i need advice about my ex bf... help??!

[cupcakexlove]

My ex boyfriend and I were inseparable and because of me we broke up. This was two years ago. We just started talking and I'm sooo happy because after we broke up, we never talked.

Now, obviously, I will always have feelings for him, like he was my best friend since I was 4, we are neighbors, I lost my virginity to him etc etc, so it is natural for me to always have feelings of love towards him.

HOWEVER. His new gf of 1 year, is well.. MY TWIN. She is exactly like me in every which way except in looks, (which I am way prettier. HMPH) She even creeped my house. Awkward, I know. But, he has cheated on her twice with me (we were both intoxicated, usually i would never do this otherwise!).

Afterwords he said he would never have done it with anyone else, its always me, that he always goes back to me. He also said the reason why he didnt talk to me for those two years is because he was scared he would do exactly that, cheat on his gf.

Now the odd part is that he was talking to my best friend and said this to her (CHANGING NAMES..) Peggy = NEW GF, Blair = ME

"When I'm with Peggy, she reminds me of Blair. But when I'm with Blair, she doesn't remind me of Peggy."

All the signs point subconsciously that he still likes me, and EVERYONE else says he is too.. But he's awkward around me now, and everytime I get remotely close to how we were when we were dating he pulls back and blocks me out. Someone from an outside view help!?!

Should i leave him be ?! I love him still.. But i need advice ! Don't sugar coat it like my friends will, spill the honest truth! (L)

[Brandon]

It seems to me that he doesn't want to get close to you because you already broke up with him once. Why'd you break up with him in the beginning? It doesn't make much sense to break up with someone, and then let him find a girlfriend so you and him can do things while intoxicated. It doesn't really add up to me. Intoxication is not an excuse to allow him to cheat on your twin. If you want to make a move, then make a move. Otherwise, stop having sex with him while intoxicated and move on with your life. If you won't do either of those, stop complaining about it.

[MacGuffin]

Well, the first thing you need to do is stop having drunken sex with him. Cheating, especially drunken cheating, will always complicate matters, and complicated is not what you need right now. I know it's tempting to get together with someone you still care about when the opportunity arises, but it's best to refrain for now.

Secondly, while it is great that everyone thinks he subconsciously still likes you and you think so too, the problem with that is that for him, it's subconscious, i.e., he isn't aware of it. That's something to take into consideration. You can't just walk up to someone and say "hey look, deep down inside you really like me, not her." It doesn't work that way, and you will both just get hurt.

As much as you can, focus on your friendship right now. Get some more stable ground with him, and figure out what it is you want and what you want to see from him. When things are a little more stable, it might be okay to bring this up in a conversation where you two sit down, alone, and talk face to face about it. But there needs to be a little distance before that happens, and you need to make sure you want to risk everything you have gained again to make that move. So back off, give it time, figure it out, and either make a move or resign yourself to not acting on what you want.

[Heartlines.]

Hey, I know that relationships can be tough. I really think that you shouldn't go back to this guy. I know you still care about and love him. I care about my exes too, but the thing is, it just seems like this would create drama. He has a girlfriend, and he cheated..I know you guys were drunk.. but that just creates confusion and drama on both end.

However, I can see where you would want to get back together with him. I think that he is confused on what he wants. he has been with said girl for about a year now, and broken up with you..I think that he is confused on his emotions. Which is completely ok considering all that is going on.

I think you should sit back and think about if this is something you really want to pursue. If all this is worth having him back. because if you two get back together then it still will probably create drama with your friend. Ya know?