Really Confusing

[*bee_16]

This will most likely be long and confusing so I apologize in advance.

At the beginning of this last school year, when both of us were sophomores, I became friends with this guy I'll just call B. We became close fast, but were just friends because he already had a girlfriend. We texted all the time. Despite my honest efforts not too, I started liking him as more than just a friend. I guess it was mutual, because he broke up with his girlfriend around that time, probably November. A few days later, he asked me what I wanted out of our current relationship. I answered that even though I enjoyed being friends, but I thought that more could be better. He agreed, and he said he'd need some time to get over his ex, but that he really wanted something for us.
It was maybe a week later that he got back together with his exgirlfriend. That hurt so bad, but he honestly is a good guy and I couldn't imagine not being at least his friend, so I kind of let it slide by. They stayed together for a couple more months, until about April, when they broke up for good.
We had remained close friends, even though I still liked him, deep down.
After the breakup, he flirted with me and said things that made me think I still had a chance. Of course, all my friends knew about everything, and even my best friend's sister, who is a year younger, knew. She (I'll call her K) talked to him occasionally, and told me several times how much she wished he would just ask me out. So, when B asked K out, and she said yes, I was beyond hurt. I cried for a long time, then I was angry; I remained angry for several days until I stopped caring. The whole thing just seemed petty and I thought I was done with it.
B and I somehow remained decent friends throughout this; due to my inability to stop talking to him even though we rarely texted anymore. About three weeks ago, she broke up with him because "she had too much on her plate." He was heartbroken, and he came to me for comfort, which of course I gave. I really thought I was over liking him in any way other than friends. We started texting again, and last week he and I went for a walk. He told me that the reason he stopped texting me was becasue K was jealous.
Now I'm feeling that I might like him again; but I don't know if it could work out. I know that K has been telling him she's changed and so on, but I know she hasn't and that she'll just break his heart again. I really don't want to see that happen. I guess I'm just really confused about my own feelings, as well as what he wants, if he wants anything, from our relationship.

So thanks for taking the time to read this

[StabMyHeartLover]

It sounds like he's playing you or he see's nothing more then surrport from you.
Its wrong of him to keep leading you on when he really has no intent to date you.
You need to have a talk with him about this & why he keeps doing it.
Or always he's going to keep hurting you.
Try talking to other guys, it'll help keep your mind off of him
Good luck =-)

p.s. Welcome to TeenHelp =-)

[Danzy]

Althou u think he's a good guy in the end your the one hurtin. It seems as if he keeps leadin u on and either has no intentions of makin it a relationship or jus knows you'll always be there wen he needs u so he's makin u a rebound it.. I think u should try to get over him and not get ur hopes up

[*bee_16]

I guess I know you're both right, but I really can't see not talking to him anymore, even as just friends. I know it's possible to get over him; I've done it before and I need to do it now. It's just, he says these things like "you brighten my day" and it makes me wonder. He invited me to his sister's grad party this weekend, and now I don;t know if I should go.

Oh, and since I'm percieved as the "quiet nice girl", I don't really get around to talking to other guys very often.

I appreciate the advice from both of you

[PSY]

It doesn't seem like he knows what he wants - out of you AND relationships in general. The way I see it, if he really wants to be with you, then he'll wait for a few weeks/months... and won't go running back to one of his ex's, or settle for one of your mutual friends. Hopefully, during the summer months, you'll be able to figure out what's best for you, and whether or not he's really worth it.