Met Online..

[ohhmy]

So there is this guy. He is absolutely amazing. Like the definition of perfect<3 But yeah. We met online and he lives a few states away from me :l He is just, i dont even know how to explain it. I feel like we have known each other forever, and we get along really well. I mean is it possible to fall for someone that you met online ? And i have no idea what to tell my parents. Or if i will even tell them ? I dont know what to do in this situation. All i know is he makes me happy and i really do love him[:

[Brandon]

I think it's easier to fall for people online than offline. It's easier to express yourself. That can be a good thing but can also be a bad thing. Sometimes, people are different in real life than they are online. How long have ya'll been talking online? If it hasn't been for a month, I'd suggest not talking to your parents about him. Unless he was planning on coming over anytime soon. But if you feel that they're going to find out anyways, you don't want to keep secrets from them because the consequences will just be worse. There's no telling how your parents will react, but if it's not important to tell them at the moment...it's not time to tell them

[jillianjayde]

Yes, how long have you been talking to each other? Have you ever spoken on the phone or video chatted? People can turn out to be quite different in real life because the internet allows all of us to act from behind a veil on anonymity. We can present ourselves as the version of ourselves that we wish to be.

That being said, when I was in the sixth grade I began talking to a girl in a chat room, and I have talked to her every day ever since. We are buying a house together in June and I am the Maid of Honor at her wedding; she is the best friend I have.

Jillian Jayde

[facade]

I agree with Brandon. It is easier to fall in love with people easier online then offline.
I think that maybe, if it gets pretty serious between you two, and you video chat or something like that then you might think about telling your family. That way, when you meet him... Yeah
So I say, wait to see if it gets serious before you tell your family.
Best of luck <3

[Elle_Dorado]

I agree that it is easier to fall for someone you met online but I don't think it's a bad thing. Just make sure you know him very well before you decide to meet up, once you know he's genuine than I'd say go for it!

[Ancora Imparo]

Hey Sam,

I agree with everyone who has said that it's much easier to fall in love with someone online that it is offline because it's much easier to say how you're feeling online and people can be whoever they want to be. I guess it depends on how long you've been speaking with each other and if you video chat and all of that before you tell your parents about him because parents can be pretty on edge when they hear that their daughter/son has friends online because of the media and all the stories that they have seen on the news and read in the papers. Are you planning on meeting him anytime soon? Because if you aren't then I guess there is no rush to tell your parents just yet but like someone already said, if you're worried that they're going to find out then it's probably better to tell them sooner rather than later as they might think you're hiding this from them for some reason. I hope that everything turns out well for you!

Take care.

[cptdean]

I was in your situation after meeting a girl online and talking to them for months on end via phone or video call and she was everything that I was looking for. We only lived 2.5 hours drive away from each other though, but still a longish way.

We met up without her parents knowing several times, began by meeting her and her brother who was cool with it just to help her with her anxieties even though she was looking forward to it. and it was as good as I ever expected as we knew so much about each other it was a complete match, we are both shy and supported each other and slowly grew into an amazing couple.

Then one day after seeing her she told her parents about us and they went nuts and took her away from me until she is older. This is due to us both being a bit too young. But if you are both at an age to make your own decisions then I say go for it as it might just be the best thing to happen to you, but dont rush into it.

Good luck.

[Boobies]

It is possible, and easier than people in real life a lot of the time. Though, in my opinion it's not as good, this being because you can't really get to know them properly over a screen.

[taylalatbh.]

I think it is possible. It's happened to me. If you really feel it for this guy, and it's not illegal in any way, and you have the easy possibility of seeing each other regularly, then I would consider starting up a 'real' relationship with him. But if you're going to have problems seeing each other then I wouldn't, as that can be really stressful for both of you.

If you feel like you need to tell your parents, then you just need to do it. Sit them down and explain everything to them. They'll either understand or they won't, but it's up to you whether you risk it.

Take care.

