need some advice on what i should do bout this boy?

[wonderlove]

heyy, im stacey. and i like this guy that goes to my school. and he is really fun to be around and very cute. he likes me too and last week, he told me that he is kinda in love with me. since then we have been saying i love you to each other, and we both want to kiss each other, but heres the problem. this guy is named jared and he has a girlfriend, he loves her too. but he always flirts with me and im falling for him, what should i do??

[Katrina]

Hi Stacey. I'm going to move your post on over to Relationships and Dating.

Basically, if Jared is dating someone right now (as in, in a relationship), you don't need to be "that" girl that helps him cheat on her with. Being cheated on is no fun, and it's just probably not something you want to do to someone else. So, if he's going to like you and start flirting with you and everything else, and you decide that you want to pursue that, you need to make sure he's not already currently in a relationship before anything happens. As for the other guy, it sounds like you like him too. Just remember, you can't have both of them. Take a step back and analyze what's going on here. Also, be careful about saying "I love you" before you actually truly do love someone -- it can cause consequences and premature attachment! Good luck.

[london]

It depends. Does he tell you he wants to be with you? Does he spend more time on you than her? If he is planning on breaking up with her to be with you, then maybe stick around. Don't get too attached though, let him prove himself. Usually I would say no forget him he's not even worth it. But my boyfriend was the same way, and he broke up with his girlfriend so we could be together. And now we are truely happy with each other. And I don't regret any of it.

[ShimmeringFaerie]

Okay, he either needs to break up with his girlfriend, before anything else happens between the two of you, or you need to move on. It isn't okay for him to be saying that he loves you when he is with someone else. Personally I think that's worse than physically cheating on someone. He needs to pick which one of you he cares about more.

But until he decides, it would probably be best for you to stop saying that you love him and everything. You know that he has a girlfriend and if anything happens between the two of you then it will be just as much your fault as his. If you were with this guy, how would you feel if some other girl was flirting with him behind your back?