help. this is bothering me more than it should.

lilymadeline27

So my boyfriend have been together for almost three months now and everything is great for the most part except I really want to be closer and spend time with eachother like alot of couples I know do and we don't seem to be doing that. We live about 25 minutes away from eachother and go to two different private schools so we really only see eachother about once a week. sometimes if were too busy we have to go two weeks without seeing eachother. I just got my drivers lisence but he doesn't have his yet so him not being able to drive also makes things hard but the thing is he's been really wierd about hanging out at eachother's houses. I feel like at three months he should have invited me over or something but he hasn't. It bothers me like when my best friend is like "oh I'm going over my boyfriends house" because I want to do that! I feel like once we can go to eachother's houses we'll be closer and stuff. I mean we are really close already and we really do care about eachother but I also feel like he doesn't WANT to come over my house. I've invited him a couple times and it sort of seems like he makes excuses not to. What should I do? I can't force him to hang out at my house and I also can't just invite myself over his.

DanceCommander

It's not really fair to compare your relationship to another person's; relationships are completely individual experiences for each couple. Your friends are in different circumstances with different people.

Not living in the same place is tough, but it's not an insurmountable challenge. The important thing to realize is that you two will just have to communicate a lot more closely because you are farther away. Have you asked him about why he doesn't want you to hang out at each other's houses? The first place to start is to ask him why he feels as he does. It will give you a better perspective into his mind. Then address his fears with your own thoughts and talk through the issue. That's probably the best place to start.

sincerely_yours91

hey,
I know this might sound odd but if he has had a girlfriend before you he might have had a bad experience. Maybe his girlfriends dad was harsh and rude to him or maybe she was rude to his family. Maybe his family isn't accepting of him having a girlfriend. There are a million different reasons and you shouldn't sit there and try to figure out which one you think it is. I also think you need to talk to him about it. Being open with your boyfriend is the best way to feel close to him.
so talk to him about it!! =)