levels of clinglyness

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so what are levels of clingyness that you can and cannot handle?

[Imagine]

I'm VERY clingy. I prefer someone clingy as well tbh.

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Originally Posted by Angelina.

I'm VERY clingy. I prefer someone clingy as well tbh.

same here! but really what do you define as clingy?

[Imagine]

Always wanting to talk to the other person..

[Magic.]

I like clingyness where they want to see me a lot / make an effort to see me. And I kinda like it when they get a little jealous, like not for serious reasons, but it shows me they care because I get jealous as well.
Too much? One of my ex's broke up with me and then we got back together. Two weeks later he wanted to discuss our wedding and what we would call our children. I wasn't sure about getting back together in the first place and that just proved far too much clingyness :/

[Tynan]

i dont really like clingyness. and neither does my girlfriend. we like that we have our own lives and we dont have to know everything little thing about it.

[Lugez]

Clinginess = bad

Give me my space, please.

[her_beautiful_mistake]

Hate clingy people. I need my own space and I don't want to always talk to you. I feel like saying 'no, go away'.

[The Devil's Advocate ??]

I like very clingy people if we have some sort of mutual feeling...If not, it's just stalker...And I'm not very clingy myself....I just like to give and get hugs, so what ?

[Algernon]

I like to be stuck to my boyfriends side most of the time when he's around. We're just two-peas in a pod...

What I can't tolerate is humping your leg crazy! My friend Fred, that I've known for years, had this girlfriend. She was cool with all of us at first and at the end It was SOOO bad I told her off. I told her "Oh my God, leave him alone for two seconds, you're humping his leg 24/7!" She was insane. Now he has another girlfriend and still is after him... After she moved to another state.

[.Brittany.]

I love cuddling, and holding onto the person I love.

[Bibliophile]

I like my space, but I like cuddles too?

[xxpaigiexx]

I can tolerate clinglyness to an extent.
I like it when someone goes out of their way to see me and spend time with me, but when it gets to the extent of you're spending every waking moment either together or speaking to each other it gets too much. You run out of things to say and you get bored of a relationship quickly. I've had boys that have wanted to spend too much time with me or too little but right now I think me and my boyfriend have it about right. We see each other often but not all the time and we speak to each other throughout the day but not constantly. He has his friends and space and I have mine. I'm happy with this... it's the right combo for me

[TheBabyEater]

I think it depends on the person. lol like from my boyfriend, I love it when he's clingy because I'm probably just as clingy to him. My best friend, I usually don't mind when she always wants to hang out because we always have a lot of fun. Other people though, it can quickly get annoying if I honestly don't want to hang out with them or don't even like them that much, but act nice to them anyway because they're nice to me. So... Depends

[Lu82]

it depends, i can be clingy towards the person i like, and sometimes i just hate that, but i can't control it. I dont like when people are clingy towards me though i once met this guy and he was so annoying i felt like a couldnt breathe!

[Briana]

Originally Posted by .Brittany.

I love cuddling, and holding onto the person I love.

agreed. I like to be clingy with Brittany...like holding hands all the time and cuddling and hugging.

[Spellbound]

If someone is clingy when it is not a mutual attraction (when I don't like them at all) then it's just plain annoying.
But if someone that I have feelings for really wants to talk to me and wants to know about me and spend a lot of time with me, then I like it. Because when I'm attracted to someone I want to spend a whole lot of time with them, and it means a lot when I know that they want the same.

[Incompris]

I don't like clingy. I don't like people having to know every little thing I do or spending every second of every day with me. Sometimes I want to be left alone, I just can't handle being around people for too long. If I'm in a relationship and she's always wanting to talk all day and/or know every move I make I feel smothered and not trusted.

The only person I am okay with being clingy is my little sister, but her mother walked out on her recently and I really don't want her thinking I hate her too.

[Umberto]

cant bear clingyness, i need space and alone time, i find it quite stressful if they are trying to talk or message me all the time

[PlayingPretend]

I'm an extremely clingy person, but though I'm usually a very jealous person, when it comes to boyfriend, I trust him enough to not be concerned about female friends or if a girl might be "checking him out," simply because he's in love with me and he's committed to me.

I do, however, continue to have the underlying fear that he will a) abandon me b) stop loving me or c) break-up with me shortly after having sex (although he's done a hell of a job proving that isn't what he's after). It's something I've been working on processing through, and they're abandonment issues I've been dealing with since I was 14 (a combination of my father, mother and best friend/paternal figure at the time).

