Need help

[Hero_Of_Blade]

Hey guys

I need a little help as soon as possible.
There's this girl, and we've been working on a good steady relationship for the past year, and we were getting somewhere.

But recently someone blackmailed her, forced her to be in a relationship with them, and she told me even though she'd been told not to tell anyone, and I told her that no matter what she wouldn't be hurting me, she just had to do what she could to survive til we could figure out how to deal with him.

But earlier today, she told me she missed me (like she does normally) but she had to go so I phoned her back later and things were going fine, but she said something that I didn't quite catch and she snapped at me, starting pushing me away.

I trust her, but I'm scared, did I screw up?
Does she not want anything to do with me?
Or is she just trying to protect me and her friends?
Like is she trying to push me away so that she feels like she wont be hurting me?
I can give proper specifics obviously, this is just an outline of the current situation, but I really need help.
Everytime I try to talk to her she tells me to leave her alone, but I'm stubborn and I can't just give up.
Anything that can help is appreciated

Thanks

[danni182x]

You wont really know untill you ask her..But it does sound like she cares about you. So most likely she feels a bit guilty for getting you in this situation and is just trying to protect you, like you said. Sometimes when things aren't going right in your life..you push away the people you care about...Its strange but weve all done it.

Maybe she needs a little space to sort this out and get her head straight, speak to her...let her know your there for her and focus your attention on trying to sort this tricky situation..x

[Hero_Of_Blade]

I phoned her at six
and this might just be me, maybe something I want, hope for etc etc

She says she's met someone else, and that I disgust her.
I've been with her for a year, if she had met someone else she'd have had to lead me on, but that's happened to her too many times for her to do it.

She sounded so hollow and empty saying those things too, and I said to her some very good thing about how she protects people, wants to help everyone, how if she didn't love me she wouldn't have led me on and she didn't deny any of it.

But she wont open up, and I'm scared she never will. I don't know what I can do except not talk to her, but what if she thinks I'm abandoning her.
I don't want to text her telling her I love her in case it is true, or... something.

I don't know what to do or what to think and it sucks.
But what can I do if she doesn't want to or chooses not to open up?
How can I find out if what she's saying about finding someone else is true or if it's her trying to push me further away?

[PSY]

If she's being forced into a dangerous situation, then why not call the police? They can offer her protection (police escort to and from her house, battered women's shelter if she has no where else to go) until they investigate/arrest the person who blackmailed her, and she can file a restraining order as well. This whole situation seems beyond your AND her control, so I urge you to get the proper authorities involved. It doesn't matter if she's angry or feels betrayed by your "interference"... what's most important right now is her safety.

[cecelia]

ok first of all how did this person black mail her? are they dangerous?
second: she is probably just under alot of stress right now and maybe..m=not to be mean ur just pestering her too much its ok to keep an eye on her but dont be overbearing im sure she loves but i would just be cautious about it untill u get past this stalker blackmail issue.

[Hero_Of_Blade]

Well he threatened her friends, and I know this type of person, but i don't know him personally, but from what I've been told I can guess his type. But I can't be entirely sure.

She text me yesterday, so I spoke to her over the phone and I got to the bottom of why she was pushing away. I realise I may be overbearing in this situation, but with this guy threatening her and her friends, well I was extremely nervous, and really just wanted to make sure she was okay.

She's trying her hardest to get this guy away, and I trust that she'll do her best, but I can't help but be worried about her getting hurt, or something bad happening that makes her break

[PSY]

Originally Posted by Hero_Of_Blade

Well he threatened her friends, and I know this type of person, but i don't know him personally, but from what I've been told I can guess his type. But I can't be entirely sure.

She's trying her hardest to get this guy away, and I trust that she'll do her best, but I can't help but be worried about her getting hurt, or something bad happening that makes her break

Sooo, why aren't you calling the police again?

[Maloo]

Agreed. If someone is being blackmailed like that, the police need to get involved. It's as simple as that.