Might Be A Cliche Question But...

[Alucard]

So here's the deal: I've been liking one of my guy friends for a long while but the trouble is he likes someone else. He is also very religious and very traditional, but he is really open to new things. I want to ask him out, but I'm afraid of rejection. I know that's really a cliche thing, but I just don't want it to be awkward between us after. Any ideas on what I should do?

[DeadlySin]

I'd say go for it.
You are both friends so you obviously like each other in that way.
Why not try to build something off of it?
Casually tell him you make like him more than a friend.
Then ask him out, as friends at first.
The ask him out out later.
If that makes sense?

[Stratus]

I agree with Bridget,
Guys don't always know what they want untill it hits them in the face.
SO explain to him the feelings you are having for him,
I'm sure if you guys are friends then everything will end up fine in the end.
so yea give it a try, and if he ends up saying no in the end don't just give up.
There are a lot of guys in Texas!! Don't just get caught up on one yet!

[Alucard]

I know I shouldn't get caught up in it, but he's the first guy I've really, truly liked in over a year and when he was talking to me about the girl he liked, his tone completely changed to something soft and tender. It sucked. I want to tell him, but everytime I try it feels like my throat closes up and I can't do it because of fear of rejection.

[Black Rose]

rejection is just a part of life. everyone goes through it. trust me. im setting myself up for major rejection but i dont care i have to try to win his heart back.

[TheNumber42]

Rejection really hurts, but if he's your friend, I am sure he will do everything he can to make sure he doesn't hurt you, even if he doesn't want to go out with you. And if he does, isn't it better to risk rejection and find out? You'll never know if you don't try, right?

As far as whether it will make things awkward, probably at first. But give it a couple of days and things will be back to normal again. At least that has been my experience.

[PurpleMustang]

Hi there,

If you really like this guy, you have to tell him how you feel. It seems like you have a pretty good friendship, though, so think about this before you do anything. If you guys are great friends, I'm sure he'll understand the situation so that even if you do tell him how you feel and he does not reciprocate those feelings, you can go back to being the great friends you once were. Make sense?

If you're going to decide to tell him how you feel, do it in a way that makes you feel comfortable. You can call him, tell him in person, take him for dinner, write him a note, etc. There are so many ways to do this and ultimately, you need to choose a way that is most comfortable for you. Don't rush this, as well. This kind of thing takes time and don't feel pressured into doing anything you don't feel particularly comfortable doing.

I have found that getting help from close friends is very helpful. I've been having guy issues lately and today, I talked to four of my closest friends - two males and two females - to hear their opinion on my situation. I got a wide variety of different perspectives that helped me a lot. If you have friends like this, or even siblings or something, use these resources to help you get through this.

Good luck.