Because of those issues, I tend to be a bit clingier than I should be. I like contact, and though I feel it'd be unfair to demand constant contact, I do like to talk on a daily basis (not through text whilst we're out and about, but actually sitting down and making an effort to talk to one another) if even it's only to say goodnight to one another and I like to have a regular Skype date, simply because the phone and the internet are our main ways of communication, seeing as he's all the way in England.

We have had issues with the fact he's a social person, and I'm more keep-to-myself-and-boyfriend-and-family-and-a-close-friend-or-two, but I feel we've done an okay job of sorting it out, and things are quite good now. He can be clingy and boyfriendy and I love it as much as he loves me being clingy and girlfriendy, but we somehow manage to throw some independence into the mix... although when he's here, we're all over one another.

[bitesize]

I hate clingy people. I can get jealous sometimes, but I'm not clingy ~ and I need space!! I'm not really sure how to define what I think of clinginess because it's different for different people ~ last year I saw my boyfriend six days a week because we were in school together, and that didn't bother me at all, but three eyars ago I was with someone who rang me every day and that drove me crazy.

I suppose someone who wanted to see me every day or have long phone conversations every day would annoy me. A daily text would be fine, but if it was a huge conversation it might be too much. The guy I'm seeing now I only see once a week, which doesnt feel like enough, but we talk every day by text or facebook chat, and it's nice (:

Also someone who constantly showered me with compliments, or let me know that they depended on me or my company, would drive me insane. It's so off-putting.

[I-Love-him]

i'm very clingy :P for example, i always want to speak to my boyfriend everyday and he's the same. i like clingyness but i wouldn't like it if it turned into over controlling, for example not allowing me to speak to other guys and friends etc etc. but yh i love a bit of clingyness.

[Jasna88]

I am not clingy person at all but my BF often is and it can be very suffocating. I told him ofcourse, so he is trying not to be. with little success.

[Soliloquy]

I am not a very clingy person at all. I love people, but I need my time away from them too. Excessive clinginess is a definite turn-off in a partner. I need someone I can love and do sweet little things like cuddle with, but who also understands that sometimes I just need my space.

[Sonofalich]

I'm mixed really, I hate clingy girls when I'm just looking for a bit of fun. But in a relationship a bit of clingyness is cute, but its a fine line between cute and annoying atleast with me.

I am a very social and girls flirt with me all the time, so my girlfriend has to be able to cope with that, some cannot. Some can.

[don'tstopbelievin]

I'm not clingy at all. I'm the opposite of clingy. So many guys have given up on me because they think I'm uninterested when that's not the case! I have a hard time showing my interest and investing too much emotion into another person. I hate holding hands with a passion. I hate hate hate it. I like cuddles but only for so long. I couldn't sit on the sofa all day cuddling.. probably not for even the entire length of a film. I like to cuddle in bed though, that's fine. I hate being the first to text in a new day. I just hate the idea of coming across clingy. I am so paranoid about seeming to be clingy that I go to the opposite end of the spectrum without meaning to.

I hate clingy when it's possessively clingy. Draping arms over me when I'm with friends or having me sit on your lap in groups of people.. to me it's all a bit "she is mine".. I don't know I've just never liked it. I like it when a guy wants to know what youre doing and lets you know he's thinking of you but I couldn't handle that on a daily basis.

[rhapsody]

i always used to be quite distant in relationships cos I was terrified of being seen as clingy and annoying. However, my current boyfriend is extremely clingy and so I've started to let my guard down and let my natural, clingy self come out.

We text each other pretty much constantly throughout the day when we are apart and talk on the phone in the afternoon or evening. We usually spend 3-4 days a week together. Oh and we do that annoying couple thing where we check with each other before making any plans. We schedule our lives around each other. We tell each other everything and spend so much time together that we've taken on each other's mannerisms and we often say the same thing at the same time/ finish each other's sentences. Most of our single friends are getting pretty sick of it, which i can understand, but when you're so in love it's hard to stop. And although all my single friends are distancing themselves from me, all my coupled-up friends have become much closer to me.

[WillO'Wisp]

I like being around a person quite a bit, just not all the time every single day. I couldn't stand it when someone is jealous of me hanging out with my friends for a day or two instead of him, someone who always is touching me and hanging on me and always wanting to be around me 24/7, I would get tired of that after awhile.