How to express yourself w/out starting a fight

[AcidRayne*OG*]

My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over two months, but I'm having this problem. First of all, I need to backtrack. I am 23 weeks pregnant with our first daughter. We broke up when I first got pregnant, but things have been resolved. So this relationship is pretty important if you get what I mean. Everything has been okay, except the other day we had made plans the night before for me to take him out to dinner, because I wanted to. Well then he calls me the next day to tell me that his brother wanted him to go to his house (in a town about 20 minutes away from ours) to spend time with him. The thing is, he had just gotten back from a week at his brother's. His brother doesn't really support our relationship, and unfortunately, his brother is like his best friend. He told me he probably wouldn't go, and then he calls a few hours later from his brother's house. I didn't talk with him long, because 1.) I was pissed 2.) I could feel myself starting to cry, and I didn't want to be on the phone with him while I did that. I didn't tell him I was upset. Well, that was yesterday, and as far as I know, he didn't even make an effort to call me. I know that tomorrow is Easter, but he could have at least stayed true to what he told me, or called me. I'm pretty bummed about it, and I know my silence is the problem, but I feel like I'm walking on eggshells, and I don't want to start a fight, but honestly, I'm bitter about the whole situation. I just want to be cold to him. What should I do, how should I go about expressing myself without starting a fight?

[ShimmeringFaerie]

Well, the thing is that you expressing yourself might very well start a fight. But it doesn't have to be all yelling and screaming and ignoring each other sort of fight. If you make an effort to stay calm, then you can have an argument without it being a "fight". Even if he starts getting angry at you, you can say "I don't want to have a huge fight, I just want to talk about this". I think you'll find that it's pretty hard to yell at someone who doesn't yell back.

Just sit your boyfriend down and tell him that you need to talk about something. Then explain that it really wasn't fair of him to cancel on you when you'd already made plans. You really need to tell him what is bothering you, because bottling things up never works. And you shouldn't have to feel like you need to walk on eggshells. You should be able to tell him what you're really feeling. Just stay calm, be honest, and if things get too heated, just walk away and take the time to cool down before continuing the discussion.

Good luck .