How can I open up more?

[zebrachaotic]

Okay well for the past few days I've been in a huge fight with my boyfriend. The reason is a long story, but I guess I've just "changed" and he doesn't feel "us" anymore, or he feels like he doesn't get anything from me. He says he wants me to be more open with him.

The only problems is that I've never been an open person. I don't know how to be. I don't know how to express my feelings to him because I'm shy about it. It kind of embarrasses me. So can anyone please help me out? How do I go about opening up to him without feeling unconfident?

[Spellbound]

Hi there and welcome to Teen Help

I think that to open up, you just have to relax. He wants you to open up to him, so you shouldn't feel embarrassed about what you say. You should feel glad that you have someone who is there to listen. Just say what's on your mind. Talk to him about what happened between you two and how those things make you feel.
Start off your first sentence with "I feel ____ because...." and then tell him how you feel about what happened. Once you get out how you're generally feeling you might open up more and get more into detail.
I hope everything works out for you.

[ShimmeringFaerie]

You could write letters to him? That's what I used to do when I wasn't confident enough to be open with my boyfriend. But eventually, you will have to learn to be more open because that's how relationships should be. And don't worry about being shy; your boyfriend cares about you and wants to know how you're really feeling. That's a really great attribute to have in a boyfriend.