Soldier I met online.

[Killer_Queen229]

There's this guy I've known online for a few months and we like each other (Yes I know it's coming from me). But I feel like he really would forget about me when he comes home from Iraq (assuming he's deployed like he has stated) But I've seen him on cam and he's always in his army uniform (assuming he's really in the army). We talk for hours. We did try to develop an online relationship before but it did not work (yes, I know). He said he's really determined to be with me and wants to come see me during his road trip he's taking when he returns, but I told him he can't come and see me. He said the reason why he stopped talking to me and deserted me was because he was having personal issues and his head was not clear. He was not speaking to anyone but his family and said it was a dick move on his part. He's respectful and isn't rude to me. But I'm hoping I'm not his happiness booster for the last few weeks he is there for. But I've known him longer than a few weeks. I keep telling him to not like me and to find someone who can he actually see in real life. But he said he wants me (as he says he does) and that he's determined. He's stationed in Texas and I am here in New England. I have a feeling us being together won't happen any time soon if it does and I don't want him waiting around when he has his own life. But when we talk on cam and he sees my face he smiles a lot and says he likes talking to me and really likes me a lot. He has 4 more years in the army. What should I do? I feel like I know what to do but I'm not sure because I like him too and I smile when I see his face too! I've seen his Myspace and Facebook. As well as guys he says are his roommates in the backround. I am 18 and he's 23.

[iHEAVENn]

Hm. Well
My younger sister met a soldier online some where and they had a long distance relationship for about a year. They got engaged, she then moved out to his home state and looked for a house to rent. He came back from over seas, they got married.. They've been together about 2 years I think, they do move a LOT but they seem to be making it work.

So yeah...... it can happen.

However if you don't feel that it's right then just tell him. No sense in him thinking you're the best thing since Icey pops if there's no relationship to grow.

[losing touch.]

I'm sure it could work, but it would be very difficult. You have to ask yourself if you can deal with the separation that would come with dating a guy who is in the army. I'm not saying he is, but he may well be talking to loads of other girls like he's talking to you. Not trying to burst your bubble but if this doesn't work out and you have your heart set on it you'll be hurt. Carry on talking to him, but just make sure you're realistic with what can happen.

[Eyes on Fire-Xx]

Well, I live in new england too, and my sister did too, but the guy she loved was stationed in texas too, and he flew back every chance he got untill they got engaged, then she moved down to texas with him. now they are married and have a house on base and are happy :3 theres allways hope! my sister thought she couldnt see him eather, now they are married ^_^

[Killer_Queen229]

Yeah because I want it to work. I know how lonely people get when they are miles away from home and in a country they aren't familiar with. It's really on him because I'll be here when he gets home and it's his choice if he wants to contact me ever again. if anything we talked about or if I meant anything to him etc.. Will be on him.

[WillO'Wisp]

Well I'll tell you from experience, meeting someone on the internet then trying to make something happen thinking it'll work out, won't work out in the long run and you'll only end up being dissapointed. I'm not trying to be mean, I'm just telling you the truth...online relationships never work out and when you meet someone online instead of in person, it doesn't work out in the ending result.

[PlayingPretend]

Originally Posted by Dragon.Kingdom

Well I'll tell you from experience, meeting someone on the internet then trying to make something happen thinking it'll work out, won't work out in the long run and you'll only end up being dissapointed. I'm not trying to be mean, I'm just telling you the truth...online relationships never work out and when you meet someone online instead of in person, it doesn't work out in the ending result.

Everyone else covered what I would have normally, but I just wanted to state that my boyfriend and I met online and have been happily involved for a good year. Sure, we have our ups and downs, like any couple, but we're still going strong. I don't believe in dating for the sole purpose of marriage, so by my standards, we have most certainly worked out.

[Lu82]

Good luck with that. i met a soldier and end up falling in love with him( well i liked him a lot) but now hes gone and he decided to brake whatever relationship we had together when he got deployed to Afghanistan. i think being in a long distance relationship is hard for almost everybody, but if youre willing to go through that i hope it works out.

[iHEAVENn]

Originally Posted by Dragon.Kingdom

Well I'll tell you from experience, meeting someone on the internet then trying to make something happen thinking it'll work out, won't work out in the long run and you'll only end up being dissapointed. I'm not trying to be mean, I'm just telling you the truth...online relationships never work out and when you meet someone online instead of in person, it doesn't work out in the ending result.

Uh kay?
My sisters relationship started online.. they're married now (happily)
My mom met her fiance online.. They're engaged (happily)
I met my husband on Myspace.. 3 years of marriage now.. (happily)

It's not WHERE you meet the person. It's WHAT you do in the relationship and HOW you do it

Both people have to be willing to take the bad moments and make them into something memorable, something good. You can't just expect to never get hurt in the relationship, you just have to be willing to work through the hurt and back to the love and happiness you found.

[abandoning]

Go Amy.

[MacGuffin]

Originally Posted by Dragon.Kingdom

Well I'll tell you from experience, meeting someone on the internet then trying to make something happen thinking it'll work out, won't work out in the long run and you'll only end up being dissapointed. I'm not trying to be mean, I'm just telling you the truth...online relationships never work out and when you meet someone online instead of in person, it doesn't work out in the ending result.

That's a lot of "never" and "won't" and "doesn't" in there. I think it's an awfully broad move to make a generalization like that about online relationships; plenty do fail, but plenty also have and do work (just like in-person relationships). I don't personally do online relationships, but I did meet my current boyfriend online months ago. I always thought we would be friends online; I never saw it going anywhere. As fate would have it, he ended up moving quite close to me a few months back, and we turned out to have even more chemistry in person than the excellent chemistry we had online. We are now happily together. So it CAN work.


However, being with a soldier is hard work, especially if he is about to be deployed. Not only is the distance and communication obstacle enough, but war can change people. There are a lot of challenges one has to be prepared for, and they are all the more difficult to maneuver online. I think you're going to have to sit down and think about all those challenges, and then both of you will need to ask yourselves if you can handle them. If it is what you both really want and are truly committed to, then you may proceed with caution, but treat the situation with great care. There is too much potential for it to fall apart if you don't.