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March 21st 2010, 03:21 AM
Okay so, I have an anxiety disorder. I worry too much, and I get paranoid at stupid little things.
You can imagine what this can do to a relationship. But see, he doesn't do anything wrong...he hasn't really given me a real reason not to trust him, but things he's done in his past relationships make me worry. But I'm trying to tell myself our relationship is different, and he has changed since then. It is so hard telling myself this though when he goes out and drinks, and afosdiufusd I just need help. I need advice. I don't know if I should break up with him because I get so paranoid, but the thing is that doesn't make any sense because I shouldn't punish him because of my own faults. He loves me so much, and I don't want to throw that away...we've been together since December 2nd 2008. I need help guys. I really do. I am so confused. Can someone tell me what to do? Do I break up with him because of my own paranoia and anxiety, or do I stay with him and endure the pain I feel for no real reason? He doesn't want me going on meds, and I've tried councelling and it does not help. I just don't know what to do... __DEVINxLEIGH, --- "Sometimes I have moments in life, where I am able to forget for one minute, exactly how lonely I am. I live for those moments. Is that pathetic or brave?" --- |
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Re: ADVICE, pleeeeease :( -
March 21st 2010, 06:11 AM
i have the same problem well okay i don't have an disorder, but i'm very paranoid. i'm just dealing with the pain though, because i know if i back out for that reason, i'll probably regret. Plus to me backing out for that reason is like not finishing a really good book. you'll never know what will happen and i'll probably kick myself for not finishing what could possibly be amazing.
" One day at a time, this is enough. Do not look back and grieve over the past for it is gone; and do not be troubled about the future, for it has not yet come. Live in the present, and make it so beautiful it will be worth remembering. "
i wonder when i'll finally jsut start accepting myself, when i'll stop saying i wish i could be like that person. i have facebook, and myspace. and you can ask for it. :P |
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Re: ADVICE, pleeeeease :( -
March 22nd 2010, 01:51 AM
If you believe that going on meds may help, then by all means, talk to a psychiatrist about it! Anxiety disorders are both psychological AND biological in nature... so it makes sense that counseling may not necessarily solve all of your problems, when the chemical imbalance remains. If you and your boyfriend truly want to make this relationship work, then don't you think it's worth considering every option BEFORE considering breaking up?
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Re: ADVICE, pleeeeease :( -
March 22nd 2010, 01:57 AM
It's not me that doesn't want to go on meds, I do, but it's my boyfriend, and my parents for that matter. I don't know what to do anymore....I can't stand the constant worrying and paranoia, but I don't want to leave him for something that isn't his fault...
__DEVINxLEIGH, --- "Sometimes I have moments in life, where I am able to forget for one minute, exactly how lonely I am. I live for those moments. Is that pathetic or brave?" --- |
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Re: ADVICE, pleeeeease :( -
March 22nd 2010, 02:09 AM
You may think you're paranoid but who knows. I know for a fact a lot of people who think they're in a concrete, non-cheating relationship end up wrong. And never find out.
Just remember a famous quote, "ignorance is bliss" Trust me, it is bliss. |
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Re: ADVICE, pleeeeease :( -
March 22nd 2010, 02:28 AM
Nah, I am 100% positive he isn't cheating. He spends all his free time with me, literally - ALL, and if he isn't with me, he's at work. And his job doesn't give him any oppurtunity to cheat either. Plus I am extremely close with his family, his little sister is basically my little sister, and she would tell me. And when he goes out I'm usually always with him. And he straight up told me that if he was going to cheat on me, he'd just break up with me first.
I know it's just the anxiety that makes me paranoid, I just don't know how to stop it. How can you just push aside thoughts? __DEVINxLEIGH, --- "Sometimes I have moments in life, where I am able to forget for one minute, exactly how lonely I am. I live for those moments. Is that pathetic or brave?" --- |
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