My boyfriend

[Anonymous.]

Okay, for those who dont know, I have a boyfriend who is autistic. He has Aspergers Syndrome and can be impossible at times.

My boyfriend is impossible!!! He can be caring and sweet at times and sometimes he is the complete opposite. I hate that!! I know I have to be patient and understanding, but Ive done that for almost three years and I have had enough!!!!!!! Im thinking of breaking it off, its just not worth it. What do I do? Should I hold on? Should I break it off? What do I do?

*Cries*

[Algernon]

Already three years.. And you can't handle it. Imagine the next five ten years. Talk to him and tell him how you feel if he's capable. But if he's not, it's time to bite the bullet and leave.

[SimplyComplex]

Hey Chloe,

It sounds to me like this is a hard position. Bottom line, no one else can make the decision for you. We don't know him. I also can't imagine how hard it must bed sometimes. I think you should weigh the facts and feelings and completely base this on what you need to do for you. I mean, relationships are hard, yes. But, they need to be enjoyable and worth something for them to ever be good for you. You simply can't have a good, healthy relationship built on a broken building. If you can get my analogy. (I hope it was clear). Anyway, I think you should look at the pros and cons and look at what you want. Look at what you're looking for out of this relationship, or any relationship. If it isn't worth it, and it's too hard, then you need to do what is best for you. So, YOU can keep going. It's nice to do things for other people, but, you simply can't do things for others all the time and expect and hope for the best on your end. I'm sorry I didn't give a straight answer, but, I hope this helped you a bit. Take care of yourself. If you need anything, I'm only a PM away. :]

~Stay strong and have faith.

[BrittneyNicole]

That sounds like a really tough spot. You've dealt with it for three years, so it might just be a rough spot in your relationship. But, then again, it might not be. Ultimately, you'll have to decide whether you can handle having a boyfriend who is slightly disabled.

[J&M's Mommy]

I think putting up with it for 3 years would be difficult and if you aren't happy now than most likely you wont be happy today, tomorrow, or next week.

[Gaia]

Relationships are two sided. You need to be happy as well as him. If you're not happy then something isn't working.
Talk to him before you do anything. But if you feel breaking up with him if the best idea, then break up with him. You need to think of your happiness as well as his.
Lou.

[Anonymous.]

I know...I tried about a hundred times to talk to him...but he just wont understand. I guess its because of his autism that he doesnt understand which makes it harder.

[Allons-y!]

If you're to the point where it's just work trying to hold the relationship together, it's time to break it off. Relationships shouldn't feel like a chore.
However, if you don't feel ready or completely sure about breaking it off totally, try taking a break.

[Anonymous.]

Yeah, thats what Im doing...taking a break...because I am not emotionally ready to break it off...yet.

[zumbaqueen2012]

If you feel like you need a break then take one.
The first guy I dated had aspergers syndrome and I'm not gonna lie, I found it really really difficult and ended up breaking it off after about 2 or 3 weeks cos there was no communication between us.
If you have had enough, then you've had enough. There's no point continuing on if you are both not happy because a relationship is a 2 way street.
Take care.
If you need to talk I'm here.

[Lizzie]

If you aren’t happy now, and grateful that you are in a relationship with him everyday. That is not fair to him. He disserves to be in a relationship with someone who really wants to be in a relationship with him. It is very common at your age to date a guy for a few years, you change, he changes, and then you just grow apart. Whether or not you can see it, you have changed in the past few years, we all have grown and learned new things. And that is OK, that is normal. But it is not fair to stay with him, when your heart is really not there. I think you need to reevaluated this relationship.

[Anonymous.]

I know...and I am taking a break and he and I are talking. I didnt exactly break up with him because I am not emotionally ready for that. You can close this. I will make a new thread with updates.