I'm falling for him... and it scares me

[xxpaigiexx]

One of my best friends and I have been getting increasingly closer, and it has been happening for months... except I have done my upmost best to ignore it all and pretend it's not happening, but it is.
I find myself now getting jealous and wanting to see him more and speak to him more.
We see each other at least a couple of times a week as we live near each other.
We've always been a little bit touchy feely with each other but recently it has become more. I love laying on his chest, when I'm just laying with him I feel so rested and at ease, when it comes to moving I have to force myself.

I think the thing that scares me so much is
1. How close we are as friends and
2. How scarily similar we are.
He's a very jealous guy and I am out going and like going out and spending time with friends and I'm admittedly a bit of a flirt.
He has basically told me recently he really wants a relationship, and I have told him I like him but I care too much about the friendship.
Lately it has become harder for me to spend time with him and let nothing happen.
I have kissed him recently, I was drunk and I've apologised and explained that was unfair of me.
He has been calling my friend and speaking to her about me and him, because my friend is all for me and Josh getting together she thinks he'll be good for me because he'll keep me a little more grounded and a little less all over the place.

I want things to go further, but I am so cautious. We're really good friends but there is that undeniable spark you don't find with many people.
I just don't want it to become one of those relationships that end badly and we end up hating each other.
I need to get my head straight before tomorrow as he's coming round to see me... any thoughts please, I am so confused.

[StabMyHeartLover]

I say if your calm down & make a pro's & con's list of about him

I really think you should go out with him, you only have one life to live , so why be afarid?

Just casue you start dating him doesn't mean its going to end badly. It could be a really great thing for you, since you really like him & he seems to like you. Good luck.

[Snufkin]

I say you go for it, honestly. It sounds like you have a great connection, you both want to be with each other, it'll obviously make you happy. If you're really worried about the friendship thing, try taking it very slowly, though it sounds like that's basically what's been happening anyway.

It won't ruin your friendship with him. No, not all relationships at this age will last forever, but because you have such a solid friendship going into it, that will still be there should things not go as great as planned. Most people don't stay friends after relationships because they don't know how, yet you both obviously do.

I don't think there's much to lose.

[99 Problems]

The thing you need to remember is, if you never take any risks you will never gain anything.

Life is about taking risks sometimes and this is one of those opportunities. Sure you could do nothing and just let this dwindle out, but then you will be forever surrounded with the "What ifs"

Also sure it could end badly, that is 100% a likely ending, however it is just as likely that you could both end it on mutual grounds and be okay. There is also a chance that you will never break up.

Go for it and stop worrying if you truly like him, don't deny yourself that chance.

[savealife723]

I don't think it would be bad to try it with him. It's clearly put that he's falling for you, and so why be scared to fall for him?
The chance just might be worth it in the end :]
I say you should go for it and try it.
I know that you're worried about the end result, but you said that you are both very similar,
so as long as neither of you mess things up drastically, the break up should be easy when it comes.
but don't go into a relationship expecting a bad break-up,
that's not good at all.

I say try it out and see how it goes.
Good luck (:

[xxpaigiexx]

I can see what you guys are all saying about giving things a chance. We have both spoken about things a lot lately and it's good that we can both be honest with each other about what we think. He's basically said he's not going to try and hold me back from doing everything that I want to do. He says he doesn't care about my job, the fact that I attract a lot of male attention whilst I'm at work, he says he doesn't mind me going out and he said he wouldn't expect me to spend all of my free time with him. But part of me is scared that he will do all of these things, I know him well enough to know how jealous he does get and how funny he can get about things.
I've made a decision I am going to see how these feelings develop and I'm not going to say anything just yet as for the past couple of days he has been acting strangely towards me and I don't want to make an idiot of myself.
So for now I'll keep my mouth shut but I'll keep you guys posted on what happens :s
Thank you all!
Paige

[99 Problems]

Well yeah if you do decide to go for it, then you are going to have to talk about how you interact with other people because that is just part of you. I am exactly the same, 90% of my friends are females and I'm constantly flirting with them all, even though it means absolutely nothing.

It's quite hard for most girlfriends to deal with.

[Danzy]

He's seems good so i think u should guy him a try but still be careful at the same time. Good luck on whichever decision u choose