umm... just... argh... help?

[xander]

my girlfriend of a year and 4 months, just stopped talking to me lately, we've had a few problems, but i am pretty sure we sorted them, but she still just wouldn't text me back or anything. so okay, well she said she might meet me Monday, okay, so im waiting for her to say she can or cant. last night she went to a party with some friends, my friends too, but i didnt et invited... ah well. when my friend who was guna talk to her turned up, she was already smashed, and my friend told me this morning she got off with everyone, made out with a few people and then threw up everywhere, then was forced to have a shower. then someone took her away to sober her up. this guy that did that, he's really great alot of the time, he's a good friend, but he can be a little... yeah. so i dont know if something happened there. but she's never done anything like this before... its all really out of character... and well.. i dunno if she's hinting or what. i've text her this morning sayin will she meet me today, i really need to talk to her, and that if she didnt text me back, then i'd take the hint she doesnt wanna be with me... but in just dont know what to do... because i love her, she loves me.. i thought it was that simple, we had problems but we worked them out.. and now... i just dont know...because she sends the odd text, and she always says she loves me... i dont know if she hit rock bottom or anything, because she normally tells me these things... i just dont know.. a little help. i seriously, i know this sounds pathetic, i cant live without her...

[L.K.]

I'm sorry to hear about your recent troubles with your girlfriend. Since it sounds like this is the first time she's just ignored you and not responded to texts, I'm suspecting your relationship might be showing some deep cracks. You say she's out of character by getting wasted and such, and that is a big problem if so. Whenever people suddenly act differently, especially when they're in a relationship, something about the relationship has changed. Whether her feelings for you have decreased, or she is considering to be single now, any other reason for her being like this, means this might be the end of it. I hate to say this because I don't want to hurt you but this is the reality of the situation. Refusing to talk to you and suddenly being a party girl and making out is definitely not something someone in a year long relationship should be doing at all. Once you get ahold of her, talk with her about whether this relationship is still heading the right direction. I understand that you love her, but maybe she doesn't anymore. Again, I'm sorry to hear and say all of this.

[xander]

Originally Posted by L.K.

I'm sorry to hear about your recent troubles with your girlfriend. Since it sounds like this is the first time she's just ignored you and not responded to texts, I'm suspecting your relationship might be showing some deep cracks. You say she's out of character by getting wasted and such, and that is a big problem if so. Whenever people suddenly act differently, especially when they're in a relationship, something about the relationship has changed. Whether her feelings for you have decreased, or she is considering to be single now, any other reason for her being like this, means this might be the end of it. I hate to say this because I don't want to hurt you but this is the reality of the situation. Refusing to talk to you and suddenly being a party girl and making out is definitely not something someone in a year long relationship should be doing at all. Once you get ahold of her, talk with her about whether this relationship is still heading the right direction. I understand that you love her, but maybe she doesn't anymore. Again, I'm sorry to hear and say all of this.

its just so... i dunno, my little sister, thinks that she's headin for a crash.. and well i'll do anything for her, she just never told me anything... if this is the end of it.. then i just dont want to go on really, i know that sounds pathetic... but its true... i cant live without her.. shes the only person who's ever felt the same way back to me as i did to her... i dont have anything to fall back on... my parents are useless, they will just go, focus on your school work, but i've finished school now, and i have one exam i couldnt give 2 shits about.. and well, then i've got 2 months of nothing... i'll sit in my room and rot away... and if im without her... i just wont eat sleep, drink and waste away...

[L.K.]

I understand completely about her being the only person that's ever felt the same way, as well as having nothing to fall back on. If you feel this strongly, then just do the talk part and ignore the relationship consideration for the moment. The main task at hand is talking with her and about why she's doing these things all of a sudden. Once that's done, then you can decide whether you should reconsider the relationship (which I hope not, seeing as you obviously care for this girl very much).

Btw sorry if either of my posts offends you in any way.

[xander]

its okay, thats great advice thanks, i think i will do that x thank you x

[L.K.]

No problem. Everyone here is ready to help you out. PM me if you want to talk or need some advice.

[xander]

thanks x

[xander]

i just found out she made out with loads of people too, and its about 3, so she'll be up, hungover or not... she's obv ignoring me... and im just... its making me depressed, she and i were so strong, nothing brought us down, ya know?... and now this...

[L.K.]

Wow that's rough . Can you think of anything that could've possibly offended her by what you said or did? Maybe some random comment that made her frustrated? I honestly doubt you did anything of the sort, but it's a plausible cause as to why she's ignoring you.

[ShimmeringFaerie]

Well, my first thought is: the friend who told you that she made out with lots of people, can you trust him/her? Sometimes even people you trust can exaggerate situations. So wait to talk to your girlfriend. Obviously if everyone says that she was kissing people, then you can be pretty confident that she did, but if it's just one person, be careful.

If she is ignoring you, it's probably because she is either angry at you for something, or more likely, she is incredibly embarrassed about her actions last night and is scared about your reaction. Call her. This isn't really something that can be discussed or even start to be discussed via text.

I'm sorry for saying this, but in a worse case scenario - if you can't work this out... I hate to say this and be all "peppy", but you can get through it. Ending a relationship that has gone on for so long is hard, but not impossible. Your parents might not help, but you obviously have friends and you will be okay. And just because she is the only person who has felt the same way about you doesn't mean that no one else ever will.

But I hope it works out for you . PM me if you ever need to talk.

[PSY]

First of all, can you trust this information? If so, then I think you really need to examine this relationship, and decide whether or not it's worth salvaging. If you can't trust this information, then perhaps you could swing by your girlfriend's house when you know she'll be home, so that the two of you can discuss things in person. If she wants to break up with you, then the least she can do is be honest with you, vs. jerking you around by kissing multiple boys behind your back. If she wants to work things out... then she NEEDS to communicate with you.