So Many Guys !

[LadeeSavage]

Okay, I need major advice on my relationships ?

So basicly I am torn between 3 guys when it comes to a serious relationship. I am all together torn between 5 guys.

Ill start from the beggining:

Back in September 2009 I began talking to this one guy on Myspace. I thought he was real cute and like 2 weeks later we exchanged numbers. After nonstop texting and daily phone calls for a week he asked me to be his girlfriend. I said yes because he was super sweet! Problem here though is that he lives in New Jersey meanwhile I live 4 hours away all the way in Virginia. Also, keep in mind I never met him! We were together 5 months and we never met. During the time we had a few small break ups. We broke up in February 2010, 2 weeks later I began talking to this other guy on Formspring. He was real nice and he knew some of my friends so we clicked right away. 2 days later I invited him over my house and we ended up getting together. Meanwhile, the first guy was still on my mind constantly. Me and the second guy broke up after I began talking to this other guy in April. It was so messed up for me to dump a guy for another guy I barely knew. Me and the third guy were together till June. During the time we were together though, I cheated like crazy. Me and the first guy barely talked, and me and the second guy were still talking and he told me he still loved me and still wanted to be with me even after I hurt him. After, me and the third guy broke uo the next i went to go hang out with the second guy. He asked me out again, but I said no, that I didnt want to rush into a relationship again. Then a week later the first guy asked me out again...and I said yes. Even though we still have not met! Me and the first guy are in love. Yet, I have love for the second guy as well. As for the third guy...the truth came out for the both of us. The first guy kind of long distance purposed I guess. I said yes. So, I am fifteen, engaged to a 17 year old guy I have never met! The second guy still wants to be with me and alone with that a guy who had a huge crush on me when I was like 8 wants to try things out. I cant say I am engaged because me and the first guy said it was going to be our secret till we meet and tell our parents. Then alone comes this guy that started off as someone I was just planning to have sex with but just a few hours ago he said he liked me. He is sooo sweet too, and naughty at the same time. So me and him planned to hang ou this week. Im also supposed to hang out with the second guy and ughh,, I just dont know what to do.

Anyone have advice?
I know its real confusing and a lot to read but I need major help...PLEASE!

[Alrex]

LOL

Honestly just weed out the online guys.

Online relationships are pretty pointless unless you plan to meet them sometime within a short while.

People are different online. I know this for a fact after meeting tons of people off Nexopia and myspace. TOTALLY different, 100% of the time they were totally not what I expected. Still cool but I imagined them differently.

[LadeeSavage]

Originally Posted by Alrex

LOL

Honestly just weed out the online guys.

Online relationships are pretty pointless unless you plan to meet them sometime within a short while.

People are different online. I know this for a fact after meeting tons of people off Nexopia and myspace. TOTALLY different, 100% of the time they were totally not what I expected. Still cool but I imagined them differently.

honestly that wasnt much help

[Fishgopop007]

I agree with alrex totally, try to move away from the online guys, people are not always who they seem.

Being engaged to someone you've never met? Well marriage is a huge commitment in itself, so being so young and not knowing someone before hand sounds like a baaad idea to me.

If your engaged and you truly have feelings for him why plan to have sex with someone else? People aren't always who they seem online...For all you know he could be sleeping around with many different people.

My personal advice is just break everything off and tell all of the guys that you just want to be friends, then wait until you find someone that you have feelings for and thats the ONLY person you have feelings for.

Sorry its slightly harsh but it's my solution.

[Alrex]

Originally Posted by LadeeSavage

honestly that wasnt much help

Thanks for being honest.

Try breaking up with all of them and getting your priorities straight.

Or write it out on paper, then eliminate until you have one guy left.

Personally, like I said earlier I would elimate the online people first.

[PSY]

I think the best thing you could do right now is to break off the engagement and stop dating (for months, or possibly even a year or two - one week definitely isn't long enough). This isn't meant to be an insult... but I believe that you may not be mature enough to handle a relationship at this point in your life.

