Biggest flirt ever-is he just playing with me?

[SparklingMoonlight]

(I have posted this before, but I can't freakin' edit the previous topic post, so please don't be mad at me and delete this-please delete the older one, and please answer this )

Basically, there is this guy in my school, lets call him B. He is 2 years older than me-I'm 14 and he's 16.

I made friends with him when I was around 13-I'm friends with someone he's friends with, so he came up to me and my other friend (not the one that he knows) and started talking with me and my friend... After that we would sometimes chat.
Before the end of that school year (when I was still around 13), he came up to me and asked me to sign his yearbook, so I did... I thought that was quite strange because I barely knew him.
Then, after a summer holiday (which was few days after I signed his yearbook), I remember walking in school at the first day of school (I was 14 then) and finding him looking at me... I didn't think much of it so I walked off to find my other friends, but that 'moment' stuck in my mind...
I became best friends with my friend that B knows (who is male), so us three always hang out a lot in school (me, my bestie and B).
I also become rather good friends with B himself, and I have reasons to think that he might like me...
Basically, even though I and my other friends hug (both male and female), I find B's hugs more personal if ya get what I mean-they are not some quick short hugs... Also, me and him sort off flirt over e-mails and generally flirt a bit whenever we see eachother-I don't really think much of the flirts, as I am rather dirty minded so I like to talk 'dirty', but my friends know that it's a joke, and I truly hope that B does, too although, most of the flirting towards him I do mean because I have a crush on him, if you haven't noticed... Also, he jokingly asked me if I want to marry him, and I said yes. Soon he told me that he asked three or four other people to marry him (obviously jokingly), but for my happiness he will only settled to marry one other girl (bloody polygamist ). So now we jokingly call each other husband and wife...
Also, recently, he started kissing me on forehead, head and shoulder after hugging me (which I obviously like)-today after I complained (whilst hugging him) that I can't reach him well (he's slightly taller then me-only a bit) he picked me up and spun me, then let go of me and bruised my shoulder a little bit. So once again, I complained, and he 'kissed it better'-my shoulder. Also, he likes to poke me... And to put his arm around my waist when we walk side by side.... I find all of that absolutely adorabe and of course I like what he does... But...Does he like me? Recently my bestie (the friend that B is friends with, too) told me that B told him that he doesn't wan;t to marry me, only to f*ck me. I think B meant this as a joke or whatever, but what my bestie told me made me feel like the biggest loser EVER-I can't even look B straight in the eye without thinking that he is just playing with me. What do you think? I haven't got a clue, obviously!.. The fact that he asked some other girl to 'marry' him made me draw to a conclusion that he is like that towards his other female friends, but I'm not sure I just don't know what to think - I am soo confused. I obviously have a crush on him... You people are my only help, since most of my friends are male I don't have anyone to talk about this... Thank You!

[Jacksonian]

I suggest not calling each other husband and wife. Things can very intensely emotional with such calling especially if you are that young. I suggest you let that guy go and forget about the whole issue. Infact don't be friends with him because that path of flirting will lead to something else and the end of it doesn't look nice especially if what your friend said is true. And I would take your friend's mention to heart and keep that guy afar off. Because you don't want to lose your virginity to someone who doesn't matter.

[DevM]

I can almost guarantee that he is dying for your friendship to go a step further than it is. Judging by what you said, yeah some guys are just flirts *looks at self*, but to go as far as sincerely showing some light affection is a green light for "whats next". The husband and wife joking thing, ehh, I mean I wouldn't recommend that (it may create some sort of akwardness if things went sour?). But my number one opinion I want to throw out there is NOT to rush things. Young love is some topsy turvy territory, so take it slow :] Just ease up to him, even ask him how he feels (not some obvious, DO YOU LIKE ME?!?!), but just some indirect conversation about it. Poke some holes :P And then go on from there. And of course, there are those guys out there that are in it to "hit it and quit it", but not ALL. No doubt you will meet those throughout life, so just beee careful. And I highly suggest not even considering giving up the v-card until you've been in a steady relationship for quite some time!

[SparklingMoonlight]

Thanks for the advices! Ahh, what would I do without you guys?

DevM, poking some holes... I really should try that :/ I don't think of myself as a very brave person, but I usually get a bit hyper when I see him Thanks for the advice


As far as what DevM & Jacksonian mentioned about virginity, (lol), I wouldn't think about that far... Though now that you mentioned that, I do remember once chatting with him on e-mails, and saying 'meh today is such a bad day', and him replying 'cheer up my lover, once we get married i will provide you with utter pleasure etc' what a perv, eh? ^^


Today B told me that he'll be going to a different school in 31 days... He seemed quite exited, thought he said that he'll 'die' there because of he extra strict rules, which brings me onto another point about him-he is very, um, how shall I call it, mysterious-he randomly pops up to chat with me, usually comes up behind me and hugs me (puts his arms around me), or covers my eyes and goes 'guess who'.... (ahh, cute ) I don't see him after school either.
The thing about him changing schools totally blew me away, though I tried not to show it (I probably wouldn't have known until like, the last day, but a teacher came up to him and started chatting with him about it). Just the thought of him not being here makes me extremely upset-I think he is an amazing guy-he's friendly, he's nice, he's smart, he's handsome, and obviously shows attention to me and I really like him... But I can't help but wonder if I'm his foreplay of some sorts? Like, today after he chatted with me he left me and went off with his other female friend and didn't came back (this was at lunch time). Meh, this is so confusing... Have I confused you enough yet? lol

...I wonder if he'll be moving houses, too. I'll try talking with him about this tomorrow if I get to see him. If he won't be moving houses, how do you think I can get him to meet up with me and my other mates after school? I don't wanna loose contact with him!

[Jacksonian]

Originally Posted by DevM

I can almost guarantee that he is dying for your friendship to go a step further than it is. Judging by what you said, yeah some guys are just flirts *looks at self*, but to go as far as sincerely showing some light affection is a green light for "whats next". The husband and wife joking thing, ehh, I mean I wouldn't recommend that (it may create some sort of akwardness if things went sour?). But my number one opinion I want to throw out there is NOT to rush things. Young love is some topsy turvy territory, so take it slow :] Just ease up to him, even ask him how he feels (not some obvious, DO YOU LIKE ME?!?!), but just some indirect conversation about it. Poke some holes :P And then go on from there. And of course, there are those guys out there that are in it to "hit it and quit it", but not ALL. No doubt you will meet those throughout life, so just beee careful. And I highly suggest not even considering giving up the v-card until you've been in a steady relationship for quite some time!

Well said DevM. Well said.

And in response to him going with another female somewhere else, I echo DevM's message, be careful and don't give up anything until you are in a steady position.