[JessKilljoy]

It is very possible to fall for someone online. I met my boyfriend online in the summer holidays we've been talking since and we're togetherish, we talk on the phone all the time and text. He's coming down at the end of this month to stay and so we'll see how things go. I suggest you get to know him depending on how long you've been talking approach your parents about it, and don't meet up with him on your own. I hope it all works out for you

[ohhmy]

The bad part is that he is a couple years older than me and we are both still in highschool. But he is planning to go to college about an hour or 2 away from me so if we still are talking and stuff then that would be perfect^^ Umm we've been talking for about 6 months; maybe more and we talk on the phone a lot. I dont have a webcam yet so we cant video chat but im gonna be getting one soon[: And for the parent thing i dont really wanna tell them yet If we do meet it will be in feb. and probably for not that long other than that i have until the summer

[Simplyme7]

In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with meeting someone online, and dating them. However, you do need to be careful with it.

I met my boyfriend online on myspace through a role play game. (I was really into twilight at the time (I know, I know, how ridiculous, but hey, it’s my story.) and I had an Alice Cullen myspace for role play (writing) purposes. My bf had been role playing because he loves to write for awhile when one of his friends asked him to make a Jasper profile and he obliged. That was how we met, and he became my Jasper.) After talking to him online (as Alice) for a good 2 months, we started texting on October 28th 2010, and ever since, we have not had a single day go by that we have not talked.

However, before I ever actually talked to him on the phone or let him know anything personal about me at all, he gave me his facebook link, and my mother and I looked all over the page. She made sure that his profile matched up completely before being okay with me adding him. After that we started web-caming and talking on the phone. And then we started dating.

It was a long distance relationship also. I was in Oregon, and he was in Kentucky. It was really hard. We didn’t actually meet in person until we had been dating for 7 months, when he came to Oregon to see me graduate. He is far and away, the best thing that has ever happened to me. I now go to the same University as him, and I am forever grateful that I had met him, and not listened to everyone who tried to tell me that I was being stupid to be talking to a guy that I had met online.

All of this to say, if you check him out, and make sure that his story is true, it is VERY possible to fall in love online. I know it for a fact. I live it, and I love my bf very very much.

Good luck. =D And I hope that it brings you the same happiness that I have found from mine. If you ever want to talk, PM me. =]

[MisplacedDreamer]

I am mixed about it, especially in high school.

First thing is that it is easy to make a fake page or use old photos. Then it is also easy to filter out things about someone that may be a huge turn off. It is slightly harder to do that on the phone, but still possible. Six months is a little long to keep up a charade though, but he may not turn out to be all that he is cracked up to be or be as compatible offline as he is online.

Another issue is a case of this girl who I wasn't friends with during high school but she was a friend of a friend. She was in love with this guy who she knew online and he lived two time zones away. They had their entire life planned out and they had only met once or twice. It was not a healthy relationship in my opinion because people act differently face-to-face and they were sixteen, they were not ready to be planning their lives together when they had not even talked face-to-face more than ten times (just twice.)

From personal experience, it is easy to idealize someone from photos, phone calls, and text messages. I have met many guys who did not meet my expectations offline and I didn't meet the expectations of many guys.

I would hold off declaring love till you have met him once or twice though.

[ohhmy]

I know it is easy to fake all of that but i am friends with him on facebook and his profile seems real. I mean his friends have photos of him tagged; they all go to the same highschool, and even yesterday on the phone his friend was there and his friend knew about me like he wasnt afraid or wants to keep me a secret from his friends so thats good ? i guess. but i guess we will see what happens [:

[MisplacedDreamer]

Well, there are other things that people can hide/fake too. Like characteristics that would drive you up the wall. Not keeping an apartment clean, drinking a lot, smoking, illegal drug usage, not showering, green teeth, some personality quirk, etc.

There are those risks in meeting people offline. I met this guy and his apartment was completely filthy. I would never have suggested a guy come over if my apartment was like that. It had three trash bags full of stuff in the corner, beer boxes everywhere, beer bottles everywhere, hamburger helper on the stove from at least last night, and other food dried on the stove. Dirty dishes were stacked high and it smelled.

[ohhmy]

oh ew

i really don't think he is like that or hiding anything, i know like you said you never know with people online but i just feel like he is telling the truth. he said he is straight edge and he lives at home still and he has a good relationship with his parents and i doubt his parents would let him do anything bad

[MacGuffin]

Proceed with caution is what I say. Online relationships can be risky, but if you are willing to take the risks, just be careful, be safe, and enjoy yourself.