Over analyzing? In need of male opinion

freelancertex78 · **Over analyzing? In need of male opinion -** February 2nd 2009, 12:22 PM

I tend to over analyze things in relationships and dating all the time. But there's one particular thing that's bugging me. I know it's stupid but it's driving me crazy.

Backstory:
There's a guy that I've known for a good year and a halfish. He's an amazing friend and stuff. Always nice, always listens to me when I'm stressed or upset. He puts up with my craziness. I'm not really sure why.

He and I have this... interesting friendship though. We have amazing chemistry and we're both attracted to each other. I know this because he often tells me that I'm cute. We've talked about what it would be like if we ever dated, even when he was already in a committed relationship. He thought I was joking, but I told him recently that I really wasn't.

He's single..ish. I'm not sure what the dynamics are of the relationship he's in. He told me that he was single, but after I admitted to wanting to date him he said that he was 'seeing someone'. Which I already kind of knew.

However, for the past three days he's had this away message up on AIM that says "if I got you..."

It's driving me nuts. I keep thinking that it's about me but I don't want to get my hopes up. Can I please have an objective third party opinion on this? Maybe then I'll stop going crazy.

Gaia · *14-04-2010. R.R <3*

Ok.. so I'm a girl... but you're getting my opinion anyway

I do think it sounds like he likes you, yet he's scared, he doesn't want to let go of what he has right now in case whatever it is he could have with you may not work.
Call him on it. Ask him what it is he really wants, and then you'll know where you stand.
Sounds scary, but you know you'll feel better after doing it.
Good luck.
Lou.

freelancertex78 · **Re: Over analyzing? In need of male opinion -** February 2nd 2009, 01:16 PM

Thanks.
I'll try talking to him next time he's on, but I wanna do it when he's not away. God knows when he'll take that away message down. xD

NICO · **Re: Over analyzing? In need of male opinion -** February 2nd 2009, 01:21 PM

frankly? i'm gonna say that i think this bloke is messing with your head. he's into you, he's distant, he's single, he's not...truthfully, i think you should only give someone your time who deserves it and this guy doesn't seem to be taking you seriously. but i also realize that just because i said this isn't going to make you stop fancying him, and you shouldn't if you think he's worth it. i mean, what do i know? i've never met the bloke.

as for his AIM message it could be a number of things, but if you really want to know? i say ask him.

freelancertex78 · **Re: Over analyzing? In need of male opinion -** February 2nd 2009, 01:52 PM

Eh, it also helps that I told him that I'm taking a break right now. I just neglected to tell him that it's been a nine month break. xD
But that thought passed through my head as well. However, I don't think that he'd purposely mess with my head. I think he's just as confused as I am.
I'll ask him when I get the chance. For the most part I'm abstaining from a relationship until college/Uni, but I want to know what's going on with him before I do.

Anyuser · **Re: Over analyzing? In need of male opinion -** February 3rd 2009, 03:22 PM

It's rare that one person knows all the facts in these scenarios.

I'm sure you're a lovely girl, and maybe he does feel that way about you, but relationships CAN'T end well, regardless of what anyone else tells you. if you got into a relationship, it would end, and you wouldn't be as close of friends (if friends at all) in the end. Sometimes keeping a loyal friend is the logical move.

freelancertex78 · **Re: Over analyzing? In need of male opinion -** February 3rd 2009, 03:59 PM

Yeah. At this moment in time I've basically given up and moved on. I've decided to continue with my plan to wait until college. It seems to be the only thing that works and that I can stick to. Besides, I'm having fun being a flirt.

Hyper Sonic · **Re: Over analyzing? In need of male opinion -** February 3rd 2009, 04:03 PM

Hehe, good for you ^_^
it's nice being able to let your hair down so to speak

freelancertex78 · **Re: Over analyzing? In need of male opinion -** February 3rd 2009, 04:51 PM

xD
Well, I flirt with my guy friends and that's really enough for me. I mean it would be nice to have a boyfriend but at this point I don't know if I like this guy because I actually like him or because I just want companionship. Besides, I've got another guy that I flirt with. He's not interested in dating and nor am I. Good friendship there I think.