How would you feel about this?

[JakeSim]

So I met this girl and I finally felt like I may have found someone else. I called her this morning because she wanted me to abd a little after the phone just randomly hung up and a few mins later she called me back. I was assuming maybe she hung up on me, maybe she just lost the call. Then we started talking again and then she said a few things and I couldn't understand what she was saying and then I just heard I'll call you back. About a minute later my friend said she called him (she just met him with me yesterday at the ugh school field) and started making whale and dolphin noises (just playing arous, she does this lol). But tha just made me think, do she just want to hang up on me and want to call him? Like, were not in a relationship or anything but it just made me feel weird and upset.

Also, I'm really just assuming here but I did say before she hung up that she would call me back and then a min later I texted her saying I'll ttyl I'm just about to leave soon and I got to get a few things done. Then like 2 mins later my friend texted me and said that. Idk. I think I'm just assuming and digging to into it like my last relationship. It needs to stop.

[brokenmercy]

I don't quite understand what you are saying with oyur friend textin you the same thing.... Can you clarify a bit???

[WillO'Wisp]

Just ask her, do you want to talk to me or are you phoning him? Just tell her to be honest with you and straight forward, if she likes you then she should be honest with you at least.
But remember don't be too jealous, cause like you said you are not in a relationship...

[Danzy]

What u wrote its not quite clear. I think ur sayin she callin uu and textin him? If anything just talk to her and try work it out

[JakeSim]

Sorry if it didn't sound clear. I was talking to her on the phone, then she said I'll call you back..after saying something like 3 times that didn't sound clear at all. Then i texted after she hung up saying that I'll talk to her later because I was leaving shortly. Then my friend texted me saying she just called him.

So I texted her in kind of a playing way saying "hey! Thanks for hanging up on me and calling cam!" She replied with "my friend Adele wanted me
tooooo". Then I said oh "I didn't know your friend Adele was with you!" then she said "she was" but then i was on her facebook and she was with Adele at like 1:30 probably and we were talking on the phone at the time of like 8:30-8:45. This just makes me question.

[JakeSim]

Also, i texted her after I met up with her for an hour and I didn't get any response at all. Texted her twice today and no responses at all. Don't know what's up.

[PlayingPretend]

Well I wouldn't overthink or obsess over this issue with her friend. Adele was over at 1:30 according to FB. Facebook isn't all knowing. It can determine when someone's coming over, when someone's planning to come over, when someone wants to come over, yadda yadda, but it can't determine how long they stay or what ultimately ends up happening. Maybe Adele came over in the afternoon but ended up staying until late or maybe she spent the night. Who can be 100% certain, and honestly, is it really worth doing the digging?

It sounds as though you're still in the process of getting to know this girl or at least that you're only recently starting to like her, and though this behaviour, to overthink and overstress, can be seen as somewhat normal, it's a behaviour you really need to nip in the bud. If you let it run rampant, it could easily boil over into your relationship (if you and this girl ever became an item) and that would cause more than enough problems to set the relationship on a solid path to destruction. So my advice is to stop obsessing, or at least overthinking, over whether or not she was with Adele and concentrate on what's happening in this moment.

Maybe she's been busy? I have a friend who I meet up with once or twice a week, and I occasionally text him after we've met up only to not receive a response. Other times I've texted him and reaped the same result. Sometimes it's because his phone has died, other times he's been busy, other times he's gotten distracted, sometimes the text hasn't gone through etc. Honestly, texting someone really isn't a reliable way of communication, and it offers both you and the other person an easy-out. If you want to get a hold of her, then I recommend catching her on something like Facebook chat or another instant messenger or I would even recommend calling her, but I'd probably do so tomorrow afternoon, simply to space out your attempts to contact her.

[JakeSim]

Originally Posted by PlayingPretend

Well I wouldn't overthink or obsess over this issue with her friend. Adele was over at 1:30 according to FB. Facebook isn't all knowing. It can determine when someone's coming over, when someone's planning to come over, when someone wants to come over, yadda yadda, but it can't determine how long they stay or what ultimately ends up happening. Maybe Adele came over in the afternoon but ended up staying until late or maybe she spent the night. Who can be 100% certain, and honestly, is it really worth doing the digging?

