I just don't understand. Need Help!!!

[JohnE.]

So recently my girlfriend broke up with me. We had been going out for a month and a half now and everything had been doing great. We never ever fought and we barely had any arguments. We told each other everything that bothered us that the other was doing, so there wouldn't be a chance for us to break up over something stupid. We both always had a great time around each other and always made each other laugh. We both really really liked each other. She means the world to me and I'd do anything for her. But all of a sudden, last monday, she broke up with me. When I asked her why, she gave me three reasons: 1. She said that it was because I saw her so much (we go to the same highschool and see each other in the halls constantly) 2. She said that something I was doing was bothering her a lot. She at first told me it bothered her but then later told me it didn't. If I would've known that it bothered her so much, I would've never ever done it (I don't want to tell you exactly what it was that bothered her but it had to do with touching some places while cuddling) 3. Her third reason she said was the MAIN reason that she broke up with me. She said that when we were together she felt like we were just friends and that she had lost her feelings for me. She said that this started a week before she broke up with me.

This all doesn't make any sense to me at all. Especially because her last 2 relationships have lasted 6 months plus and after just a month she just stops liking me!! What could cause her to just randomly stop having feelings for me?!? My mom thought that she must have started to like another guy, but when I told her that she denied it and said that she doesn't like another guy. And according to her friends she DEFINITELY doesn't like another guy. I really really like this girl and she's told me the same, but suddenly she doesn't like me anymore. Right now, I'm really confused. Any help or explanations?

Also, I still have feelings for her and I miss her a lot. I really want her back and want her to have feelings for me again. Any tips or advice to get her back?

[Guile]

Originally Posted by JohnE.

So recently my girlfriend broke up with me. We had been going out for a month and a half now and everything had been doing great. We never ever fought and we barely had any arguments. We told each other everything that bothered us that the other was doing, so there wouldn't be a chance for us to break up over something stupid. We both always had a great time around each other and always made each other laugh. We both really really liked each other. She means the world to me and I'd do anything for her. But all of a sudden, last monday, she broke up with me. When I asked her why, she gave me three reasons: 1. She said that it was because I saw her so much (we go to the same highschool and see each other in the halls constantly) 2. She said that something I was doing was bothering her a lot. She at first told me it bothered her but then later told me it didn't. If I would've known that it bothered her so much, I would've never ever done it (I don't want to tell you exactly what it was that bothered her but it had to do with touching some places while cuddling) 3. Her third reason she said was the MAIN reason that she broke up with me. She said that when we were together she felt like we were just friends and that she had lost her feelings for me. She said that this started a week before she broke up with me.

This all doesn't make any sense to me at all. Especially because her last 2 relationships have lasted 6 months plus and after just a month she just stops liking me!! What could cause her to just randomly stop having feelings for me?!? My mom thought that she must have started to like another guy, but when I told her that she denied it and said that she doesn't like another guy. And according to her friends she DEFINITELY doesn't like another guy. I really really like this girl and she's told me the same, but suddenly she doesn't like me anymore. Right now, I'm really confused. Any help or explanations?

Also, I still have feelings for her and I miss her a lot. I really want her back and want her to have feelings for me again. Any tips or advice to get her back?

Well, touching her in "places" while cuddling can certainly make a girl feel like you are just using her to get off, so I would say that the chances of fixing that one are pretty low. On the upside, you know not to rush it now.

[Acheron]

Originally Posted by JohnE.

So recently my girlfriend broke up with me. We had been going out for a month and a half now and everything had been doing great. We never ever fought and we barely had any arguments. We told each other everything that bothered us that the other was doing, so there wouldn't be a chance for us to break up over something stupid. We both always had a great time around each other and always made each other laugh. We both really really liked each other. She means the world to me and I'd do anything for her. But all of a sudden, last monday, she broke up with me. When I asked her why, she gave me three reasons:

3. Her third reason she said was the MAIN reason that she broke up with me. She said that when we were together she felt like we were just friends and that she had lost her feelings for me. She said that this started a week before she broke up with me.

It's counter-intuitive, really. You were just trying to be a good boyfriend. Avoiding conflict, talking about your feelings, being sweet to her, that sort of thing. The problem is that there is no quicker way to kill a girl's attraction. See, girls crave excitement and drama. They love guys whose feelings they aren't entirely sure of, and who have more interesting things going on. Being nice and sweet might work for a little while. It did with my first girlfriend, too. But inevitably it causes her to see you as just a friend, as someone to whom she can pour her feelings out about the new guy she's lusting after.

I'm not judging you. Our feminised romantic culture means that millions of guys grow up thinking that being nice and sweet is the way to a girl's heart, and that any other option is for assholes. But this is your chance to deprogramme yourself. Be more assertive. Don't pour out your feelings to them. Flirt with other girls. Keep them guessing. Most importantly, make it appear that you aren't afraid to lose them because you could just replace them.

As for your ex, you've lost her. Start hunting other girls.

EDIT: Oh, and don't listen to Guile. Better to escalate and be stopped than not escalate at all. Obviously you should use caution, though: only do it if she looks comfortable with what you're already doing, and if she says stop, you stop.

[WillO'Wisp]

It sounds like she is not ready for a relationship yet. If you really care about someone, you don't just shut off your feelings like a light switch and stop caring about them. She doesn't sound mature enough to be in a relationship right now.
Secondly, you can't get her back if she doesn't want to be with you. I know you care about her, but the best thing for you to do is to move on and forget about her. There's millions of other better girls out there and with time you will find one.