Female Advice Preferred: 2 questions for females

[Markteenhelp]

Hey all been wonderen this alot lately and wanted to know your thoughts on this. Please comment

-1. How would/do you feel about your boyfriend smoking weed at most once a week?

-2. How would/do you feel if your boyfriend was bisexual?

[StrigidaeofChrono]

Bisexual I would not care in the least.
Weed smoking however I have watched a good deal of my friends crash and burn because of it. I am VERY agenst drug use.

[Hallelujah]

1. My boyfriend smoked weed at one point and I personally have a no drugs policy - he was acting like a total stoner all the time and I told him I would leave him if he carried on, so for me, it's a no-no. But that's me.

2. It wouldn't bother me in the slightest. Same person to me, as long as they're being faithful, I wouldn't care if they were bisexual, pansexual, whatever. Doesn't change who you are.

Everyone is different though

[L'espoir]

1) My boyfriend smokes weed sometimes and he smokes normal cigs regularly, doesn't bother me too much as long as he doesn't do weed around me.

2) The bisexual thing doesn't bother me at all

[Melody Pond]

1. I don't mind him smoking weed occasionally but once a week is too much for me. He has a very addictive personality and this would worry me. I am very against drugs as it is and my boyfriend knows this, I can't stop him from smoking weed if he wants to but he would never do it around me and it would never become a regular thing as he isn't really into drugs either it is more of an experimental phase.

2. My boyfriend is bisexual
I have been through all the various emotions possible when he first came out to me because it was a shock and a lot to get used to. I am totally fine with it and we have been together for over 3 years, if I'd known before we started dating then it wouldn't have been a problem at all but because we had been together a year when he came out then I did have to take some time to process it.

[Fanatic]

1. It would bother me because I have standards and smoking is bad to me.
2. I wouldn't mind if he was. I am, so I don't care if he was or not. As long as he's happy.

[Awakening]

1. Yes that would bother me a lot. For one im against drugs and two he would really stink weed stinks bad.

2. No it wouldnt bother me as long as he was faithful.

[wonderbread]

Answer to question one- I wouldn't mind at all. Even if he did so every other day to every day. My current boyfriend actually smoked a lot of it. But does not do so much now because he hasn't had the money to spend on it. He actually got me to start sort of.

Answer to question two- I am really not sure. I mean as long as he were with me at the time, why would I have to worry. Not to mention I am bisexual myself so it doesn't bother me as much. So Im pretty over all fine with that too.

[September skys]

Weed i wouldnt much care for at all :/...Bisexual on the other hand would be fine with me.

[Nova]

I have a problem with weed and smoking all together. I don't like it. I really don't think I could be with someone who did either. Then again, I don't usually go for that type anyway...

Bisexual wouldn't bother me as long as I knew about it before we were in a relationship. I think it's harder to take in something like that once you've been with someone for a while. Though, the same goes for a lot of different issues, not just sexuality. As long as he was faithful, there shouldn't be a problem though.

[ohsnap!]

1) I wouldn't mind if he smoked weed. I do it too sometimes, so we could just do it together. haha Just as long as it didn't get to be more often than what you said.

2) My last boyfriend actually was bisexual. I knew that going into the relationship and it didn't matter to me. Of my friends though, I seemed to be the only one who felt that way. They all thought it was weird that it didn't bother me that i was dating a guy who had been with other guys.
Oh, and the only time I wouldn't date a bisexual guy would be if he were one of those people who thinks that being bisexual means they should be able to date a girl and a guy at the same time. Not okay.

[bitesize]

~ I'd find it a bit weird if my current boyfriend smoked weed, because he doesn't like the idea of it, and I like that about him, even though I smoke weed every so often myself. However, in general and hypothetically, I wouldn't mind gonig otu with someone who smoked weed once a week.

~ Bisexual; um well, I'm bisexual myself, so i can't really say that I'd mind. As lnog as he stays faithful to me, does it really matter??

