I think my relationship is about to end..

[Ccab]

My girlfriend (almost) fiancé of about 2 and a half years. She told me the other day that she wanted some space or something but didn't want to take a break. I think she's actually talking to one of my friends. But she tells me she isn't and she has never lied to me before and has never done anything behind my back. So I'm trying really hard to believe her. I've betrayed her trust before and just now started to actually treat her with respect and be the man I need to be for her. I love this girl to death and I've been trying to show her that I really want to do the right thing and be with her. I'm just not sure if she wants to give it another chance. She still tells me everyday that she loves me and wants to be with me and that everything will be okay. Is there anything I can do?

[Saracen]

thing is u should take her out on a date , try to surprise her , tell her that u changing not by words but through caring ,show her ur side which she had never seen , be nice to her , and give her some space , dont be possessive right now , she is fragile at this moment , try that , if this works a little and u want more advise send me a message

[teen spirit]

I believe she is telling you the truth that she needs some space-doesn't sound like it is a "line" or else she would have just ended your relationship then and there.

I would suggest to give her what she has asked as it sounds like she may be just getting a bit scared about making the "full" commitment and wanting to make the right choice.

Keep the lines of communication open...give her her space but don't give her too much space as then she may think that you don't care about her or your relationship. Be open and honest with her and tell her what she means to you and how much you love her-without sounding desperate. Let her know that you respect her wishes and you understand that she needs some space. Prove your trust for her in the sense that what she says is the truth and let her know that as well and that her "space" request means nothing more.

She said that she has never lied to you before so you must believe her unless she proves otherwise. Continue being the man that repects her and will be there for her...sometimes we are tested (unintentionally) to see if our actions reflect our words. We can say words all day long but it is in our actions that will be the true test of what we are saying. As the 'ol cliche says: "Actions speak louder than words." and they can make or break a relationship too!

Again, don't hide your feelings to her but don't come across as being desperate either-if it is meant to be...it will all work out for the best.

Be patient with her...she obviously has her reasons for needing space...sometimes a bit of space will take a relationship to a higher level instead of taking each other for granted...

I hope this helped a bit

[Ccab]

Thanks for the info guys. I just really want to get the best advice I can because I love this girl to death and I really don't want to lose her. I did take her out on a date and went to the movies and we talked. She said she wouldn't be with me if she didn't want things to work. And I believe her. She said that she just thinks we should calm down for a little while. I just get really scared. I love her a lot.

[Ccab]

Okay..now that I have more time to talk I can go more into detail. Like me and her are still together but she wants time to "chill" a little bit. She just wants us to be happy again and I do too..but it drives me crazy when I dont get to see her during the times I normally do during the day. We are going to hang out some later but last night I slept at my own house by myself without her for the first time in a very long time and I couldnt sleep at all. I went to her house last night before I came back home because she said I could stay with her until she fell asleep. I told her I respected her wishes and left her house a little after she fell asleep last night and then I came home. She is going to be with me this weekend and is actually trying to take off work on Monday to be with me..Just for some reason I feel like I am going to lose her..we have been seeing each other every single day for almost 3 years now and it sucks not being with her. Its mainly my fault because I wasnt the nicest boyfriend..I wasnt like really mean or anything I just didnt respect her the way she needed to be. I realized that if I really love this girl that I need to treat her like a queen and do whatever it takes if I really love this girl. I hope it works out in the end. Does anyone have anymore suggestions or things to keep in mind? Anyone..just give me some info. I dont want to mess anything up with me and her at all. I want to propose to her in a month also.

[RedJames]

well i just comented on your other post about going and talking to her, go with that first and figured the rest out from there.

[PSY]

Originally Posted by Ccab

I dont want to mess anything up with me and her at all. I want to propose to her in a month also.

Wait... I feel like I'm hearing the same story I heard a few months ago. You were also struggling then, and you were also talking about proposing to her in a few days (or maybe it was in a few weeks?). Look, I know you want to work things out with her, and that's great... but making her your fiance is NOT going to make all your problems magically go away. If anything, it may just make things worse.

It's easy to give someone a ring and say, "Will you marry me?"... but when your relationship is on the rocks like this, they're just WORDS. You need to show her through your ACTIONS that you can be a loving, supportive husband in the future. Fix things first, then keep things going strong for a few months... maybe even a year. Know with a fair amount of certainty that you can maintain this relationship... THEN propose. Don't be another statistic, yet another couple that rushed into a marriage they weren't ready for. =/