"I'm so fat"

[GIR]

I'm a 15 year old male. The only thing i ever wanted in life was someone to love and be in a relationship with. Luckily for me, i found the perfect girl for me and we are comfortable with eachother 100%
We can talk to eachother about anything and I love her so much.
However, she has gone through alot in the past like cutting herself and suicide attempts. After she met me, she stopped for the most part, but theres one thing that really bothers me. She has this self hatred thing where she hates her body and all that. She frequentlty complains about her hips and just...everything about her body and it doesnt only annoy me, but I also disagree with it. I think she's the prettiest person in the world (im not joking) and I dont want her to hate her amazing body.
She is going to real therapy every week i believe and she has been for a long time. And she has become much more comfortable with her body since her and I have gotten closer, but it hurts me so much when she complains. I know shes not doing it for attention, because i give her all the attention in the world, its just a bad habit she has and shes extremely insecure. Anyways...please help me. i'm sorry my writing is all mixed up, im just so heartbroken over all of this and i cant think straight. Please help me.

[StabMyHeartLover]

You need to tell her how that makes you feel when she talks about her body like that.
Also tell her if she hates her body so much then she should change it to be heathery.
It does no good if she's just going to compllain about it.

[BrokenHeart315]

Keep telling her she's beautiful to you, and no one else matters.
And never stop telling her that.

[Allons-y!]

Just keep telling her what you told us. You can't change the way she sees herself (you just can't); all you can do is make sure she's always reminded that YOU love her exactly the way she is. Honestly, try not to worry about it; you can't change this and the more you worry or try to fix it, the more exhausted it will make you.
EDIT:
P.S. And she really does listen when you tell her she's beautiful, even if she acts like she doesn't. It really does make an impact. You are helping her. =]

[GIR]

I do tell her how I feel and it's making her feel bad about it. I just want her to be happy with herself. But Allons-y, thanks. That helps alot.
She has gotten much more comfortable with herself since we've been together so maybe it'll be gone for good eventually. I don't know.
But thanks, all of you. I really appreciate that I can talk to someone about it

EDIT: Another question...how should I respond when she says something against her body?

[Allons-y!]

Just say "No, you aren't." If you feel like it, you can add a compliment or something, but just saying that she's not fat/ugly/whatever is enough, too. Compliments are best when you really, honestly mean them. And like I said, they do help.

[GIR]

Thanks ALOT! But everytime I compliment her, she says "eh" like she's unsure. That's when I don't know what to do and I usually end up yelling at her.

[Allons-y!]

Oooh, try not to yell at her. I know it's frustrating when it's so obvious to you that her opinion of herself is just wrong. I know. But when you yell at her, she feels even worse that she's making you mad. The thought process is like this "I'm ugly. And now I've made him mad. =( I suck." So if you say she's beautiful and she says "Eh," just say something like "You ARE. End of discussion." If she continues to dispute it, I'd just shake my head and...start tickling her or something, haha. Let her know you think she's beautiful in ways OTHER than just saying it, too. For example, if her hair or clothes look nice, mention it. But also, tell her the other things you like about her--make sure it's not JUST about the way she looks. Tell her how you love how she knows so much about xxxx, or that her laugh is cute...whatever it is you love about her =] I'm sure there's a lot.

[GIR]

Wow. Thanks alot. I'll do that. Thank you so much!

[PSY]

To be honest, I don't believe I've EVER met a young woman who was 100% comfortable with her body. =P I'm not at all surprised that she's complaining about various things, given her age and insecurities. All you can really do is keep telling her how beautiful she is (both when she complains AND at random points throughout the week). I love it when my boyfriend comes up behind me, wraps his arms around me, and whispers "You're beautiful" in my ear. =D

As for her saying "eh"... don't let that get you down. She IS listening and she IS taking what you say to heart. She's just too stubborn to admit that you're probably right. xD

[rednailpolish92]

being on the other side of that... im really insecure about my body and have had several suicide attempts and i have struggled with cutting for 5 years. my ex-boyfriend would tell me that im beautiful and smart and talented. even though i never let him know it, i did really appreciate the compliments. compliment her on the other aspects fo her personality too... is she outgoing? caring? smart? let her know the other things you love most about her, while still maintaining the compliments about her body. let her know how you feel about her negativity about her body, but dont DWELL on it. that gets annoying and it really puts undue pressure on her to please you. you dont want that. if you are comfortable with it (and if yuve known her awhile now) maybe suggest working out together or starting a diet together? that will let her feel like youre there for her every step of the way, and she needs that. good luck!