Still not over her... please help

[thousand*faces]

Hey guys. So basically, I was dating this girl for almost three years. I was truly in Love with her and she was the world to me. I would’ve done anything for her, even if it meant my life.

Over the course of a couple days, her attitude and mood around me drastically changed. I asked her what was wrong and she said that it was nothing. I said “I’m losing you, aren’t I?” and it was then and there that she broke up with me. Never gave me a reason, and she acted like I meant nothing to her.

It has been about a year and a half now since the break-up, and there are still things that remind me of her. I’m finally to the point where I may be able to date someone else, but my heart is still broken. She has moved on to someone new, and has even given her virginity to him.

I just don’t know what to do. Time hasn’t seemed to help much and all of this has contributed to my self-injury. I know it’s not normal, but I’ve hardly been able to shed a tear since and it really bothers me.

Please, to anyone that has anything to say on this, thank you so much.

~Thomas

[StabMyHeartLover]

How about have some fun?
You really just got out of a long reaslhip, so why not just flirt & kiss around.
Nothing siersou, but don't be a player.
It'll help keep your mind off of her.

[Danzy]

Since she has moved on and ur still thinkin about her i dont think u should go into a relationship wit anyone jus yet. Try havin fun hangin out with friends do stuff to occupy ur time so u wont be thinkin about her. && althou it seems as if time doesn't heal all wounds there is a time for everything urs just haven't reach as yet.

[PSY]

I'm sorry to hear about your situation. =( Three years is a long time to be with someone, and I can imagine how a sudden break-up, without any explanation whatsoever, could lead to a lot of heartache.

My ex-boyfriend didn't cope with our break-up very well, until he started changing the environment around him. Basically, he moved away and started a new career. Drastic, I know... and I don't think you'd have to go quite that far. Perhaps now would be a good time to take advantage of the summer months and try something new! Get yourself out of this rut and focus on other things, such as activities that you and your girlfriend didn't share, or meet new people that aren't mutual friends of yours and your girlfriend's. I'm not going to suggest you flirt/date in order to move on. That works for some people... but in your case, it may just lead to a rebound relationship, or a relationship that you're not 100% emotionally invested in.

[*~Circus Clown~*]

Hey there.

First of all, "I know its not normal." The thing is, break ups are different for everyone. Every situations i different, the feelings involved are different. There is no normal. After a break up with my last boyfriend, I didn't date for 2 years. Never even looked. No one could compare to him. Luckily, I have overcome that. But like I said, it took me 2 years. I know that may sound like forever, but its how long I needed. And you need to take however long you need.

Personally, I think you should just find a hobby of some sorts. Or a job. Find something to fill your time so your not able to sit and mope. Thats one of the worst things you could do. When me and my ex broke up, I started doing volunteer work, and babysitting. I enjoyed it. It gave me something to be happy about. That may also help you stop the self inuring. Its hard, when you have so much emotion bottled up on the inside. But there are many more ways to get it out then SHing.Take sometime to look over this link Its alternatives to self injury and it may really help you. Personally, painting has been great for me.

Hope things are well. Take care.