[Brandon]

I'll break down the people that you like and tell you whether it would be a good idea to go for them, or not to go for them. I will explain why for each one.

Originally Posted by LadeeSavage

So basicly I am torn between 3 guys when it comes to a serious relationship. I am all together torn between 5 guys.

Firstly, if you're being overwhelmed with several different guys and you can't already decide on which one to choose, then you're not ready. You don't choose to fall in love with someone. And you can't fall in love with several guys at once. What you NEED to do is you need to allow more time and talk amongst those guys as friends. No need to rush into a relationship. If you've got five dudes who want to go out with you and yet you like all the dude's equally the same, do you think that you won't be tempted to mess around with a guy behind another guy's back? If you want to fall in love with someone, you need to be positive that they're the ones you want to fall in love with...not the other four dudes. With that being said...

Originally Posted by LadeeSavage

Back in September 2009 I began talking to this one guy on Myspace. I thought he was real cute and like 2 weeks later we exchanged numbers. After nonstop texting and daily phone calls for a week he asked me to be his girlfriend. I said yes because he was super sweet! Problem here though is that he lives in New Jersey

A lot of guys are super sweet over the internet and phone, but they are never guaranteed to be the same in real life. I'm not saying that every guy you meet on the internet is a 40 year old crazy guy, I'm saying that you can't always expect every guy on the internet to act the way they do in reality. Regardless of that fact, he lives far away from you. Unless you have transportation and you're willing to drive X amount of miles to see your boyfriend, then the relationship will probably not last very long. Online relationships tend to start off very strong, but they end rather abruptly because they realize that they've been lacking physical contact. The reason why I wouldn't choose him is because if you're unsure of dating him, then I don't see how you have the commitment to be in a long-distance relationship.

Originally Posted by LadeeSavage

meanwhile I live 4 hours away all the way in Virginia. Also, keep in mind I never met him! We were together 5 months and we never met.

A relationship should never be declared a relationship until you've met the guy in person and know what he's truly like in reality. Online relationships don't mean much to a lot of people. It's completely easy to fall in love with people over the internet, and at the same time...it is completely easy to cheat, get away with it, and not feel remorseful. Being in an online relationship with a dude you've never met is never a good move.

Originally Posted by LadeeSavage

He was real nice and he knew some of my friends so we clicked right away. 2 days later I invited him over my house and we ended up getting together. Meanwhile, the first guy was still on my mind constantly.

It's no good to date other people but yet still think about your first boyfriend. If you want to date other guys, you have to get over your first boyfriend. Either become friends with no emotional attachment whatsoever, or you gotta stop talking to him completely.

Originally Posted by LadeeSavage

Me and the second guy broke up after I began talking to this other guy in April. It was so messed up for me to dump a guy for another guy I barely knew.

So the second guy didn't mean that much to you. If you met him in real life and yet started talking to another guy in April, then he wasn't interesting enough to keep. Therefore, second is eliminated.

Originally Posted by LadeeSavage

Me and the third guy were together till June. During the time we were together though, I cheated like crazy.

Cheaters are likely to cheat again. If you went out with the third guy, you'd still be likely to cheat and thus are wasting your time with the third. Third is eliminated.

Originally Posted by LadeeSavage

The first guy kind of long distance purposed I guess. I said yes. So, I am fifteen, engaged to a 17 year old guy I have never met!

I'm sorry, but that's...not good. For one thing, you're 15 years old. You're rushing into getting engaged, number two...you've never met the guy in real life, and clearly don't know him enough to know for sure that he's the guy you want to spend the rest of your life with.

I think you should stick to having sex. No emotional attachments. These dudes don't seem like the kind of dude's you're interested in dating because you've cheated on most of them. If you're not dating, then there's no such thing as cheating. Don't confuse yourself by making the situation complex. You aren't ready for a long-term relationship, at least with the guys you're talking to, so just keep it simple and no attachments. Enjoy it up, wear protection, and then worry about relationships later.

[LadeeSavage]

thanks to you all. however i rethought everything&i am with the second guy. &haven't had thoughts about anyone else since me&him got back together. : )