[kiwi_fish_bunny]

1. as long as he doesnt do it everyday and he knows what it may do to him then sure im cool with it.
2. im totaly fine with it. i could care less, he is my guy and i love him no matter what. (that sounds so mushy) and yeah im bi myself so it dont bother me

[Tess*]

-My boyfriend's never tried drugs, but if he smoked weed once a year (or twice but that's pushing it) I'd probably be ok with it. Especially since it'd be with close friends and I'd most likely be there. But anything more than that and I wouldn't.
-I think I have to be different from the majority on this one. If my boyfriend was bisexual, I don't really think I'd be ok with it. I have absolutely no problem with people who are bisexual, I just don't think that's for me.

[Rainbow Dash]

-1. How would/do you feel about your boyfriend smoking weed at most once a week? Wouldn't bother me an awful lot. As long as he wasn't wasting his rent money whatever for weed I wouldn't really care.

-2. How would/do you feel if your boyfriend was bisexual? Wouldn't care either. My first boyfriend was bisexual He actually helped me come out to my friends

[Singing to the starlight]

1- If it where only once a week then I'd be fine with it, and probably stoned with him.

2- It would bother me a tiny bit but I'd be able to look past it if I really cared for them. I'm bisexual myself so it shouldn't bother me.

[CelticCheetah]

1. I'd be concerned and tell him i don't think its healthy for him and I'd perfer it if he didn't do it but I'd let him make his own choice on the matter.

2. I wouldn't care because I'd love him anyways

[Daydreamer]

1- I personally don't like weed, and I wouldn't date someone who did. I mean if he tried it a few times before me I might be okay with that, but while dating me... I wouldn't like it, it's just not something I'm okay with. I actually broke up with a boy for getting into weed and smoking. But that's just me.

2- No, I wouldn't have a problem with that, as long as he's faithful it's all good

[Wallflower.]

1. How would/do you feel about your boyfriend smoking weed at most once a week?
I probably wouldn't go for a guy that smoked or took drugs anyway. It's really a turn-off and disgusts me. I wouldn't be happy at all if my boyfriend were to start, and would undoubtedly ask him to stop.


-2. How would/do you feel if your boyfriend was bisexual?
I don't think I could be with someone who was bisexual. I have nothing against bisexuality, but dating a bisexual guy probably wouldn't be for me. I would prefer if he was straight. :]

[Lu82]

I wouldnt like my bf to smoke weed once a week im totally against drugs and things like that.

As for him being bisexual i have to be honest i wouldnt date anybody thats bisexual. not that i have anything against bisexuality but im straight and i would like that person to be like myself.

[hidinginthatcorner]

I wouldn't want him smoking weed, I just don't want to lose another loved one to drugs but the choice would be up to him but we probably wouldn't last to long...

And nope, I wouldn't mind if he were bisexual ^_^

[Algernon]

I would never be with a guy who smoked pot. Tried that once and It didn't work.
And no, I wouldn't be okay if my boyfriend was bisexual.

[facade]

1. weed would be a negative. .-. he would smell like it for one; and i hate the smell of weed D; . not to mention all the trouble he COULD get into...
2. i don't think that i would mind. .-.

[amystery]

Well I guess I have to go against the majority of replies on this one. As far as smoking weed goes it'd definitely be one of those things I'd try and look past if I really liked them. Up to a certain point though too. Like every once and a while I might be okay with but if it was like a regular thing then I'm not sure I could do it. It'd definitely be something that was hard for me to look past. Im pretty against using drugs but that's just my own opinion.

As far as being bi..I don't think I could handle being in a relationship with someone who was bi. I'm not sure what it is about it but i just don't think I could do it. Plus to top it off my family isn't too accepting about relationships that aren't the typical boy-girl relationships so I don't think it'd fly..idk I guess though my fam wouldnt really have to know..but ya Im babbling. Lets leave it at I personally don't think I could do it.

[savealife723]

I'm not into smokers, well, it's not that i don't like them, it's that i don't like the habit of smoking. so i would usually say no way, but the guy i like right now smokes so i guess i can't say anything about it really now. i would usually not go for someone who smokes, in this case though with this one particular guy, i don't mind it.

and i have nothing against bisexual people, but i don't think i would date someone who was bisexual. i would perfer he was straight.

[rac146]

Originally Posted by savealife723

I'm not into smokers, well, it's not that i don't like them, it's that i don't like the habit of smoking. so i would usually say no way, but the guy i like right now smokes so i guess i can't say anything about it really now. i would usually not go for someone who smokes, in this case though with this one particular guy, i don't mind it.

and i have nothing against bisexual people, but i don't think i would date someone who was bisexual. i would perfer he was straight.

