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Exclamation Many questions, we just started having sex. - October 14th 2010, 12:17 AM

We just started having sex. Its AWESOME. I love doing it with him, its the nicest sex that I have had, because he respects my boundaries. If I ask him not to do something, he does not do it, so I feel comfortable with him.

Though... I've realized that sex with him has caused me to be much more open with my needs. And that is fine and dandy. However, I think I'm going to be asking and wanting much more then hes willing to give. Because all of a sudden I feel somewhat... clingy. Like I'm in need of affection. I think it was way to soon to have sex. We have been dating for two months. And.. it might just be that I'm not comfortable with this much attachment to him. I don't really know, I just feel much more vulnerable then I did before. And that is bothering me. Any ideas on what to do about it?

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Re: Many questions, we just started having sex. - October 14th 2010, 12:41 AM

I think you should talk to this about him. Tell him how you're feeling and see how he feels about it too. He might be able to reassure you on it, and make you feel a bit better. I can understand that you would feel a lot closer to your boyfriend after having sex with him for the first time, but you need to make sure that you don't overwhelm him with your affection, because it could put him off. But as long as you talk to him about it, and let him know how you feel you should be able to get through these feelings.

Take care.

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