Should I give in?

emotional_wreck · **Should I give in? -** February 13th 2010, 10:40 PM

Since the beggining of the school year my friends have been bugging me about getting a boyfriend. There have been at least 7 guys so far that have asked me out but the thing is i've had a crush on the same guy since the summer of freshman year. The problem is, he lives far away (like a different continent). He and I still talk all the time and when he comes we go on dates and we talk and we kiss. I like him more than i should especially bc i dont know what he does down there. Hes graduating this year and hes going to move to the US but we'll still be long distance, granted only a few hours. Then there the fact I'm attracted to one of the huys whose asked me out, but i'm not sure whether i should give it a chance. I dont want to be unfair to him and I rather not go into a relationship that i dont think will last, but in the other hand, im getting sexually frustrated. And i dont think i can wait forever for my crush. Should I listen to my friends or stay single until im not so confused?

DanielR · **Re: Should I give in? -** February 13th 2010, 10:51 PM

Firstly... DON'T EVER give in to peer pressure. Your friends shouldn't be pressuring you to get a boyfriend. If you want a boyfriend, then sure... thats your choice, but don't allow your friends to pressure you into it.

Secondly: 7 times out of 10, crushes don't last. 8 times out of 10, long distance relationships don't work out.

BUT... it all depends on love. Do you love him enough to wait for him? Otherwise, find someone you know WILL be there when you need them to be, and make sure you're able to trust them

Good luck.

don'tstopbelievin · **Re: Should I give in? -** February 14th 2010, 12:18 AM

The way I see it is, what if this guy graduates and moves to the US and turns out to be the biggest disappointment? That's a possibility, isn't it? It might not work out. And then you've passed up opportunities that could blossom into something really great for this one guy who isn't a sure thing. I guess what I'm trying to say is, you can still date around. You don't have to get into a relationship, that's clearly not what you're interested in atm so why put yourself in that situation? But it doesn't hurt to spend more time with guys that aren't so far away. Maybe you'll find one that will be 10 times more amazing than this guy that lives across the world. Maybe you won't. It's all a part of the learning process.

Jacksonian · **Re: Should I give in? -** February 16th 2010, 06:22 PM

I suggest you give yourself time and listen to your heart. Take a break first from this thing, a few days and then meditate, listen to your heart and then make the decision to either wait for your crush or get someone closer.

PS : About being sexually frustrated. Don't let your body control you. Don't make a decision because you haven't had some sexual "instances" . I hope you get what i mean.

sabbs1991 · **Re: Should I give in? -** February 16th 2010, 06:27 PM

i had a guy friend who lived across the country from me. he moved away and we stayed friends. we always kind of had... a thing... and when he finally moved back to my town i thought everything would be perfect, i didn't think he had changed because i had seen him when he visited and he was still that good old friend of mine, but i was wrong.

you're very right to question what hes doing when hes not around you, i think you have to focus on getting your feelings straight for him before you could even consider having a boyfriend.

its your life and your friends, although they can be helpful sometimes, should not have the last say in your love life.

its your happiness that at stake. if you are already feeling like you can't wait forever for this guy then you should try to carefully get over him. however i wouldn't say that jumping into a relationship that you're not interested in is the way to do it.

you should get your feelings straight and then if YOU want to, you should date someone, but when it comes down to it, it is your choice.