Lol i feel the exact same, right down to not liking the habbit of smoking but currently liking a guy who smokes weed, and i'm finding that although normally it would bother me, in his case i dont mind

[rhapsody]

I would have no problem at all with him being bisexual but I wouldn't want him to smoke weed. Once or twice a year I could cope with if it was someone really special, but once a week is too much. People who often smoke weed become paranoid and it would be very difficult to have a serious relationship with someone who was paranoid. Also, it makes you lazy. People generally want a partner who has energy, passion, dreams and ambitions; people who smoke weed often lose these traits and tend to not get very far in life. Finally, after seeing how weed has damaged so many of my friends and the people I grew up with, I wouldn't want to risk falling in love with someone only to see the same thing happen to them.

[Thurineth]

wouldnt mind him smoking weed as i'd like to try it.

bi - i'd have a problem with.

[bex11]

1. Smoking weed I don't mind, but once a week is a bit too often for me.
2. Bisexuality I'd be ok with, just as long as he's monogomous and doesn't think it entitles him to have a boyfriend and a girlfriend at the same time

[Melody Pond]

I'm just curious, out of the people who said they would have a problem with there partner being bi, why?

[TheBabyEater]

1: Meh I personally don't like smoking, but only because I just find smoke gross But if he did it "At most once a week" I wouldn't have a problem with it I don't think. As long as it wasn't taking over his life or anything. If he was doing it more or I felt that he was... too different when he smoked, I would probably say something. There are a lot of grey areas =/ Depends on how much he smoked, and how much he changes when he smokes, and how much extra money he has to spend on stupid stuff like that.

2: I honestly couldn't care less as long as he was faithful to me. Hell maybe we could discuss hot guys together My real boyfriend and I have done so for girls once in a movie

[Katie-Jade]

i wouldnt stand for my boyfriend smoking weed or doing any drugs. i dont agree with it. id prefer not to go out with a guy who smokes fags becuz its kind of nasty kissing someone full of smoky breathe.

i wouldnt mind a guy being bisexual becuz it makes no difference to our relationship. as long as theirs trust in a relationship being attracted to both sexes shudnt matter at all

[Pour the Teapot]

I would NEVER date a guy who did any drugs at all. But I would be totally open to dating a guy who's bi.

[Superstar]

I don't like drugs. I've been around them, I used to use them on occasion, and have formed my opinions about them, and that includes not dating anyone who uses them on a regular basis, even if it's "just weed" (which is an excuse I have heard before).

As for a bi guy, I have dated them and my current boyfriend is heteroflexible (meaning he is mostly straight and really wouldn't date a guy, but wouldn't be opposed to hooking up with the right guy). I totally have no problem with it.

[PSY]

The weed would be a deal-breaker for me. I'm pretty sure I could deal with him being bisexual, though. =) I mean, so long as he's faithful, does it really matter?

[annalibelle]

Bisuxual isnt even an issue because the bf would be in a relationship with me, so i wouldnt care what other types he's attracted to. Smoking weed, at most once a week, is okay I guess, as long as it is not an addiction interfering with their life.

[Magical Forest.]

My ex smoked weed, but never around me. He told me when we first got together, and asked if I was okay with it. I just told him that I really don't like it, but if you do want to smoke then feel free when he's with his friends.

And I wouldn't have a problem with my partner was bi, I am too so I can't judge.

[lanegwyn]

1) I wouldn't be thrilled about it. But not a big deal, if it's no more than once a week.
2) Doesn't matter, not even a little bit. I'd probably find it more interesting.

[~babydoll~]

1. It doesn't bother me that my boyfriend smokes weed because he smokes it sometimes.
2. I would be shocked if my boyfriend was bisexual, but it wouldn't bother me at all

[mommieof2]

Well, I'm married and i don't know if that changes anything lol

If he smoked week once a week I wouldn't have a problem with it as long as it didn't get out of control..smoking constantly and spending too much money on it. We have children and if getting high became more important than our children it would be a problem.

If he was bisexual it wouldn't bother me at all. I'm bisexual and he loves me no different because of it, why would it alter the way i feel for him? I've told him I'd love him no matter what sexual preference he preferred.