in denial of ending it?

[emoticon]

so before you can truely understand my issue you need to know some key parts. so heres go. Theres this girl i've been with for about a month, i know really early in the relationship. however i've known her about 8 years. and though those eight years we've grown together so much, we've been though me being suicidal and her being sucidal, her cutting, her being anorexic, stupid drama, just pretty much everything. and instead of falling apart, we grew closer, we leaned on eachother to the point where there isn't something i cant think of or look at that doesn't remind me of her. She is so special to me. and now we're having issues.
now that we're together she just doesn't want me lustfully anymore. is this fixable? this is a person i pretty much see myself being with for the rest of my life so i really really want this to work out. but can i work this out? or am i in denial? i don't want to break up with her, i don't want anyone else to touch her. but gah i just don't know what to do. so please anything would be of help.

[Garyl]

While its odd that she doesnt want you physically now that you are together, its not entirely unheard of happening. Since you are really close friends, I doubt this is a situation where she was using you to get sex and is now cutting you off. My hunch is it is something else. You mentioned you both have a lot of issues; could it be that she is going through a depression right now? Lots of times people just get a lower sex drive for a while, but it doesnt mean they dont want you. I would give it some time before coming to any judgements.

I would talk to her about it and tell her it bothers you, and try to understand where she is coming from. Communication is key in situations like these. If in time it turns out this continues and you dont think you can handle it, you have to ask yourself how important the sexual component of the relationship is to you. In other words, you have to decide if its a deal breaker. First, though, talk to her and try to sort this out. That may help clear things up for you.

[MermaidMassacre]

She may just need time to grow on the idea.
Give it some time, she might come around.
I don't know how you can fix it and just make her want you sexually.
That just happens.
Talk to her about it maybe?
Ask if she really wants to be together.
If so, don't worry about it too much.
No sense breaking up over it if you truly like her.

Communication is key in all relationships, and this might be a good time for it.
Ask her what she really wants.
You can work it out from there.

Good luck. =)

[emoticon]

i have talked to her about it. Yes she is going though some depression right now. but it has not affected her sex drive with other people!