am i too jealous?

[meganlzbth]

heyyy...so my gf and i broke up a little while ago, but we're still good friends friends. the thing is that i'm still crazy for her, even though she just wants to be friends right now. and like, i get kinda jealous when she hangs out with other people. not that i don't like her other friends, i just get kinda mad and think to myself like, oh she's hanging out with them rather than me...or oh, why didn't she ask me to hang out...
i don't mean to sound clingy or anything, but i get kinda upset if i IM her or call her and she's like, oh i'm going out with so-and-so tonight...

am i too jealous?

[ShimmeringFaerie]

Well, yes. If you aren't together anymore then you don't really have any say on who she hangs out with and when. She is free to do whatever she wants. I can see why you're jealous and I've definitely been the same way before, but there isn't anything you can do about it. Maybe find some other people to hang out with so you're not left thinking about who she is with all the time?

[meganlzbth]

i know...like, i don't mind that she hangs out with other people, but then she's always saying like, "i miss you" and all this stuff but she still wants to just be friends. it's like she's always sending me mixed signals...i'm not asking for commitment or anything, just some stability : /
i can kind of understand why she just wants to be friends, but if that's what she wants, she shouldn't be like, "i miss you so much" and "i love you" and all that stuff : /

[ShimmeringFaerie]

No, she shouldn't. That's really unfair to you. Maybe you could explain to her that she is sending you mixed signals and that if she really does just want to be friends, then she shouldn't be saying stuff like that?

[Spellbound]

It's normal to feel the way you do, you were in a relationship with her and you're jealous that she's hanging with other people instead of you. I can completely relate to that feeling. But she's sending you mixed signals. I think what you have to do is talk to her about this. Tell her you don't like being lead on, and that if she just wants to be friends then she shouldn't be saying things like that. It's no fair to you.
Good luck and take care.

[meganlzbth]

thanks guys :]
i'll give that a try...
i just dont want to make things all blahhhh or anything...
i hope she understands : /