Too perfect

[underthebridge]

I have been with my boyfriend for over a year and a half. We've had our ups and downs as any couple has, but recently I've been feeling really frustrated with my boyfriend. We have been extremely open and honest with each other and have talked in great detail about attractions to other people.

I have attractions to other men and have told my boyfriend about them. I asked him if he has any for other women and he says no. Now this to me seems impossible. We've discussed it numerous times and he persists that he does not think about any other women sexually or feel any attraction to them--this goes for celebrities supermodels etc etc. He says that none of them have anythig on me and gets upset when I continually don't believe him.

Everything that I've read says that all guys look at other women even when in a relationship. I've told my boyfriend I'm okay with it because it's normal and I feel things for other guys, but he insists that he only has eyes for me. Is it possible that he is telling me the truth?

[you'rebeautiful]

Hi Hera Sweet name.

I think that it's great that you're so open with your boyfriend... it's great =] I'd honestly just suggest having him over to talk. Tell him how you feel... reassure him, that he's the person you want to be with and you love him... but that one of the things you really appreciate about your relationship with him is the honesty. Ask him to please be truthful because well, that's what honesty is... and be sure that he knows that it isn't a trick question (if you're sure that it isn't) and that you're really just looking for unconditional honesty in your relationship... if he still says that he's not attracted to anyone else... then accept it. It's sweet, and while it's absolutely natural to be attracted to other people while you're in a relationship... who's to say what's impossible for another person to feel? Just be sure to let him know that you trust him because that sort of interrogation might be a little rough for him. <3

[Double X]

Are you his first relationship? Did he lose his virginity to you?

I remember how insanely attracted i was to my first girlfriend, because I didn't experience anything else. Now that I have become somewhat experienced, my partner isn't the only woman I have eyes for.

[ringaroundtheposey]

it is definitely possible that he only has eyes for you. it sounds like he genuinely cares about you... a lot. now may be the time to ask yourself if you feel the same way. and if you do, stop looking at other guys.

[PSY]

It's rare, but I believe it's possible. Like Kyle said, if this is his first relationship (or first serious relationship), he could honestly be so infatuated with you that he doesn't find anyone else (celebrities/models or otherwise) nearly as attractive as he finds you. =)

[underthebridge]

Originally Posted by Double X

Are you his first relationship? Did he lose his virginity to you?

I remember how insanely attracted i was to my first girlfriend, because I didn't experience anything else. Now that I have become somewhat experienced, my partner isn't the only woman I have eyes for.

Yes and yes. But its visa versa as well.

[Boobies]

Some people just don't look at other people, your boyfriend could just be easy to please (in a sense)
I don't really see how it's a problem though, even if he is lying (it's not like it's a serious one, more like a 'oh, that dress looks great' kind of lie), maybe he'd just feel uncomfortable with you knowing that he finds other girls attractive? Which isn't really a problem if he isn't going to go an do anything...

[Acheron]

It's entirely possible that your boyfriend has a serious case of oneitis. Some guys genuinely do fall really hard for someone, to the extent that they just don't notice other girls. Even cuter ones. Like Kyle said, it's more likely if you're his first relationship and if he lost his virginity to you. I'm guessing he's about the same age as you, too? Maybe a little older? Because that would make him a late starter. It's quite likely that he has issues about that. Maybe he believes that you're the only girl who'll ever want him, and that could be either a reason not to be attracted to other girls, or a reason to lie and say that he isn't.

[Double X]

Originally Posted by Acheron

oneitis

Do you actually believe that stuff? Yuck

[MacGuffin]

It's possible, although unusual. I would think he is probably telling the truth if you have been so honest and open about how you feel about each other looking at members of the opposite sex. If he persists in telling you the same thing, I doubt he is lying.

[Acheron]

Originally Posted by Double X

Do you actually believe that stuff? Yuck

Believe what stuff? It's a funny word I saw that seems like an accurate description of what happens to a lot of guys. You're saying no guy ever gets obsessed with one girl to the point that he doesn't care about others?

[Double X]

Originally Posted by Acheron

Believe what stuff? It's a funny word I saw that seems like an accurate description of what happens to a lot of guys. You're saying no guy ever gets obsessed with one girl to the point that he doesn't care about others?

I know what it means, the ladder theory is a miserable website though.

[Acheron]

Originally Posted by Double X

I know what it means, the ladder theory is a miserable website though.

Oh, I remember Ladder Theory. I used to love that site when I was younger. I thought it explained relationships perfectly. Now, I think it's mostly bullshit.

[SoSick]

I personally NEVER feel attracted to any man (including tv/movie stars) other than my bf simply because they pale in comparison to him. And other people don't find him attractive, so he thinks I'm lying. I know a lot of guys who have this happen to them. It is possible to love someone so much that you don't care about anyone else's looks.