It sounds as though you're still in the process of getting to know this girl or at least that you're only recently starting to like her, and though this behaviour, to overthink and overstress, can be seen as somewhat normal, it's a behaviour you really need to nip in the bud. If you let it run rampant, it could easily boil over into your relationship (if you and this girl ever became an item) and that would cause more than enough problems to set the relationship on a solid path to destruction. So my advice is to stop obsessing, or at least overthinking, over whether or not she was with Adele and concentrate on what's happening in this moment.

Maybe she's been busy? I have a friend who I meet up with once or twice a week, and I occasionally text him after we've met up only to not receive a response. Other times I've texted him and reaped the same result. Sometimes it's because his phone has died, other times he's been busy, other times he's gotten distracted, sometimes the text hasn't gone through etc. Honestly, texting someone really isn't a reliable way of communication, and it offers both you and the other person an easy-out. If you want to get a hold of her, then I recommend catching her on something like Facebook chat or another instant messenger or I would even recommend calling her, but I'd probably do so tomorrow afternoon, simply to space out your attempts to contact her.

Hey PlayingPretend. Thank you for the response. I left her a facebook message earlier and I know she was online for a while and I never received a response from that either..Like I don't get it, she seemed all over me and now..nothing.

[Allons-y!]

Hey, I know it's really frustrating when someone won't get back to you. Technology can suck like that sometimes...it's like, there are SO many ways someone can NOT contact you! What I've learned about that is this: you've got to accept that sometimes you have to leave it up to them. Leave one wall post on FB to say what's up, call me. Text once to see if they want to hang out. After that, the ball is in their court. If they want to call you, they'll call. Trust me. Otherwise, if they're busy or don't feel like talking anyway, all you're doing is spending a lot of time stressing/worrying about stuff that you can't do anything about, and that's no fun! Plus, if you like them romantically, sometimes we get carried away and keep trying to get a response and start to look desperate...which is never attractive. Again...if she wants to hang out, she'll get in touch. =]

I would let her know asap you're interested in her. The thing is, people spend a LOT of time playing the "I like her but I'm not going to tell her because maybe she doesn't like me back but on the other hand maybe she does and oh no who is she talking to and does she like him more than me?" game. And it's so not worth it. You've got nothing to lose, because if you tell her you like her and she doesn't feel the same, you can MOVE ON, and you can NOT spend a good amount of your life trying to figure out if she likes you, because you already know! So just be up front. Think of all the time you'll save!

Besides that, sometimes, people are shy and won't make the first move. And if you don't make it and they don't make it, there's no way you can get together! So really, just by saying something, you increase the chance by about 50%!

So basically what I'm saying is...let her know how you feel (whether it's "I want to hang out!" or "I like you!") and then let her make a decision. You can't change the way she feels, so it's best to put how YOU feel up front to begin with =]

Oh, and by the way? People who NEVER get back to you are SO not worth your time. Who wants to be waiting around by the phone all the time? Not fun!

Good luck!

[JakeSim]

Eh well it's encouraging when you see this girl with another guy in pictures she just uploaded on her fb..

Obviously it could be just a friend of hers or something but when she doesn't respond at all on 2 days and then I see that..it just makes me wonder.

I just felt like I finally found someone I'm interested in.

[PSY]

Either she's not interested, or she's just one of those girls who's "scatterbrained". xD Personally, I would call (not text) and ask her to be more straightforward with you in the future. If she can't talk at the moment, that's fine... if she doesn't know when she'll be able to call back, that's fine... so long as she's honest with you.

[Pelios]

Originally Posted by JakeSim

she doesn't respond at all on 2 days and then I see that..it just makes me wonder.

Originally Posted by JakeSim

Also, i texted her after I met up with her for an hour and I didn't get any response at all. Texted her twice today and no responses at all. Don't know what's up.

I hate to break the news but it seen to me like she is not interested in you. If you texted her and called her and she didn't respond maybe she is not into you and is afraid to tell you. I would say move on she can't be that busy in two days not to respond to you.

[JakeSim]

I guess so, I haven't even attempted calling her because there has still been no response via text or facebook. But then I went to a dance party the other night, i danced with 4 girls but got turned down by one and that kind of ruined my night cause it was my first time actually dancing and stuff. I let things get to me clearly..