I think shes perfect.

[NoMasks]

Hmmm how do I start, let see I first met her (Amanda) in the crew for the schools drama, and didn't really talk to her much at that point, it wasn't until later in the year when I saw her again at one of the dances at our school, right after that dance(the next week), crew for the musical began and I saw her and a friend of hers (Emily) at crew and we began hanging out, and grew a crush on her friend for awhile which ended tragically because eventually Emily started dating a very unsavory character and we learned things about Emily that we didn't like so much, and eventually we both disassociated ourselves from her. Well about 2 monthes later still during musical season, i developed a crush on another girl in crew (Marisol), but she has had her heart set on a guy who has none for the longest time. I asked her out and eventually turned me down, and started avoiding me because I liked her and she felt it would be awkward to be around me so.....yeah, again Amanda was always there to console me. Now another 4 months later Amanda and I go everywhere together and everyone thinks we are a couple wherever we go, mall, movies, my friends think so, my parents think so, and I have realized that we are so similar and that I am growing more and more attracted to her all the time we are together, well whats the problem you ask? Well She lives with her mom for 10 months of the year in PA and 2 in Cali with her father and she has a boyfriend there. And theres an age diff, Im a senior in highschool about to graduate and shes a freshman going to be a sophomore, our ages though are 18 and 15>16 in a little more than a month. I will be attending a local college so it is not like I am going away. I think myself a gentlemen of some sort and do not want to step in on another guys girlfriend but she only sees him 2 months of the year, and quite frankly don't think hes being faithful. I am not sure what to do, I don't to sit here and swoon while she dates another guy but I don't want to ruin an amazing friendship, what should I do?

[JackOffJill]

Thats a really tough situation I think. But there is something that you could try- since you two are already really good friends (and Im assuming you two talk about stuff) why dont you ask her about her relationship with her boyfriend in Cali. Find out from her how she thinks thats going, what she thinks of the guy, as much info as you can find out. Because if you find out that she thinks everything is going great and that she wants to be with this guy- then thats kinda your signal that unfortunately you have to try to move on. But if you find out that things are really rocky and that shes not sure if she wants to be with the guy, then you can talk to her about that. Find out what she doesnt like about him and things like that. Then slowly you can start to feel out the situation and if you feel like she wants to be with someone else then you can slowly start making your move. But I think that first you have to find out more about how she sees her relationship with her boyfriend because even though you dont think the guy is being faithful, you kinda have a biased opinion since you want her to leave him to be with you.
I hope that made sense haha. And as for the age difference, its really nothing to worry about. A LOT of people I know start dating people when they are a senior in high school and the other person is a freshman. There is nothing wrong with that (as long as you know the laws in your state as far as sexual relationships go just in case you do start dating because you dont want to get in trouble). So yeah the age difference- really thats nothing to worry about. Good luck with figuring out if you should make a move or not....if you want to talk more you can PM me.

[PSY]

I agree with Karyn. The two of you are friends, and she's helped you through two rejections... so why not ask about her boyfriend? It's not safe to assume that her relationship is weak (or her boyfriend is unfaithful) simply because she only sees him two months out of the year... maybe they spend hours upon hours talking to each other on the phone.

[NoMasks]

Well, just today she on fb she posted she is sometimes blinded by the positives of a situation and doesn't see the negatives, and I asked her what she meant, eventually she said "It's kinda hard to explain. But the only reason it works for me is because i've always thought I'd see him more than once over the summer. When he goes to college is kinda different but the more I think about it the more it seems it's not gonna work...I guess thats basically it"

And I asked Amanda if she was thinking of breaking up with him and she responded "No, not at the moment. I know normal long distance relationships never work, but this isn't normal... Like i said, it's hard to explain"


Apparently according to another good friend that we share, that even while in California they usually only see eachother via webcam.

[JackOffJill]

I think that unfortunately she kinda gave you your answer when she said that she is not planning on breaking up with her boyfriend. I mean you can still tell her how you feel, but then you do run the risk of that possibly messing up the friendship that you have with her.

[NoMasks]

This is why I honestly want to stop trying completely.

[JackOffJill]

what do you mean this is why you want to stop trying completely? trying what? to find a girl?