with me. 2. I see it as almost a form of cheating. I find it really offensive. Just my opinion.  Love is all we need. :] FORMER [HelpLinkMentor][LiveHelpOperator] |
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8th February 2010, 10:26 PM
I have watched porn when I didn't have a gf, but I just don't see the need anymore. Plus I felt bad when I did it. I don't know if I'd be ok I put no, but probably should have put unsure as my partner isn't known to watch porn to my knowledge. I don't know how I'd react.
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8th February 2010, 10:40 PM
I'm not okay with it. My boyfriend doesn't watch it as far as I know. But if he did and I found out I think i'd feel hurt. As if I wasn't good enough or something, it would deff bother me.
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8th February 2010, 10:44 PM
I'm going to have to agree with Cara.
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8th February 2010, 10:55 PM
It's fine, as long as it doesn't hinder the relationship. Can't expect your partner to be there every single time you want some..
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9th February 2010, 08:57 AM
It wouldn't bother me at all, I don't see why it should.
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9th February 2010, 07:12 PM
I thought I was ok with it in the beginning, but when they start choosing it over you, or hiding the fact that they are doing it... it becomes a huge problem. Especially when the amount they watch it is ridiculous, and its every time you arent around. Ok, i'm ranting now... but no, I'm no longer ok with it. It makes me feel much too insecure and not special.
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9th February 2010, 07:45 PM
I don't really care. I'm lucky I have a guy who doesn't like things like that.
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9th February 2010, 08:07 PM
To me, it doesn't really make sense to not have a problem with women fantasizing about celebrities but be against women watching pornography. Same goes for males too. If I wanted my girlfriend to stop watching porn, I might as well tell her to stop watching movies because I don't see much of a difference. Sure, one is completely naked while the other one is partially naked, but I don't even think that there's really much of a difference of our desire to KNOW what he/she looks like underneath the clothes. I could be totally wrong though.
In moderation, I think that porn is perfectly harmless. Just because I like to watch lesbian porn videos doesn't mean that I'm incapable of having feelings towards realistic women. In fact, quite the contrary. In fact, I can use the fact that I DO watch porn to actually make my sex life better -- and I'm not the only one in the world who does that. In fact, many couples do! You can tell a lot about a person's desires by what kind of videos they watch, so I wouldn't even consider stopping my girlfriend from watching porn. In fact, I'd probably take the pants off and join her. But like I said, if it doesn't interfere with our sex life in a negative way, then I don't see nothing wrong with it at all. After all, I can't expect to be there for her 24/7, and I'm not going to make the relationship completely about sex because it'd just be sure to go down the drain. Some guys don't watch porn, some girls don't watch porn. If you don't, great, but for the people who do like to watch porn when they feel the need too...no harm no fowl if in moderation. |
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10th February 2010, 01:38 AM
Im unsure.
Because of distance I don't care. But if we are together. It's like. You have me? Why do you need porn? I don't think i'd really mind though. ~The Deadliest Sin is to have never sinned at all.~  I'm the creepy girl your parents warned you about. I'm not an Angel. I've broken my halo, and burned my wings. Forget how I was, and remember me as I am. |
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10th February 2010, 01:56 AM
I don't have a problem with it. I am confident about my body and my ability to do sex stuff, I don't think porn could actually measure up to, well, me
 so, if he wants it every once and a while, fine by me.
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10th February 2010, 02:59 AM
No, I don't have any problem with it. I'd be open to watching some together, if she liked.
Don't see the harm in it.
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10th February 2010, 03:46 AM
I can't control what he does. I can't tell him what he can and can't do. Honestly, I would say it's okay for him to watch it but I know I'll never be comfortable with it or the thought of him watching it. I don't watch porn, I've never watch porn and never will. I know it's harmless and for me to tell him 'oh sorry babe, but I can't let you watch porn anymore', it would really be blowing the whole thing out of proportion and get into argument that should never really been argued about and it's just not me. I don't like telling him what to do or anyone for that matter. But I must say if he watches it all the time, that where I kind of draw the line, but otherwise I don;t think it's would bother me as much :]
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10th February 2010, 05:54 AM
I have never viewed/watched pornographic images or videos, and I don't plan to anytime soon. That being said, I know that my boyfriend has viewed/watched porn prior to our relationship, and I'm fairly certain that he still views/watches porn from time to time. So long as I don't know about it, and so long as it doesn't interfere with our relationship, I guess I'm "okay" with it. I'm not going to tell him he can, but I'm not going to tell him he can't, either.
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10th February 2010, 11:55 AM
No I've not got a problem with it, so long as he doesnt put it before me! We watch it together and put it on while were having sex cause we both get off on it lol!
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I hope you're having a super fine day!! I couldn't help but smile to myself when I read all of the replies that said that 'you' would NOT be bothered by it. But I'm willing to guess - that those of you who said they would be OK if their boyfriend/girlfriend was watching porn - were ALL thinking of 'regular' everyday kind of porn. You know - an ordinary couple having sex. BUT...... What IF your boyfriend/girlfriend was watching S&M porn? Or porn with a 60 year old woman dressed up in a nurses outfit 'changing' her 25 year old 'baby'? Or how about bisexual porn? Or porn where everyone is all dressed up in latex rubber? Or what if 'they' were REALLY 'into' midget porn? Or maybe porn where one girl or guy is having sex with 50 people!! Would you STILL be OK with it?! LOL GREAT BIG HUG Craig!! 
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10th February 2010, 01:41 PM
I'd probably raise an eyebrow and talk to him/her about it, I'd probably find it a little weird but I think I'm open-minded enough to accept it.
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10th February 2010, 03:21 PM
I would want my partner to be okay with me watching porn so vise versa I would be okay with them watching it too.
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It doesn't really bother me, as long like the OP said he doesn't put it before me.
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10th February 2010, 05:52 PM
Let me add when I don't really care if my partner watched porn...
It's nice to take a trip to fantasy. There's something interesting about watching different things, different positions, people. I don't see it as cheating. I don't really compare my partner to these people and I don't compare myself to the girls. They're the ones doing the nasty, lol, they get paid to be nasty  . It helps you out when you're not really in the mood for sex, and once you see what's going on you're like... Hmm.. I could be doing that right now. And then you jump on your partner =D
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 I'd highly doubt that If my boyfriend watched porn that's what he'd be watching. If so I'd probably laugh at him and ask what he finds attractive about it and go from there. I don't see a problem watching latex or muliple partners. That's fantasy. As long as you keep your reality with you and your partner I don't think It's a problem.
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10th February 2010, 09:09 PM
They can like what they like and if they want to watch porn then they can watch porn. Just as long as they don't prefer/pick the porn over me then it's fine.
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10th February 2010, 09:24 PM
I am perfectly fine with my partner watching porn, just don't make me watch it. I'm not interested in it but I have nothing against it, I just won't watch it.
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10th February 2010, 09:27 PM
I'm not bothered by it at all ... he won't ever be with any of those girls so it's not like he's cheating in my eyes.
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