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Unhappy wow. i feel like i've been beaten with a large stick.. - July 16th 2010, 11:00 AM

soo i've dated this guy the last 6 months, we were "official" at the end of january then through february then we broke up but kept talking. we fell in love, but he said we wouldn't make it official cause he was going into the army and leaving for basic. well i always had this intuition about this girl he was friends with. well now he is in basic and we have been talking over letter. buttt me and this girl, who is very nice got to talking.. he had dated the both of us and told us how he loved both of us. he dated her after we broke up a few weeks... we didn't know about each other and there is so much i cannot add here, its suuuuch a long story. but we want no drama for him and only the best for him... i just can't help but feeling every single thing he did for me was a lie. i gave him everything, my heart, my hope, i put my faith in him. i gave him my virginity... i support him in everything and look out for his sanity all the time. i care about him more than myself.. as he cared for me, so i thought. he's not like other boys. but maybe i'm wrong and i still see hope in this world.

but if i love him so much, why am i about to write him a letter telling him to go for the other girl? she loves him just as much as i do.... i just want to be his friend at least. i feel i can do that. i have grip on the rational side of me still at least. its just being smothered by the emotional side.

i just dont know. i want to hug him and make him happy. WHY DO I CARE FOR HIM SO MUCH... meh




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Re: wow. i feel like i've been beaten with a large stick.. - July 16th 2010, 06:28 PM

Well, I'm sorry for all that. It sounds like a terrible situation. I don't know what to say, it's really hard to trust someone who lied to you that way. Perhaps you could give him another chance, and if you two girls are comfortable, perhaps you can just be his friends, or try to have a relationship together? It may or may not work, and this is probably not the best solution. Do what you feel is comfortable, but fighting over someone just sucks. /:
   
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Re: wow. i feel like i've been beaten with a large stick.. - July 16th 2010, 11:48 PM

oh we planned on just being his friend. we don't want to fight over him and me and her both like each other and we know we love him as much as the other does. we don't want either of us to get hurt.. it sucks cause we can only send him letters right now cause he is in basic. and neither of us want to cause him unwanted stress while he is there. so we really aren't gonna tell him much except we both know and we still want to stay friends. and stuff.




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Re: wow. i feel like i've been beaten with a large stick.. - July 17th 2010, 08:11 AM

In my honest opinion, he doesn't deserve either of you two. Think about it: this guy tricked two separate girls into thinking that they were the only one for him, telling them that he loved them, lying to them, using them, and he could play it off well because he was going off into the army for basic training. He didn't want to make it official the second time around because he was fooling around with another girl and telling her SHE was his love, not because he was leaving.

Open your eyes. You need to drop his ass like a hot potato and realize that he is feeding off of your lack of self esteem, with both of you. Don't let him get away with this because you "don't want to cause him stress;" he got himself into this mess. If it blows up in his face while he is in basic training, too bad. He better find a way to cope. Seriously though, both of you sound like really good hearted girls. You both deserve better.


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