Beyond boyfriend issues

[lexi212]

So this guy and I have been dating for 2 years now. I love him, I really do, but he doesnt treat me right. When Im sick, he still makes me cater to him. Whenever he wants something, he just takes it. He prioritizes himself all the time, which is fine, but he never treats me the way I normally would want someone to. Lately, Ive been attracted to another guy. I dont know what to do. I love my boyfriend, but its gotten to the point where I cant stand to be around him. He's grumpy, rude, and selfish. Someone, can you please help me figure this out? I dont want to break up, but I cant seem to find a way to get to him. Talking, hinting, being confrontational....he just wont listen.

[Nicolette]

You're at the age of change, and it sounds like you're really starting to realize your boyfriend's faults and you're disgusted by them. If you can't live with them then move on, when you're in a relationship for so long its easy to become comfortable and people find themselves stuck because they'd rather deal with the crap their partner puts out then ditch them and move on. I'm sure you love him, but you hate the way he acts, if he isn't treating you like an equal in the relationship. It isn't fair that you have to take this from him, if he doesn't listen to your concerns and doesn't want to work on things then that should show you how he feels about your relationship, if he doesn't want to put in any effort then its time to move on. How long do you want to drag a dead horse? If you're not going anywhere together then persue someone else who's worth your time and effort who'll treat you right.

[taylalatbh.]

If after two years he still doesn't know how to treat you right, then maybe you are better off not being with him any more, and finding someone new. But no one can tell you if you should do it or not, that should be down to you.

If you feel like you've had enough with the standard of the relationship, and you don't think that he will change, then moving on could be a good idea. Speak to him, tell him exactly how you feel, and see if he will change himself for the better. If not then you might have the make the decision to leave.

You could find someone who treats you right, and is worth being with.

Take care.

[teen spirit]

I stayed in a relationship far longer than I should have and I can tell you this...YOU CAN'T CHANGE PEOPLE! I thought my boyfriend would change. I hated the way he treated me too but I thought he would just one day change for me. I can tell you honestly...I was the one who changed. He stayed the same. That was one of the reasons why we weren't compatible anymore.

You have been with this guy for 2 years...this is who he is. You are holding yourself back from someone out there who will love you, respect you, and treat you the way you wish to be treated...yes, you ultimately have to make your own decision and just go back and re-read your post...I read between the lines and heard your decision in your post...listen to your heart-you must do what is best for you...not worry about hurting his feelings. If he cared so much, he wouldn't be treating you the way he is.

YOU deserve to be happy...BUT I wouldn't recommend "rebounding" off to someone else right away...take some time to have fun with your friends and to really figure out what it is exactly that you want out of your next boyfriend...

Again, I believe you already know the answer to this...

Good Luck!

[The Man And XX Master]

If he's been like this for all the time you've known him, don't expect him to change. You don't like the qualities he has and you like someone else who is different than he is. If I were you, I'd dump the current relationship because it's not going anywhere for you and you've tried over and over to make it better. Staying with him longer isn't going to change it. Don't hop right into the relationship with the new person though, give it some time.

[Abigail Joy]

Hey,
I was in your exact position, I was with a guy for a year, and getting through to him that I was not happy was like talking to a brick wall, I just wanted to shake him and yell " HELLO, ARE YOU IN THERE!?" Eventually I stopped talking to him as much, I didnt hang out with him everyday, and I did this until he noticed and asked me about it, then I wrote him a letter, and left him alone with it, so he could not get defensive or shut down and not listen, The letter told him how I felt, what I didnt like about our relationship,and what I am not willing to do anymore.

This worked, we talked and figured it out.
Good Luck, if you need anything, let me know x<3