3 years and counting... This is not good!!

[canook182]

So yeah like the title, I was dumped by this girl three years ago back in jan of 07. And i thought i was going to get back together with her at the time.. It was a hs relationship, nothin i thought was too serious or anything. But as time went on, I realized I REALLY loved this girl. And for all of me, i cant get over this girl. Yeah she was my first love and all. But this is borderline obession. I still think about her everyday... Almost all the time of everyday. I really want to get over this girl. Everywhere i look im reminded of her. I have tried dating other people, or like changing my lifestyle, getting rid of everything she gave me. All of those things would not work. Im goin to therapy and all this. I NEED this girl out of my mind and away so i can meet someone better and finally move on. Please help me.

[Black Rose]

look your first love is the hardest to get rid of. i know thats not what you want to hear but have you tried talking to her about this?

[canook182]

I have been told that.. And honestly I have accepted that. What I haven't accepted is the fact that I CAN get over her... For some reason.. its just not happenin

[delilah]

Why don't you tell her?

Me and my guy broke up when we were 15 after a not very serious relationship. 2 years later he told me he had always loved me and i'd been waiting to hear that for 2 years!

so give it a shot

[Sioned]

I find it helps if every time you think of her you remind yourself of all the bad things she's done, if she hasn't done that, then make up stuff. Think she cheated on you [edited] during your relationship or something.

[DanielR]

Right... none of the answers seem to have helped eh?

Lets see... DON'T make up things about her to make yourself hate her. BIG MISTAKE... Why would you even recommend that Sioned? >_>

Sit down and think about it for a while. Is your life best with, or without her? Seriously think about it... if the answer is BEST WITH... you need to then think about how you can possibly win her back. If she's with another guy... forget it... If she's single, go ahead. Here's my tips:

= Write a letter to her. Don't make it three pages long... just keep it quick and simple.

= Write her a poem stating your feelings. Believe me, some women REALLY love poems

= Make 1 (ONE) phone call to her, ask her if you can have a serious GROWN UP conversation with her IN PERSON, organize a private place to meet... and tell her how you feel. Bring the poem if you wish

Don't do ALL of these. Pick two... and only do it once. If she ignores you... then you're better off without her. It's hard to hear, not easy to do... but you will need to walk away.

Good luck... and I hope you win her back

[emoticon]

your not going to get rid of her impact on you overnight. sorry but it's gonna take time. take it slow and when i say slow i mean really slow. start to slowly cut her out.example: if you smile at her whenever you see her, stop. and then the next week stop something small like that too. this will give you time to accept the fact that she will be gone.

[canook182]

See the thing is that I have not seen her or talked to her in such a long time.. Probably since last November. I know it will take a LONG time but 3 years really? I do NOT want her back. I know that for sure. I just want to get over her. Iv accepted the fact(or i think) that I have lost her. And that took some time. I just to move on with my life

[Black Rose]

look i dated a guy for 5 years then dumped him for some guy thats dumped me 6 times. i know hoe hard it is to forget people... expecially, in my case, u see them every day... but im trying to get over him and cant so im trying one last time to get with him and if he says no im gonna find me a new bf... or maybe even a gf... im bi-curious... anyways back to you. i think you should try one last time. let her know how you truely feel and if she rejects you... which isnt the easiest to take... then dont let it get you down and find a new gf. im sure there are plenty of girls you could find attractive and date them. chances are after 3 years theres bound to be a bunch of girls who like you but are too shy to ask you out. i had that issue with this guy that ive dated 6 times.

not sure that advice will help much. just had ta try, again.

[emoticon]

well then, you probably dont want to hear this, but it's gonna take time. yeah you probably will always have her in your mind somewhere. and when the time comes, you will be able to drown her out somewhat but not completely. all you need is time.