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A relationship with my sisters Ex boyfriend?? Ugh- i need advice... - February 16th 2011, 03:29 AM

I never thought that I would need advice like this. I am mostly here to give advice to others and help others. But I really need advice.

About a week ago, my sisters ex boyfriend asked me to go to the movies with him as a date. So I didnt want to be rude and say no. I mean I have always liked him alot. My sister and him have been separated for a very long time now. But they have two children together. But I have custody of the children. Im 20. And this guy is 29. He is a very good guy, there is little to no problems with him. He left my sister because of her cheating and doing other stuff. But I just want to know if I should give it a try with this guy. Please help me... our movie date is this saturday. I just dont know what to do...
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Re: A relationship with my sisters Ex boyfriend?? Ugh- i need advice... - February 16th 2011, 06:13 AM

Does your sister have any involvement in her childrens' lives? If so, do NOT go on a date with this guy. If you want to go as friends, fine... but can you imagine what kind of an effect this would have on the children if their aunt started dating their dad, and their mom started to retaliate as a result?





   
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Re: A relationship with my sisters Ex boyfriend?? Ugh- i need advice... - February 16th 2011, 08:32 AM

If you have custody of the children... does that mean the dad doesn't? Usually it would pass to him, so what happened? Does your sister have any contact in her children's lives?

Honestly, I would say you're better off without that drama.



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Re: A relationship with my sisters Ex boyfriend?? Ugh- i need advice... - February 16th 2011, 10:00 AM

All I can say... don't do it. You're setting yourself up for more drama. Pick a guy that has nothing to do with past relationships especially with someone who has had relations to your sister with 2 kids already. I honestly believe that's wrong.
   
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Re: A relationship with my sisters Ex boyfriend?? Ugh- i need advice... - February 16th 2011, 01:39 PM

You have custody of the children? Why doesn't he? What's wrong with him?

I feel like there is more information to be learned...


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Re: A relationship with my sisters Ex boyfriend?? Ugh- i need advice... - February 17th 2011, 11:19 PM

I think you should talk to your sister. Definitely make sure this doesn't affect your relationship with her! Although she was the one that cheated, she may care if you go out with him or not. You need to ask yourself if you would go out with the guy if she didn't agree with it or if she was okay with it. If you don't have a strong relationship with her, I'd say still talk to her.

For you...ask yourself a few things. Do you want to be dating the guy that your sister went out with? You said you like him a lot...but just think about these things. He had 2 kids with your sister and now those kids are in your custody. Do you see yourself being serious with him? Why do you have custody of the kids and not him?
Overall, think about your own life, your sisters, and his. I'd advise against going on the date...


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Re: A relationship with my sisters Ex boyfriend?? Ugh- i need advice... - February 19th 2011, 02:40 AM

Thanks for all the advice. I canceled the date tonight. I still wasnt sure if I wanted to go on a date with him or not. Im not saying that I dont like him or anything, but I was thinking about the kids and spending some time with them. I decided to take them out instead. lol. I have custody of the children because of my sisters faults. She never comes to visit the kids, and when she does it is usually only for 30 minutes to an hour. And the reason why the father dosent have custody is because he waved his chance in getting them because he didnt think he could handle two boys on his own. I knew I could, so I told him that I wanted custody. So he didnt do anything wrong. He just didnt want to hurt the boys.However, he does have a good relationship with his boys. And my sister and I dont talk all that much, but I will talk to her about him and I possibly being in a relationship. I just dont know what I want to do. I will sit down with my sister and talk to her about it. Thanks for all of the advice everyone. I will let everyone know what I decide to do.
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