Question about your relationship experiences.

[taylalatbh.]

How long extra were you in a relationship for, after the relationship had 'ended'?

And by that, I mean how much longer were you in a relationship with someone for, after you felt that the relationship was emotionally/physically over?

You might not have realised it at the time, or you might indeed have. But looking back on it, how much longer were you in the relationship for, after you emotionally felt that it was over?

I hope that this makes sense to people! It was a bit difficult to explain. I would love to hear your experiences on this, thanks all!

EDIT: I've thought of more (optional) questions, if you'd like to share.

I just wondered why you left the relationship in the end? And why you stayed in it for that extra amount of time? How did you finally get the courage to leave?

[RedJames]

i was in one for another 2 months befor i finally ended it, it was more just a convince and false hope that somehting might change.

[Maloo]

I think it was a few months or something. Dating him had turned into a habit. It was easier to stay in it instead of dealing with the pain of a break up.

[stargrrl45]

Well I'm not completely over the guy i dated yet, but I'm learning to live life without him, and we broke up a month ago. At time i could have never imagined life without him. But all my friends who have been in serious relationships say that it takes about half the time you dated to really get over someone.

[Superstar]

Two months or so, maybe three.

[Nenya]

How long extra were you in a relationship for, after the relationship had 'ended'?
My first relationship I stayed in it months longer than I should have. Like maybe 5-6 months.

I just wondered why you left the relationship in the end? And why you stayed in it for that extra amount of time? How did you finally get the courage to leave?
It was my first serious boyfriend and I guess I thought I might not find anyone else and I didn't want to be alone. The only reason why I finally ended it was because I started talking to a friend of a friend and had feelings for him and I found out he liked me too.

[her_beautiful_mistake]

a few months. I didn't want to give up that easily & without seeing if it would pass. When I realised it wasn't a phase and feelings had changed I called it.

[PSY]

How long extra were you in a relationship for, after the relationship had 'ended'?
It's hard to say, but I'm going to go with two months. It was an abusive relationship in more ways than one, but I wanted to make it work. I dealt with the abuse for about a year (basically, the second half of our relationship). When he left for the summer, I felt like we finally disconnected for good.

Why did you leave the relationship in the end?
It was abusive, and I found someone else.

Why did you stay in it for that extra amount of time?
I didn't want to admit that I had made a mistake. I didn't want to make the first move and be the "b*tch ex-girlfriend". Part of me felt like I couldn't do any better. I hoped that it was all just a phase, and that he would become the sweet, loving boyfriend I once knew if I waited long enough. It was also my first relationship, and we were approaching the two-year mark... quite an accomplishment for a 17-year-old. I think I wanted to make it past that two-year mark, just to tell myself I could maintain a long-term relationship (and thus prove my maturity). Unfortunately, I refused to acknowledge that not all long-term relationships are HEALTHY relationships, too. Honestly, I had a dozen reasons for staying, and none of them were good enough.

How did you finally get the courage to leave?

I found someone else, and my desire to be in a loving relationship outweighed my fears and reasons for staying in my previous relationship. I didn't really get that "AHA" moment until several months later. I couldn't see the situation clearly until we had ceased contact for most of our senior year.

[Pelios]

How long extra were you in a relationship for, after the relationship had 'ended'?
About 4 months I really thought it was just a stage and that we could make it out, but no.

Why did you leave the relationship in the end?
Because we could not “fix” the relationship pretend anymore to love each other.

Why did you stay in it for that extra amount of time?
I thought it was just a stage in the relationship and that it was going to get better but it didn’t it went downhill from that and I just got tired of giving it my 100% and him not doing anything.

How did you finally get the courage to leave?
One day I went on a vacation for a week and didn’t have any contact with him and it made me realize how happy I was and that I didn’t miss him so I just stopped talking to him and left. Not the best way to end something but I couldn’t take it anymore so we technically never broke up just stopped talking and that was it.

[niente_]

My first boyfriend and me were together officially for 2 years 10 months - ish. We kinda carried on until 3 years, and we only cut ties completely until I found another boyfriend. :S

Learning from this lesson, I tried to help my last boyfriend get over me, by telling him straight that we weren't getting back together. But whatever I told him, he kept telling me he loved me and stuff until ... yep, until I got another boyfriend again. That was a month apart, but a very long story!

[niente_]

Originally Posted by Elfy

I just wondered why you left the relationship in the end? And why you stayed in it for that extra amount of time? How did you finally get the courage to leave?
It was my first serious boyfriend and I guess I thought I might not find anyone else and I didn't want to be alone. The only reason why I finally ended it was because I started talking to a friend of a friend and had feelings for him and I found out he liked me too.

Ahh, I feel better after posting mine now. That better explains why I did what I did.

[bitesize]

I was in a relationship last year for fourteen months. I knew it wasn't really working about ten months in, but because I really thought I loved him, and because I was so USED to going out with him, it was easier to just try and convince myself things would get better. They didn't, and I kept procrastinating on breaking up until eventually he was the one that brought it up.I felt muuuchh better afterwards (: